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So I'm 32 now. Unleash the secret
5 years ago
Pretend I posted this on Saturday. It's been a busy few days. Wanted to do this as a birthday "present" to myself. Missed by a few days.....
In addition to me mostly just lurking and rarely ever commenting, I wanted to take some steps towards un-separating different aspects of my life.
Quite a few years ago I created a private account because I felt art I liked deserved a favorite. But I didn't want that associated with "me". 2 years ago for my 30th birthday, I made a one way association. I linked from my other account back to this one. Today, for my 32nd birthday, I'm completing the loop and putting a reciprocal link over here.
For those who still check this site and haven't already found it,
datsecret is me. It's been me all along. I ended up creating two characters that I don't have nearly the same emotional connection to as I do with Deth. I felt freer to explore shenanigans I wouldn't touch with Deth.
Honestly, it was a huge part of my growth over the last few years. I still have a long way to go, but I'm working on it. Some things have shifted away from being a secret. Some things I have become more comfortable around.
There are many reasons I wanted to keep things close to the chest. One of the big ones is that I find imaginary fantasy sexy stuff to be real nice, but IRL sexy stuff is often stressful and anxiety inducing for me. I strongly prefer to avoid the topic save for with just a few people I'm okay with. I didn't want people to reach out with adult art/activity as their primary common interest. I didn't want people to propose we do the sex. I didn't want to be seen as anything other than SFW, because I didn't want to deal with the implications of that. I didn't want to disappoint people by turning their advances down.
I'm working on growing, setting boundaries, and being more comfortable with ~me~. One of the big AHA! moments was finding the term autochorissexual. I have had this link open in a browser tab for over a year for easy access: https://asexuals.fandom.com/wiki/Autochorissexual
It's the closest thing to a label I've ever felt okay identifying with. It gave me a lot of insight into myself and learning how to traverse the conflicting thoughts in my head.
Anyway. Feel free to go take a look. And now back to lurking for quite a few months before I share another small update. (Really I am just more active on Twitter)
In addition to me mostly just lurking and rarely ever commenting, I wanted to take some steps towards un-separating different aspects of my life.
Quite a few years ago I created a private account because I felt art I liked deserved a favorite. But I didn't want that associated with "me". 2 years ago for my 30th birthday, I made a one way association. I linked from my other account back to this one. Today, for my 32nd birthday, I'm completing the loop and putting a reciprocal link over here.
For those who still check this site and haven't already found it,
datsecret is me. It's been me all along. I ended up creating two characters that I don't have nearly the same emotional connection to as I do with Deth. I felt freer to explore shenanigans I wouldn't touch with Deth.Honestly, it was a huge part of my growth over the last few years. I still have a long way to go, but I'm working on it. Some things have shifted away from being a secret. Some things I have become more comfortable around.
There are many reasons I wanted to keep things close to the chest. One of the big ones is that I find imaginary fantasy sexy stuff to be real nice, but IRL sexy stuff is often stressful and anxiety inducing for me. I strongly prefer to avoid the topic save for with just a few people I'm okay with. I didn't want people to reach out with adult art/activity as their primary common interest. I didn't want people to propose we do the sex. I didn't want to be seen as anything other than SFW, because I didn't want to deal with the implications of that. I didn't want to disappoint people by turning their advances down.
I'm working on growing, setting boundaries, and being more comfortable with ~me~. One of the big AHA! moments was finding the term autochorissexual. I have had this link open in a browser tab for over a year for easy access: https://asexuals.fandom.com/wiki/Autochorissexual
It's the closest thing to a label I've ever felt okay identifying with. It gave me a lot of insight into myself and learning how to traverse the conflicting thoughts in my head.
Anyway. Feel free to go take a look. And now back to lurking for quite a few months before I share another small update. (Really I am just more active on Twitter)
you live in a zoo
you look like a cutie and you smell like one too
~happy birthday from your birthday cake