I hear this a lot from people in and outside of friend groups and church. “Let your experiences with those who’ve wronged you or made you feel lesser give you strength to prove them wrong.” It’s true you can always find ways to be a better person, but there’s a difference between someone who is at peace and someone who is a hypocrite. Don’t go posting stuff on your profile playing your friends and followers like a naïve and gullible flock of sheep expecting them to change, if you’re entitled and content enough on repeating the same string of cyclical stubbornness and not changing your behavior. That’s textbook insanity. You can’t change how others live their lives. You have the power to change only yourself whether you have a relationship with Christ or not. Everybody just wants to yell and scream at each other these days wanting to destroy each other’s livelihoods without thinking what it’s like to be the other person or what they’re going through. Showing no sympathy for anyone but themselves. All this self-pity, guilt-tripping, and online venting will get you no where. No one of us should be writing a thesis online to get a simple point across time and time again to make someone understand. I’m saying this as brutally honest as I can. Not everyone is awful.

I have Aspergers Syndrome and in case some of you don’t know. This month is Autism Awareness Month. People like me with autism struggle when it comes to understanding social cues and stepping out of our comfort zones. Some often struggle worse than others but it doesn’t mean we’re stupid, insane and need help, or desperate for attention as some people like to claim. As someone who’s grown up with this stigma, I’ve been sick hearing from people that there’s something wrong with me and them trying to make me into something I’m not. Aspies like me aren’t here to harass you, we just want to socialize and have fun like everybody else but it can be difficult. Especially during a time like this with social distancing we’re used to living most of our days in our safe space. We all have problems, but there’s a huge difference between toxic people and those who struggle with a disability or other illness. Yet some of us ignore these things and hurt people with disabilities, in ways they shouldn’t. They fight and/or call them names they shouldn’t whether face to face or online. You know. Words like delusional, space-headed, derpy, stupid, or even the dreaded R-word. You know which one. This behavior is called ableism, and it hurts. If you don’t like being harassed and teased then why would you do it to someone else? It makes you no different from the person(s) who hurt you in your past interactions If you have questions about it, in a calm and sincere way we can talk this over or do a nice friendly activity together. Play a video game, play music, draw, get food, whatever works. If that doesn’t work we could always book a therapy session or push comes to shove tell an authority figure like your parents, the police, your lawyer, your priest, your rabbi, your imam, or someone else you trust. To get help or just to talk. We’re growing up and shouldn’t be fighting. Life this side of heaven is already tough. Just because we live in a cruel world doesn’t mean we should act the same way. Love your neighbor as yourself, as Christ loves you. This isn’t me forcing religion or morals on anyone, but you deserve to live happy lives. All crap aside. You’re beautiful fearfully and wonderfully made as you are. If you need someone to seek for help like I’ve been, don’t be afraid to. Because fear is a liar. ❤️