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6 years ago
Edit- He's gone. We're separated. But I am leaving this here as a future reminder of the abuse he put me through. And hopefully others will learn from my situation and recognize their own abuse!
You should not have to beg and plead with your spouse to help with maintaining the house...
I just need to vent for a moment... So feel free to ignore this journal.
No one in this fucking house listens to me. I tell Yuki something and he forgets it seconds later. I have started to communicate with him through text only so that way when he says "you didn't tell me that" I can pull it up on my phone and prove him wrong. He also LOVES to argue with me! From baby things to medical things involving the animals to stupid little things. Excuse me! I have had two babies before, I think I know a thing or two. I ALSO have worked as a Vet Tech for 6 years, I think I KNOW A THING OR TWO! But no, no I don't... He still argues with me.
He'll also say that the way I do things is stupid, just because they are different than how he does things. And these are stupid little things as well! Like how I make my pancakes or that I put my egg shells in the sink until I'm done cooking, then clean them up... What the fuck is the big deal! Don't like how I cook, then you fucking cook! (He's only cooked maybe 3 times since we've moved in together) I have been cooking since I was in my late teens! I have been caring for babies since I was fucking 17!!! I'm just so sick of it!
And now, the twins will be here in 3 weeks or less and I am starving for Yuki's attention... He works Monday through Friday until 5, then on the weekends he finds other work to do... I have to tell him to come to bed around 10pm because he's on his computer and would most likely just fall asleep at his computer.
He took my oldest camping last weekend and went to Six Flags with her for a school trip, while I've either been home alone or going to doctor's appointments by myself...
My youngest has asked me "what are we doing this summer?" multiple times and my answer is the same. "I'm having babies. I don't know what you're doing."
I have to bitch and complain to get help around the house because I can't do chores anymore. I ask nicely, you know, how a good role model is supposed to do things, and I either get attitude or no help at all. I still fucking make dinner every night and can't get help with dishes. I literally cannot reach the sink to do dishes because my belly is so in the way. I take care of the animals all day long, Yuki has just started helping with them in the last few days even though I asked MONTHS ago if he could help with them... The laundry sits around and usually has to be rewashed. I can't carry more than 15 pounds and Yuki loves to cram as much laundry in the machine as he can, so it's well over 15 pounds... I can barely do the stairs from our bed room to the first floor...
Yet I have to get shitty in order to get help...
And things are only going to get more stressful from here on out. I'll be in the hospital for several days late June or early July. Our little boy will be in the hospital for a month or more because of the gastroschesis. Granted Yuki will be working from home for some time to help, but I can't even get help on the days he's off!
I'm just done. I'm done! I just want to have the babies and get this all over with!
You should not have to beg and plead with your spouse to help with maintaining the house...
I just need to vent for a moment... So feel free to ignore this journal.
No one in this fucking house listens to me. I tell Yuki something and he forgets it seconds later. I have started to communicate with him through text only so that way when he says "you didn't tell me that" I can pull it up on my phone and prove him wrong. He also LOVES to argue with me! From baby things to medical things involving the animals to stupid little things. Excuse me! I have had two babies before, I think I know a thing or two. I ALSO have worked as a Vet Tech for 6 years, I think I KNOW A THING OR TWO! But no, no I don't... He still argues with me.
He'll also say that the way I do things is stupid, just because they are different than how he does things. And these are stupid little things as well! Like how I make my pancakes or that I put my egg shells in the sink until I'm done cooking, then clean them up... What the fuck is the big deal! Don't like how I cook, then you fucking cook! (He's only cooked maybe 3 times since we've moved in together) I have been cooking since I was in my late teens! I have been caring for babies since I was fucking 17!!! I'm just so sick of it!
And now, the twins will be here in 3 weeks or less and I am starving for Yuki's attention... He works Monday through Friday until 5, then on the weekends he finds other work to do... I have to tell him to come to bed around 10pm because he's on his computer and would most likely just fall asleep at his computer.
He took my oldest camping last weekend and went to Six Flags with her for a school trip, while I've either been home alone or going to doctor's appointments by myself...
My youngest has asked me "what are we doing this summer?" multiple times and my answer is the same. "I'm having babies. I don't know what you're doing."
I have to bitch and complain to get help around the house because I can't do chores anymore. I ask nicely, you know, how a good role model is supposed to do things, and I either get attitude or no help at all. I still fucking make dinner every night and can't get help with dishes. I literally cannot reach the sink to do dishes because my belly is so in the way. I take care of the animals all day long, Yuki has just started helping with them in the last few days even though I asked MONTHS ago if he could help with them... The laundry sits around and usually has to be rewashed. I can't carry more than 15 pounds and Yuki loves to cram as much laundry in the machine as he can, so it's well over 15 pounds... I can barely do the stairs from our bed room to the first floor...
Yet I have to get shitty in order to get help...
And things are only going to get more stressful from here on out. I'll be in the hospital for several days late June or early July. Our little boy will be in the hospital for a month or more because of the gastroschesis. Granted Yuki will be working from home for some time to help, but I can't even get help on the days he's off!
I'm just done. I'm done! I just want to have the babies and get this all over with!
Asalvus
~asalvus
I'm sorry that things have been such a pain over there... Sounds like tensions are all pretty high with the new babies on the way, I really hope that things get better soon! *Internet Hug* Ptolemy and I wish you and your family the best of luck. It sounds like Yuki is starting to realize that he actually needs to help out, that's good news, if later than one would prefer, here's hoping he catches on quickly and helps take care of everything while you're out of commission... Stay strong!
Aakosir
~aakosir
OP
Thanks you guys. We've all been very stressed, but I honestly think he's taking it harder than he lets on. He's stepped up recently by taking care of the dogs and most house chores, but he's got a lot on his plate too... It's going to be chaos here in a couple weeks.
Asalvus
~asalvus
I'm hoping that things will settle quickly. Glad to hear that he's picking up the dogs and the chores, that definitely helps! Shame that things are starting to pile up for him as well, though... Best of luck to you and the whole family, I know that you'll be able to make it through this! Can't really do much to help, but feel free to PM me if you need someone to listen.
