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Two very confusing situations that get me effed over.
16 years ago
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I've had two very messed up situations in the last week that have fallen under the same category. This category can be defined, subclassed, sub sub classed and sub sub subclassed.
Definition: Dating with age differences
Sub: Older guys
Sub Sub: Older guys dating younger girls
Sub Sub Sub: Guys over 18 dating girls under 18.
Scenario 1: My... associate is 17 and is dating a 23 year old college kid. When I heard about this the following situations occured.
Me: So she's seriously dating him?
Bro #1: Why is that so shocking?
Me: Because its a SIX YEAR DIFFERENCE
Bro #1: So?
Me: She's under 18 and he's 23! She still lives with her folks and he's chilling in an apartment outside of campus!
Bro #1: So?
Bro #2: You've liver a very sheltered life if you think something as typical as that is messed up man. Expand your horizons, that stuff is fine.
Scenario 2: My coworker is about to turn 17 Oct. 15th. We have a lot in common and therefore talk a lot. Here's what happened.
Coworker: Hey, watch yourself Nick
Me: uuuuhhh?
Coworker: She's only 16 Nick. That's a two year difference and she's jail bait to you.
Me: I'm aware, whats the problem?
Coworker: The boss and I were walking and we're not liking the set up you two have there.
Me: There's a set-up?
Coworker: Yeah, don't do anything with her, you could get in big trouble.
My complaint: In situation #1 I have the following issue. She is a punk and therefore dates punks (I'm being very general here, so forgive me if I classified her wrong). I don't know her boyfriend, I don't honestly know her too well. I'm a bit worried about her. Apparently I'm an idiot for worrying about her because nothing will happen between her and someone who hates authority and rules.
Situation #2 is completely different but there's a similar issue, just different people with it. I am not an idiot, my coworker is indeed 16 and I will make no advances because of it (not to mention she has a boyfriend). I will admit I'm a flirt, I flirt with everyone. I even flirt with the guys at my work. But I have never made any comments towards my coworker that were outside the realm of "Tee hee, you're cute," or "I enjoy your company", or even "We make a great team."
So I get turned into a criminal in two situations that are very similar no matter where I stand in all this. What am I doing wrong exactly?
Definition: Dating with age differences
Sub: Older guys
Sub Sub: Older guys dating younger girls
Sub Sub Sub: Guys over 18 dating girls under 18.
Scenario 1: My... associate is 17 and is dating a 23 year old college kid. When I heard about this the following situations occured.
Me: So she's seriously dating him?
Bro #1: Why is that so shocking?
Me: Because its a SIX YEAR DIFFERENCE
Bro #1: So?
Me: She's under 18 and he's 23! She still lives with her folks and he's chilling in an apartment outside of campus!
Bro #1: So?
Bro #2: You've liver a very sheltered life if you think something as typical as that is messed up man. Expand your horizons, that stuff is fine.
Scenario 2: My coworker is about to turn 17 Oct. 15th. We have a lot in common and therefore talk a lot. Here's what happened.
Coworker: Hey, watch yourself Nick
Me: uuuuhhh?
Coworker: She's only 16 Nick. That's a two year difference and she's jail bait to you.
Me: I'm aware, whats the problem?
Coworker: The boss and I were walking and we're not liking the set up you two have there.
Me: There's a set-up?
Coworker: Yeah, don't do anything with her, you could get in big trouble.
My complaint: In situation #1 I have the following issue. She is a punk and therefore dates punks (I'm being very general here, so forgive me if I classified her wrong). I don't know her boyfriend, I don't honestly know her too well. I'm a bit worried about her. Apparently I'm an idiot for worrying about her because nothing will happen between her and someone who hates authority and rules.
Situation #2 is completely different but there's a similar issue, just different people with it. I am not an idiot, my coworker is indeed 16 and I will make no advances because of it (not to mention she has a boyfriend). I will admit I'm a flirt, I flirt with everyone. I even flirt with the guys at my work. But I have never made any comments towards my coworker that were outside the realm of "Tee hee, you're cute," or "I enjoy your company", or even "We make a great team."
So I get turned into a criminal in two situations that are very similar no matter where I stand in all this. What am I doing wrong exactly?
