Truth yo. People act like just because you donate or raise money for something, you should get a free pass for something. If I raised money for child cancer during the day but beat my wife at night, no one would ever say ''oh but he's a good guy, he donates''. They would villaify me in an instant. So the whole idea of letting shit slide because of good deeds is horseshit.

I couldn't care less whatever gets them off or whatever they do with their money. But all that illegal shit that goes on just to be ignored is stupid. Who remembers all the times some prominent member of the community did good deeds and shit, but also were accused of (and usually proven) of doing shit like beastiality or sexual assault? And if you brought it up or anything about the community you were just being seen as negative? Shit, I am negative but I'm pretty sure telling people to kill themselves or forcing yourself on someone is still illegal.

This is why I don't identify with the community. ''Lol why don't you wanna be called a furry'' Because I don't want to be identified with people who can't keep their hands to themselves or people who can't stay out of animals and claim they are a good people because they donate. That's like murdering someone and going to church to repent, you're still a piece of shit. It's fully aware that not every furry does this, but it's enough to want to stay away.

I really resonate with this journal. I've been effectively lambasted by my local furry community for coming to my senses and sprouting morals after a particularly horrific childhood.
I called out nazis, zoophiles, pedos, and rapists; my reward? Having my name smeared, being labeled "crazy", and jettisoned from the local group chats until the head admin gives up his spot or dies holding the position.


Thanks furries. Sure am glad I joined back in 2009 at 15 years old. I've met such wonderful people like Rape Fox, Pedo Skunk, Drama-Cabra, and The Cowfucker™.

I think I'm thoroughly disgusted, but I will take the money, thanks...
Being around these people brought me down too, and now I feel like I genuinely belong. Congratulations to me I guess. I'm sure this is what 13 year old me wanted when I joined oekakis and drew fursonas.

Oh God this. I'm on the ''horrible childhood and thought joining the fandom would be good for me'' wagon. I think my biggest awakening was when an ex friend cheated on his then boyfriend with his own uncle and no one saw anything wrong with that.

Admittedly I never did anything like call out people because I never met them or heard about it months after it was taken care of. But to this day I'm yelled at and shit and get death threats for my crimes. What did I do? Tell people not to touch me, expect people to respond, and didn't put up with shit.

This is why I don't really bother trying to make furry friends. You need to fit some sort of disgusting cookie cutter mold and everyone is too up their friends ass to even bother talking like a normal being. Not to mention the giant amount of shit within itself.

I completely agree, I have had people trying to RP me for a long time (when I was 15 mind you) and it makes me sick seeing some furs defend pedophilia and zoophilia (blue dragon, and horse guy and so many more). As far as I'm concerned if people want to fornicate with a child or an animal I should be able to get the closest thing and attack them, then call the cops and watch them rot in a cell. I am lucky enough to have been trained by my parents in the art of "they touch you in a place, you attack and run".

Now I enjoy anthropomorphic characters but do I identify as a furry? No, and it seems weird coming from the curly haired lynx lady. As far as I'm concerned I don't want to associate with other furs because that leads to me being exposed to some fucked up shit (a guy who was borderline au... I'm not going to finish that... told me that when he sees a person walking their dog they immediately thought about zoophilia. He wasn't a furry, but he saw me drawing a goat person and thought I was ok with it. I informed my friends to avoid him like the plague and I made it very clear that if he tried to communicate with me I'd call the police) I am not ok with zoophilia or pedophilia; I enjoy cartoon animals, nothing more nothing less it's a hobby that a lot of people think is a fetish.

I am going to a convention, but the primary reason for it is for photos, dealers den, and artist alley. I read the COC and you know what they need to include? "AAE and FurCon do not permit membership or attendance by any individual who is a convicted sex offender, or appears on any federal or state sex offender registry. In addition, AAE and FurCon reserve the right, at the board’s discretion, to deny membership or attendance to anyone with a documented history of sexual violence, including inappropriate conduct towards minors. " That needs to happen when I see that appear I will be far more likely to reappear, and get more involved.

Honestly this entire fandom needs to change, first off convicted sex offenders should be outed by other furries. Secondly sex offenders shouldn't just change their fursona, and be forgiven for their atrocious acts. All they are doing is getting back in to target people yet again, they should have the internet ripped away from them (IP banning? anyone?). Honestly this has to stop the entire "Everybody is welcome" is the reason why I hate the use of furry terms "fursona" you mean character? "fursecution" you mean somebody knows you dress up as an animal, and made fun of you? Honestly if you are a furry and you have thoughts about fornication with kids or animals get therapy ASAP, stop the internet use, and move far away from where kids/animals are located (north pole? Naw, south pole). If I see a kid using this site I will have a talk with them about if somebody wants to RP block them, if somebody ask asl? block em'/report, somebody sends you porn block them/report them/send the message to the cops.

I will be donating to the charity but I don't do it to feel better (I'm an angry asshole and I fully admit it). I know I'm a horrible human being who has violent thoughts, but the thing is I do not act on those impulses (bipolar on meds, but they don't do jack less depressed but still as angry). I have been trying to tackle my rage but it is difficult there are times where I quietly have to mutter to myself and I'm afraid that somebody will hear my violent thoughts coming out through my mouth. I have been talking to a therapist and she thinks I overthink things, and when I overthink my brain greatly exaggerates.

