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Playing Catch-up and a Cry For Help
6 years ago
TLDR at end.
Hello everyone!
Happy New Year to everyone, and I hope your 2020 is leagues better than your 2019.
I have been very MIA the last few months and haven’t had the best communication with my commissioners. I would like to catch everyone up on what’s going on in my life, and what has happened. I will post a TLDR at the bottom for whoever doesn’t want to read all of this. I will try to cut out unnecessary details to shorten this as much as possible (because it's a doozy)
I’d met this person on FA a few years ago, and we had become good friends. In July 2019 we were starting to struggle a little bit because we were stuck paying unreasonable rent prices for a place we couldn’t even be in 98% of the day and could not keep or prepare food in. They had asked several times if we needed a roommate and I had always said no, that I didn’t want to live with roomates again. Well, when we started to struggle I started to open myself back up to the possibility of a roommate. After talking to my hubby, I asked this person if they were still interested. They said yes and we made the decision to move in together. At some point either right before or right after this conversation, our car died. Transmission or something blew, it was a little 1996 Integra with like 200,000 miles on it and was totalled.
This friend had a vehicle they were trying to get off their hands, because they couldn’t afford the monthly payments anymore. They told us if we took over payments for 6 months and could prove it, the bank would let us take over the payments and all would be good. Cool! And we didn’t get or ask for anything in writing because this was someone we had been good friends with for a few years. (Dumb mistake.)
Except that wasn’t the case. A few months of life later and they tell us supposedly it was not the bank who said that, and now it’s getting repo’d because they broke their contract, blah blah blah. A lot of fuckery and a few days later, we had no car.
This was after 1) This person tried to guilt trip me and say that they were only helping me because they had feelings for me. 2) I had just paid for $300 worth of car insurance on it two days before. 3) They knew I was mere weeks away from giving birth. 4) This person had not been paying any of their rent, utility, or internet payments since moving in either. (But somehow did buy art commissions during this time)
Both me and my hubby work delivery jobs. No car, no work. We scrambled around town for days, looking for a vehicle, spending loads of extra money to get places and apply for loans etc. It was rough, it was exhausting, and I was 9 months pregnant.
Now we told this person that we would be switching the car insurance over, because yknow, we paid for it. This person claimed that was all fine and dandy because the car was being repo’d anyway. After begging and applying everywhere, we finally got a loan. (No credit) The DAY we go to pick up the car, boom. Locked out of the insurance. Now I had to drop another $300 on car insurance that day, or I couldn't drive me vehicle off the lot. To top it off we had to split minute switch phone companies as well because he was the owner of the account we were on as well. -$$$
All of this is how I ended my November. Hubby got back to work, I was put on bedrest due to immense pain. December 2nd I had my little boy. His oxygen was low when he was born and he kept spiking low grade fevers so we were in the hospital for several extra days. Tests, XRays, etc. My husband could not work during this time. Due to the incredibly traumatic experience and mistreatment I received with my first child I was terrified to be in the hospital alone. Baby came home on oxygen. He hated it and it was a struggle to keep it on. We could not get more than 7 feet from the tank so it had to be carried EVERYWHERE.
Things have finally settled down now on week 4 and we are starting to get back to a routine. The only person who has been able to work this entire time is my hubby, and he couldn’t work as much as he wanted to with the baby, and with the holidays. He is back to working every day, and I am taking over some hours in the early morning or evening once he is home to bring in what money we can now that I can get back to work (doctor still wants me home another two weeks but I can’t afford that).
To make matters worse, my son is having some issues with his tummy, and I cannot produce enough to keep up with feeding him. I am working on doing things that are supposed to help my supply but until that works, he is being supplemented with some formula.
The problem is, these last two months took everything we had in our savings to stay alive. After being heavily screwed over by someone we thought was our friend, having a baby and having to stay in the hospital longer than we wanted, bringing home our newborn on oxygen, and the holidays… were broke. And we didn’t even buy a single person a gift for Christmas. Not one.
