even if the hate over cboy and dgirl etc are justified, herm/hermaphrodite is actually a scientific term that just means having both male and female parts, either naturally or as a mutation. theres no reason to be upset about that one just the same as calling someone a homo sapien

I just wish people wouldn't be offended for others. I appreciate the gesture that these people want to be so protective of the trans community. I just want to be able to chose what I am and am not offended by rather than cis people or other members telling me what I should be upset about.
Have a nice day dearie!

I could recommend an artist to you if you are having trouble. https://www.furaffinity.net/user/naivetabby is a great artist who draws such characters without any issues, and uses such terms. Just gotta be lucky to catch them when they are open! Oh! And another Artist i can recommend is https://www.furaffinity.net/user/pixelflare who i'm am getting a piece from right now! Just don't let this keep you down! You can do it.

Thank you dearie for the recommendations! Have a wonderful day! :3

Herm master race \o/

Honestly though, people really need to get their shit together and stop being precious little snowflakes.

Lately im finding trans is a fad, i can say that, i am technically trans but dont feel like transitioning would change anything for me. i've known people who are full on fuck anything with a hole male then puts on a female fursuit or crossdresses then "OMG IM A GIRL" which i dont think is how it works. also one of my favourite artists is like "i dont draw anything associated with dick girl, c-boy, herm bla bla bla" well done on removing quite a lot of customers

It could be a possibility that people are wanting to explore more about their identity. While it being trans and being a transhumanist are two different things, I think it helps the trans community as society and culture takes away the stigma of wanting to alter you sex. People need to remember that the bodies we have are not "us". Our brains are what makes a person. The fleshbags we walk around in are just a tool to help us interact with the world and experience it. At least that is how I see things.
Anyways, nice to hear from you again dearie! :3

Couldn't have said it better!
Makes me wish more people would dare to look at it this way rather than clinging on their simple perception of what makes "us".
I suppose many people's thoughts never go down that path as most are comfortable in their bodies..

Trans terminology is used to describe trans people.
Fetish terminology is used to describe fetishes.

If you think that being trans is just a fetish to get your rocks off, then keep using fetish terms.
Just don't be surprised then when trans people avoid you.

I think assuming that people use terminology in such a fashion ignores the complexity upbringing. People don't walk around with a dictionary and use words in a literal sense of their definitions. Some fetish terminology can be more descriptive that the actual accepted terminology. It gives people more in general ideas about the characteristics of an individual rather than having to describe every aspect of their body which to some can be more invasive.

Maybe I am missing something more to this, though that is what is great about dialogue. We can chat things out to better understand each other, come to an understanding and empathize with each other. And if each others position doesn't change, then all well, we can still go our own separate ways as there can be more pressing concerns in life to deal with.

Hopefully my thought process makes sense, my brain can go off track quite often. @.@

Not everyone knows the difference and that's exactly why there's so much talk about it so much lately - to educate.
Many people, including myself have learned about the fetish terms first.
Sooner or later we find out or are told about better terms to use.

"First contact" with this really makes a difference.
I've found out on my own and was happy to have ways to describe myself and my characters with respectful language.
Sadly many people are very aggressive and ironically disrespectful when trying to get others to use these terms.
Being told you're wrong and horrible and offensive and whatnot, obviously isn't exactly encouraging.

I'm disappointed with how unforgiving many people are with this.
It leads to a lot of conflict and divide in a community that should be one to support one-another.
We're few enough as it is...

When you use non-fetish terminology it shouldn't be because people demand it.
It should come from understanding what message is sent with the words.
It's easy to track the not-particularly-respectful pornographic origin of words like dickgirl, cuntboy, futa and shemale.
They're as sexually objectifying as slut, whore, etc.
I wouldn't call a cis-woman a "pussywoman". Same way I don't want to be called a dickgirl.
I don't see any reason to use those words other than to intentionally upset others.

Herm is a different case - one that I personally don't find offensive.
While primarily used in porn nowadays, it does ultimately originate as a neutral descriptor.
There might be better solutions for the term, but I don't have the answer to that tbh.
Maybe some of the people who tell you not to use it have a better word?

To sum it up: Dickgirl, cuntboy, futa and shemale are just unacceptable. Those terms are as objectifying and disrespectful as words like slut, whore, etc.
Herm is on a weird middle ground as we don't have a word to exactly replace it and it doesn't originate from porn.
As long as you don't act like ThatGuyWithMultipleCharacters below then you should be fine lol 😅

I dont see what there is to be confused about here, the general opinion of these terms Is changing and the fact is they are now being considered offensive.
If using offensive terms is important to you then you need to accept that people will be offended ignore them and move on.

however if you are not happy with people being upset with you then you are the one that needs to change, not them, you liking the increaingly more common perception of these terms is irrelevant.

I would suggest maybe using "intersex" to describe your character, however at the end of the day you can call your character whatever you like, but being stubborn and whining when people are upset isnt a good look for you. do as you will.

Dude the trans community 75% of the time is a fucking joke. They get their kick from being hurt by a fucking word. I'd tell them to grow a pair or a vagina and grow the fuck up because being triggered isn't going to help you in anyway because usually they're irrational thinkers and mob mentality half the time over small shit like a word. Best you can do is ignore the ones that make a big deal about it because it's useless reasoning with idiots

Hm... I don't think I would approach such an angle. I do disagree with the community but I don't think I would try to belittle them for disagreeing with me. If people want to get upset with me then that is their choice. I got more important matters to deal with, like holy fuck, most people will not use their turn signals when driving. ;n;

Ignoring is a solution, though I do like to understand how others think. So it is always upsetting when people just shut me off rather than wanting to discuss things. It is like a one star review with no comments about the service. It gives you no understanding of the problem and isn't helpful at all. A constructive dialogue is something I always welcome.