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6 years ago
Ok so , i'll cut right to it because i'm not sure how to word it. I'll try by listing bullet points. basically winging it
My birthday is coming up and i'm having anxiety and worries about it like every year. (September 30th)
Every year my family pretty much forget/doesn't care (like not even saying "happy birthday zez" ). I have this memory of trying to remind my dad that it was my birthday and he just shrugged and said "yea , I know." and i didn't push any further.
Every year about a month after my birthday its my younger sister's birthday. She gets plenty of things , a phone, party, cake , money , and a few gifts.
When i confront them (family) about this the answer boils down to "do it yourself/why should we get you anything"
It's always depressing and i don't really get anything. I feel selfish for even wanting anything sometimes but then they get whatever they want and then i get a but envious/depressed because of "what could've been"
I don't have a job (yet. I've been applying everywhere since forever and i think i have a decent chance at a recent one i had an interview for. i never called back and they just told me to wait for them) and thus don't have money. (and if you ask about "What about all the art you get!" its like 95% gifts/raffles/requests , Watching so many people lets me see so many raffles and open request journals , its just there, i don't beg , i don't ask , people are just very generous.)
Basically what i'm asking is... Is it okay to ask for donation so i can get myself something nice for once?
I feel terrible for asking and i feel like " I don't even deserve to ask for money from people, why would they care, who would even spare money for nothing in return"
I have a lot of doubts and fears about posting this. Hoping it'll go well.
I'm not posting a donation link unless i feel like its okay to ask.
EDIT, Due to overwhelming support , I'll post a donation link
https://www.paypal.me/zezuar
https://www.paypal.me/zezuar
https://www.paypal.me/zezuar
(please choose "family and friends option because i fear charge backs ;3;)
My birthday is coming up and i'm having anxiety and worries about it like every year. (September 30th)
Every year my family pretty much forget/doesn't care (like not even saying "happy birthday zez" ). I have this memory of trying to remind my dad that it was my birthday and he just shrugged and said "yea , I know." and i didn't push any further.
Every year about a month after my birthday its my younger sister's birthday. She gets plenty of things , a phone, party, cake , money , and a few gifts.
When i confront them (family) about this the answer boils down to "do it yourself/why should we get you anything"
It's always depressing and i don't really get anything. I feel selfish for even wanting anything sometimes but then they get whatever they want and then i get a but envious/depressed because of "what could've been"
I don't have a job (yet. I've been applying everywhere since forever and i think i have a decent chance at a recent one i had an interview for. i never called back and they just told me to wait for them) and thus don't have money. (and if you ask about "What about all the art you get!" its like 95% gifts/raffles/requests , Watching so many people lets me see so many raffles and open request journals , its just there, i don't beg , i don't ask , people are just very generous.)
Basically what i'm asking is... Is it okay to ask for donation so i can get myself something nice for once?
I feel terrible for asking and i feel like " I don't even deserve to ask for money from people, why would they care, who would even spare money for nothing in return"
I have a lot of doubts and fears about posting this. Hoping it'll go well.
I'm not posting a donation link unless i feel like its okay to ask.
EDIT, Due to overwhelming support , I'll post a donation link
https://www.paypal.me/zezuar
https://www.paypal.me/zezuar
https://www.paypal.me/zezuar
(please choose "family and friends option because i fear charge backs ;3;)
Granted, we are at an age where we have to earn our happy birthdays... But it sucks when nobody cares...
Assembling your own party, getting your own friends, playing diaper-twister- err... Well, you get the idea.
Given all the responses you got? seems like you're on the right track, hmm?
You deserve every bit of love and gifts your sister does from your parents.
I wouldn't say celebrating your date of birth is selfish. It's the one day where you get treated essentially like a prince or princess. There's nothing wrong with that.
You don't need to feel ashamed for posting this, and I would certainly post a donation link.
Surely at least a couple of friends of yours, whether on here or on other sites, would be more than willing to donate a few bucks so someone can have a special day.
I hope things get better for you. :)
also, in advance in case I forget, happy birthday zez, you cutie *hugs*
thanks a ton~