My son needs formula, try as I might I just CAN’T exclusively breastfeed him. He is currently attached to me for like 16 hours a day trying to get full. Because he’s constantly stuck to my chest, it makes it very difficult to work on art as I have limited time But I’ve been learning to draw around him. (I have an appointment for WIC but the soonest they had is still two weeks out. I am on my own to buy formula until then.) We got a sample can in the mail, but that has now run out. The formula he’s been on is $40/can. Formula is stupidly expensive. I believe the off brand cans are about $25.
Rent? Well that was due yesterday and we’re a few hundred bucks short of making that happen. And then there’s car insurance that we need or we can’t work.
We are doing our best to grind out every little thing that we can right now to make money by tomorrow, including selling some of our stuff. But, it doesn’t look like it’s going to be enough.
Any one of you who know me, knows I do NOT like to ask for help. I have turned down many donations in the past. I just don’t like taking money without working for it. Which is how I have gotten myself buried in commissions when times got tough over these last few months just desperately trying to make it.
I will be opening up for a few colored sketches (like this) for $10, but any donations are also welcome at this time. Only sketch commissions right now as I am limited on time. Will re-list some adopts today too.
I’m sorry if I’ve let anyone down these last several months, please get in contact with me.
Thank you friends, and I apologize for the long post. Happy New Years, and I love you all.
Send help to:
https://ko-fi.com/Lovelyg4m3r
smills1995[at]live.com on PayPal
TLDR: Bad friend/roommate made bad promises. Screwed us out of a car and all payments we’d made. Locked us out of insurance, didn’t pay their rent. We spent all savings to get a new car. And new insurance after we JUST paid for it.($300) We were stuck without a car and no work for over a week. Then I was put on bed rest. Baby came. Baby sick, on oxygen. Baby comes home on oxygen. Not making enough food for baby, always hungry, stuck to me all day long, doing art hard until baby gets formula. WIC appointment in two weeks. Savings gone, no Christmas. Rent and car insurance due. Cheap commissions. Work has been almost impossible last month and a half to two months. Halp
Hello everyone!
Happy New Year to everyone, and I hope your 2020 is leagues better than your 2019.
I have been very MIA the last few months and haven’t had the best communication with my commissioners. I would like to catch everyone up on what’s going on in my life, and what has happened. I will post a TLDR at the bottom for whoever doesn’t want to read all of this. I will try to cut out unnecessary details to shorten this as much as possible (because it's a doozy)
I’d met this person on FA a few years ago, and we had become good friends. In July 2019 we were starting to struggle a little bit because we were stuck paying unreasonable rent prices for a place we couldn’t even be in 98% of the day and could not keep or prepare food in. They had asked several times if we needed a roommate and I had always said no, that I didn’t want to live with roomates again. Well, when we started to struggle I started to open myself back up to the possibility of a roommate. After talking to my hubby, I asked this person if they were still interested. They said yes and we made the decision to move in together. At some point either right before or right after this conversation, our car died. Transmission or something blew, it was a little 1996 Integra with like 200,000 miles on it and was totalled.
This friend had a vehicle they were trying to get off their hands, because they couldn’t afford the monthly payments anymore. They told us if we took over payments for 6 months and could prove it, the bank would let us take over the payments and all would be good. Cool! And we didn’t get or ask for anything in writing because this was someone we had been good friends with for a few years. (Dumb mistake.)
Except that wasn’t the case. A few months of life later and they tell us supposedly it was not the bank who said that, and now it’s getting repo’d because they broke their contract, blah blah blah. A lot of fuckery and a few days later, we had no car.
This was after 1) This person tried to guilt trip me and say that they were only helping me because they had feelings for me. 2) I had just paid for $300 worth of car insurance on it two days before. 3) They knew I was mere weeks away from giving birth. 4) This person had not been paying any of their rent, utility, or internet payments since moving in either. (But somehow did buy art commissions during this time)
Both me and my hubby work delivery jobs. No car, no work. We scrambled around town for days, looking for a vehicle, spending loads of extra money to get places and apply for loans etc. It was rough, it was exhausting, and I was 9 months pregnant.
