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6 years ago
I don't know .it's like the people u know are growing old and never show up .and new furries has their own circle .and it's kinda difficult to fit in (generation gap maybe?)
anyone feels the same /? and how do u deal with this kind of stuff~~?
anyone feels the same /? and how do u deal with this kind of stuff~~?
I’d say stick with whoever make the same mutual effort to be connected with you
Yeah, that flow of feeling that no one is around anymore...or that your usual "group" has kind of drifted apart is a drag and feels bad. :- C
For how to deal with it, at least in my case, it was about going through fandoms that stream about stuff I enjoyed and just sitting in for a while, listening to the conversations and reading the chats until I felt that feeling of "Hey, these folks are pretty cool. And I am not getting too lost on what they are talking about! I will comment and see how it goes as the stream continues."
And more than a few new friends came from that exercise. ^^
I've been in the fandom for about 25 years. There have been lots of changes, but a lot of the people who went to conventions in the mid-1990s are still attending them now, so some things have remained the same, too.
I always try to reach out to new people online and make new friends. Older friends sometimes drift away from the fandom because they are too busy; people whom I met when we were young teenagers are now sending their own children to high school and college. We still keep in touch, though!
Keep reaching out to new people and finding friends. It's no different than providing nourishment to a living thing!
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I've met quite a bunch of fellas who I found out only liked me for my character and nothing else. Also ones who only wanted lewd talk and RP from me.
Just gotta keep the good, true friends close and keep those around longer. My circle is slowly growing with awesome buddies and I wouldn't mind having more in it.
Every business transaction is also a potential buddy in my opinion :D
You can join my circle any time ;3. Started and met furry peoplez around 2001.
I also have a Telegram Furry Artist group if you want to join. There are some artists there, and a good place to socialize and help others improve their art.
Note me if you wantz ;3.
It gets worse when you're older. Your friends move on and have settled down and its not easy making friends at all. You don't have the same environment as you did working a teenager's job, or school. Usually your at that age where everyone is settling down and have other goals and task at hand and no one has time to hang out, they are with their family and children.
I don't want children and getting out has been a task. I love to run and got involved in a running group but I was pretty awkward being a recluse and all they were sweet people. Its really hard, I truly empathize. It doesn't matter your personality or the type of person you are. You can be a social butterfly and still find it hard. It seems once you hit a certain age all the same aged people just disappear. It comes with age and it can be a challenge. I feel ya.
That is why online friends are the best! Just as long as you don't go stir crazy. Get out once in a while for some fresh air. Plus work out (which looks like you do), it kills depression.
I also noticed that my older art (which is ashamed to take a look nowadays) was more popular and it feels like people loved it more. It always inspired me to try something new and do more. Sometimes I get thoughts people make a contact with you simply because they want something from you, where something is your art. Because they always disappear later once they realize you are not going to take commissions and mostly draw stuff for yourself only. I can name the only one person who always was sincere and honest, and many times supported me despite we talk rarely (always have a kind of feel I should do it more like I owe him).
So, I think it is true: some people leave, new come, some of them move to other place.
I'd recommend to find modern socialized places (twitter/discord/telegram maybe). You, as a well-known artist will always find people to talk with, play games (if you play them), share something.
New friends or just persons you know will not fall on your head from nowhere. You need to work a bit to find them :)
It used to be you weren't a grey-muzzle till you were over 45, now 25 is often considered "over the hill".
Nowadays with the extreme tribalism in the fandom, it is even harder to find new people as they stick to their little internet, and similar interest, friend bubbles more and more than ever before.
About the only way to deal with it is just to realize that is the way things seem to go, especially now with internet culture and people treating other people as screen-names they can "ghost away" from at any point.
When it comes down to it, I found out it is much more rewarding to have a few real and close friends than it is to be "popular" in some big internet arena or fandom... And even then, friends come and go.
Streaming often, keeping up with people who joined your streams or hanging out on active forums might help (as well as telegram groups). That's how I met almost everyone initially and it helps me keep contact with them.
That being said, I tend to feel like I don't really "fit in" or hit it off with any particular group in the world of furry. I have a few good friends, for which I'm thankful. I just keep myself open and receptive to new possibilities along the journey.