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My mental health has shattered
5 years ago
SO, my brother is back on drugs(like he even stopped) and is causing more drama for his soon to be ex-wife and his 2 children. I know this is alot to say online, I dabbled on twitter with the subject, but on here I can use more words. So, My family and I have been dragged through the wringer with my eldest brother and his family. Back i think almost two years ago, he found the wrong crowd and got involved with drugs.....please don't get involved with drugs, it tears families apart....including mine.
Bringing it back to the present, We are now getting texts from his wife saying he is abusing her, mainly mentally, and now starting to be physically...We have had her and the kids at our house a few times because of it...but we can't keep doing this for her as much as we love to see them out of danger, our house just isn't big enough..... The wife though is just as bad as my brother but in a different aspect, she loves playing the victim, as in, ever advice we give her, she thinks of excuses after excuses.....At this point I just want to slap her and tell her that it isn't about her anymore, it is about her own children. The mental abuse has gotten so terrible in their house that my 7 year old nephew, HE IS 7 YEARS OLD, went and said to my brother, his father, that he hopes the cops take him away. Then he yells back at his son and throws a broken beer bottle and gets him covered in beer. And now more drama later, CPS has opened a case against both of them and now we are just practically waiting for the proverbial shit to hit the fan. And what made me break down the worst is that when we warned my brother of this, he said that he wanted CPS to get involved, that he practically doesn't love his own children......This...THIS RIGHT HERE CRUSHED ME!!!!
I am sorry to go into detail about what I am currently going through. the stress has caused me to break down, and even have really bad nausea and slight depression.... I haven't really been myself for 2 years with him dragging not just me through this...but his own children who have never seen a structured, calm environment.....I can't imagine how my poor nephew feels knowing that his own father doesn't love him....
For all my current commissioners and patrons....Art will for sure be slowed down to a crawl as I work through things and build my drive back up to draw with quality. I appreciate your patience during this rough time in my life, I love you guys......I will still be drawing and active, just, slower...
Bringing it back to the present, We are now getting texts from his wife saying he is abusing her, mainly mentally, and now starting to be physically...We have had her and the kids at our house a few times because of it...but we can't keep doing this for her as much as we love to see them out of danger, our house just isn't big enough..... The wife though is just as bad as my brother but in a different aspect, she loves playing the victim, as in, ever advice we give her, she thinks of excuses after excuses.....At this point I just want to slap her and tell her that it isn't about her anymore, it is about her own children. The mental abuse has gotten so terrible in their house that my 7 year old nephew, HE IS 7 YEARS OLD, went and said to my brother, his father, that he hopes the cops take him away. Then he yells back at his son and throws a broken beer bottle and gets him covered in beer. And now more drama later, CPS has opened a case against both of them and now we are just practically waiting for the proverbial shit to hit the fan. And what made me break down the worst is that when we warned my brother of this, he said that he wanted CPS to get involved, that he practically doesn't love his own children......This...THIS RIGHT HERE CRUSHED ME!!!!
I am sorry to go into detail about what I am currently going through. the stress has caused me to break down, and even have really bad nausea and slight depression.... I haven't really been myself for 2 years with him dragging not just me through this...but his own children who have never seen a structured, calm environment.....I can't imagine how my poor nephew feels knowing that his own father doesn't love him....
For all my current commissioners and patrons....Art will for sure be slowed down to a crawl as I work through things and build my drive back up to draw with quality. I appreciate your patience during this rough time in my life, I love you guys......I will still be drawing and active, just, slower...
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I'm very sorry you have to put up with this, Colby. If you feel the need to take a break and close off commissions for awhile, then please do so!! Art can always wait! But your mental well being cannot! If you need to talk to somebody, you know where to find me! **hugs tight**
I fear your brother is in the same place; too deep into his addiction and his family is making him so deeply unhappy that whilst he won't leave them due to a lack of courage, he's happy to let the authorities do the heavy lifting and break up his home for him.
There is no easy answer here, especially for those caught in the crossfire (like yourself and your nephew). All I hope is that a peaceful resolution is found swiftly for the sake of you both.
*huggles lots*
I dont say this lightly There was a point in my life where CPS got involved with my family and it really helped focus my parents...or at the very least helped them face the issues they had been ignoring. Our family ended up staying together but there were certainly points where i did sit and think as a 14 year old maybe we would be better off someplace else. I hope your brother can sort himself out for everyones sakes
do what you can within reason if it makes you feel better, alright? you aren't responsible for fixing your brothers mistakes. lastly, take it easy. mental health can be an overwhelming monster to fight against if you let it get too out of control. i have a panic disorder & diagnosed depression of my own, so i'm here for ya if you need me. idk about you, but sometimes i find it calming to talk with people who can relate to my situation. reminds me that i'm not alone and all~
it sucks that covid has fucked everything up recently, and i really hope you can get to see a doctor soon! medication does a great deal for me, to the point that only really major life changes bring back the bad panic attack symptoms (like when my dad died last year) so i'm a pretty bid advocate for at least tryin them to see if they help!