Now we told this person that we would be switching the car insurance over, because yknow, we paid for it. This person claimed that was all fine and dandy because the car was being repo’d anyway. After begging and applying everywhere, we finally got a loan. (No credit) The DAY we go to pick up the car, boom. Locked out of the insurance. Now I had to drop another $300 on car insurance that day, or I couldn't drive me vehicle off the lot. To top it off we had to split minute switch phone companies as well because he was the owner of the account we were on as well. -$$$
All of this is how I ended my November. Hubby got back to work, I was put on bedrest due to immense pain. December 2nd I had my little boy. His oxygen was low when he was born and he kept spiking low grade fevers so we were in the hospital for several extra days. Tests, XRays, etc. My husband could not work during this time. Due to the incredibly traumatic experience and mistreatment I received with my first child I was terrified to be in the hospital alone. Baby came home on oxygen. He hated it and it was a struggle to keep it on. We could not get more than 7 feet from the tank so it had to be carried EVERYWHERE.
Things have finally settled down now on week 4 and we are starting to get back to a routine. The only person who has been able to work this entire time is my hubby, and he couldn’t work as much as he wanted to with the baby, and with the holidays. He is back to working every day, and I am taking over some hours in the early morning or evening once he is home to bring in what money we can now that I can get back to work (doctor still wants me home another two weeks but I can’t afford that).
To make matters worse, my son is having some issues with his tummy, and I cannot produce enough to keep up with feeding him. I am working on doing things that are supposed to help my supply but until that works, he is being supplemented with some formula.
The problem is, these last two months took everything we had in our savings to stay alive. After being heavily screwed over by someone we thought was our friend, having a baby and having to stay in the hospital longer than we wanted, bringing home our newborn on oxygen, and the holidays… were broke. And we didn’t even buy a single person a gift for Christmas. Not one.
My son needs formula, try as I might I just CAN’T exclusively breastfeed him. He is currently attached to me for like 16 hours a day trying to get full. Because he’s constantly stuck to my chest, it makes it very difficult to work on art as I have limited time But I’ve been learning to draw around him. (I have an appointment for WIC but the soonest they had is still two weeks out. I am on my own to buy formula until then.) We got a sample can in the mail, but that has now run out. The formula he’s been on is $40/can. Formula is stupidly expensive. I believe the off brand cans are about $25.
Rent? Well that was due yesterday and we’re a few hundred bucks short of making that happen. And then there’s car insurance that we need or we can’t work.
We are doing our best to grind out every little thing that we can right now to make money by tomorrow, including selling some of our stuff. But, it doesn’t look like it’s going to be enough.
Any one of you who know me, knows I do NOT like to ask for help. I have turned down many donations in the past. I just don’t like taking money without working for it. Which is how I have gotten myself buried in commissions when times got tough over these last few months just desperately trying to make it.
I will be opening up for a few colored sketches (like this) for $10, but any donations are also welcome at this time. Only sketch commissions right now as I am limited on time. Will re-list some adopts today too.
I’m sorry if I’ve let anyone down these last several months, please get in contact with me.
Thank you friends, and I apologize for the long post. Happy New Years, and I love you all.
Send help to:
https://ko-fi.com/Lovelyg4m3r
smills1995[at]live.com on PayPal
TLDR: Bad friend/roommate made bad promises. Screwed us out of a car and all payments we’d made. Locked us out of insurance, didn’t pay their rent. We spent all savings to get a new car. And new insurance after we JUST paid for it.($300) We were stuck without a car and no work for over a week. Then I was put on bed rest. Baby came. Baby sick, on oxygen. Baby comes home on oxygen. Not making enough food for baby, always hungry, stuck to me all day long, doing art hard until baby gets formula. WIC appointment in two weeks. Savings gone, no Christmas. Rent and car insurance due. Cheap commissions. Work has been almost impossible last month and a half to two months. Halp
Also if you're needing specific items, an Amazon wish list that allows people to buy you items that will ship to your address may be helpful here too. No transit needed to get the items then