I feel that. When it comes to the artistic aspect of furry content, I personally do care a lot about it. Drawing anthro animals is way easier and more enjoyable to me. But I don't bother bringing it up in other communities because I get the "furries? Like those people in leather dog masks and adult diapers who identify as puppies?" And the worst part is I can't even deny that. It's not a couple individuals who do that shit and give everyone else a bad name, either-- it's a disgusting amount of people who do it and all I can say is that I myself am not a part of it. There's shitty, shitty people in this fandom. Whether it's drawing pedophilia under "cub" and everyone treating it like that makes it different, or people taking roadkill home to fuck it in the name of being furries, every layer of the fandom has some blatant toxicity. As an art form, and from a business perspective, it's great. But as a community, I can't morally associate myself with it too deeply.

aye. i used to be one of those people who would retweet/share those "FURRIES PAY ARTISTS AND ENCOURAGE COMMISSIONS!' type posts but as the years passed and i see like...10 year old artwork of like a wolf eating hitler alive or whatever now get bombarded with 'ZOMG U NASTY ANTIFA CUCK U TRIGGERED?!?!?' by creepy ass nazi furries and centrist morons ??? Sometimes Rich Fandoms ....Is Worse.

Ah, yes, this is the roadblock everyone comes across sooner or later. Been here half my life now, and I have seen this a long time ago. It made me wanna quit too. But I was able to get over it. Mainly I do no associate with fur crowds and especially not cons. The people I know who are my friends may be furs, but they are also sane fucking human beings who have what this fandom seriously lacks, morality and common sense.

Honestly, pick the few gems and discard the trash. That's the way I found to keep myself sane in this insane little fuzzy fandom.

PREACH!

I was a furry a while ago. I don't consider myself one now per se. I have had a fairly good experience with furries thankfully but I KNOW the shit that goes on in the underground. A lot of my friends who still are furries have had negative experiences though. I wouldn't mind a fursuit as I am a cosplayer and cosplaying OCs is something I am ALL FOR.

That being said kiddos: Hugging furries in suit is fine, however give the suit and how it interracts with people a good look-over before you or your kids go hugging it. If the suit (and therefore the suiter) seems too clingy on people who are cringing, handsy, or getting in personal space uninvited, DO NOT LET YOUR KIDS NEAR.
Also keep an eye on the fur. Full-body matting may simply mean it is an older suit or the suiter may be a tad stinky because they do not wash the suit often enough or brush it. Hug with caution.
If the suit has especially bad matting on the paws, mouth, or nether regions or if the suiter is wearing shorts BEWARE! This suit may be used for nefarious deeds and shorts may imply that the suit is a murrsuit. Some characters do wear shorts for aesthetic reasons. Thats where you look for the highly specific matting. Hope this helps!

I am not a furry, however I am a cartoonist. Anthro characters are my specialty because of my past. I call them "sonas" because I put a lot of care into them and maybe a little piece of my personality too. This does not make me a furry and I do not wish to be associated.

(this is kinda long, i'm sorry)

I agree very much with this post so much and it's a lot of the prime reason why I haven't either I've met a lot of incredible people through being an artist and having identified as a furry for the short while that I did but sometimes it just gets to be too overwhelming.

A majority of the fandom is just obsessed with sex and talking about sex and random things that I honestly have never heard from any other fandom or group of people. It makes me sad that when I say I draw animals I get lumped in with a group whose main description to the general public is a bunch of people that dress up like animals and want to bang animals when that's not always the case.

I stayed mostly online for the longest time and hadn't really met anyone in person until a few years ago I was up north and was introduced to a group on Telegram for furs in that area that had monthly meet-ups and just generally were really neat! They talked about games and art and all kinds of things and it was nice to meet a group that was welcoming me in that didn't seem to be so obsessed with lewd behaviors. Fast forward to a couple weeks after meeting them and I was able to attend a meetup and for me that was so exciting! I'd never met any other furs in person aside from a few random chances throughout the years so I was ready to maybe find more people that I could relate to and share my talents with.

During that meetup there were underage people wearing dog collars and making woofing noises at people that were feeling them up (which nobody but myself spoke up against), people fondling each other while we watched movies in their living room, three people went into the back and had a threesome, and it was just too much. I was terribly heartbroken to find out that they were the prime examples of a stereotype I thought I had FINALLY gotten away from. I learned later that they had a telegram specifically for lewd chats and they were primarily active in that one but hadn't said anything because I'd said I was dating someone and wasn't looking to fool around with anyone. I probably shouldn't base all my experience on that one but it's the prime reason I no longer want to go to furry meet-ups or join groups for furs or anything like that outside of just general conventions. it weirds me out and to this day makes me super uncomfortable.

Between that and a year and some change long interaction with a customer that continually ONLY bought NSFW art from me but thought he was buying my friendship by doing so and when I said that he'd never really tried to get to know me past giving me money and the occassional "how are ya?" small-talk that never went anywhere before being re-directed back at his commissions he got upset but stayed around. Later he wanted me to draw some things I wasn't comfortable with so I declined it and I never heard from him again. While I was sad that I wouldn't be getting any further commissions I was so happy to finally be free of drawing constant porn. To this day I can't bring myself to draw it and haven't draw anything past being mildly suggestive or a goofy sketch since.

After all of that I can never call myself a furry anymore, and I never will.

(also sorry for commenting on an old journal but it was referenced by another artist I follow and I wanted to show my support and also share)

and i have seen more furries pitch a fit over this then non-furries. this old lame post here coulda stood to be written with less hyperbole, but i was simply describing my experience as an outsider sitting in the doorframe. i'm not arguing anyone else is wrong - i can't say that about anyone's lived experiences cus that just doesn't work - but like. i didnt write this for no reason lol

maybe its just bc im in a a bad mood, but if im being frank idk what you want me to do with your frustration. if you're seeing too much bullshit in the furry fandom, leave it. separate yourself from it. you can enjoy your animal people without its influence