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Playful slang term, or horrible travesty?
18 years ago
I've now heard more than five furs use the term 'rape' in such a way as to express their own desire to have it happen to them.
I'm actually hoping this is a furry thing, not something that's prevalent in the gay community (all were homosexual males).
Just FYI, the definition of 'rape' is extremely concise and clear: http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/rape
No, rape isn't 'surprise sex' or 'rough sex'. It isn't even sex at all. No one who has been raped will ever be able to accept the word being used in this manner. No one who's been raped is going to appreciate you using the term while winking conspiratorially to your nancy friends.
Am I being uptight? Perhaps. Perhaps also, people should be considerate enough to realize that rape is a crime. The word shouldn't be thrown around as it if were something it isn't.
To me, expressing that you 'want to be raped' not only constitutes a contradiction in terms, it's one of the few things that I could ever consider personally offensive. To me, it's just as bad as going to a gay bar and using the phrase "I want to give you AIDS" as a pickup line. Similarly offensive, similarly inconsiderate and unnacceptable.
Not afraid of AIDS or rape? Well then, you're fucking stupid. No one deserves either. No one deserves to be taught first-hand just how bad they both are. One is almost always a death sentence, while the other just makes you wish it was.
For the record, I've never been raped or contracted AIDS, but I know people who have. Most people do, despite what I've been led to believe around here.
Everyone has the ability to use language to express what they mean without using 'rape' in this way. Urban Dictionary probably has over 100 terms that are appropriate in place of it that aren't defined as violent crimes.
To anyone who habitually uses the word 'rape' in this manner, please stop. What possible reason do you have that could justify that?
I'm actually hoping this is a furry thing, not something that's prevalent in the gay community (all were homosexual males).
Just FYI, the definition of 'rape' is extremely concise and clear: http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/rape
No, rape isn't 'surprise sex' or 'rough sex'. It isn't even sex at all. No one who has been raped will ever be able to accept the word being used in this manner. No one who's been raped is going to appreciate you using the term while winking conspiratorially to your nancy friends.
Am I being uptight? Perhaps. Perhaps also, people should be considerate enough to realize that rape is a crime. The word shouldn't be thrown around as it if were something it isn't.
To me, expressing that you 'want to be raped' not only constitutes a contradiction in terms, it's one of the few things that I could ever consider personally offensive. To me, it's just as bad as going to a gay bar and using the phrase "I want to give you AIDS" as a pickup line. Similarly offensive, similarly inconsiderate and unnacceptable.
Not afraid of AIDS or rape? Well then, you're fucking stupid. No one deserves either. No one deserves to be taught first-hand just how bad they both are. One is almost always a death sentence, while the other just makes you wish it was.
For the record, I've never been raped or contracted AIDS, but I know people who have. Most people do, despite what I've been led to believe around here.
Everyone has the ability to use language to express what they mean without using 'rape' in this way. Urban Dictionary probably has over 100 terms that are appropriate in place of it that aren't defined as violent crimes.
To anyone who habitually uses the word 'rape' in this manner, please stop. What possible reason do you have that could justify that?
Real rape is a crime, yes. XP
Fantasies about rape isn't. >w>
That's why people do fantasize about it, I think. Rape as a fantasy generally doesn't end up translating into a person wanting to be raped, though I've heard of that being to case sometimes. I'm frankly glad it isn't that way for me (or wouldn't be, that is, if I had rape fantasies), because I think I would go insane just trying to imagine how it would actually work.
As far as 'wanting to be raped', most of the time people use that phrase to describe something related or part of BDSM. BDSM (especially when it comes to consent/nonconsent) in itself is a big gray area, but at least it might help narrow things down a little. Doing some research into BDSM might actually clear things up for a lot of people, though I do realize it would ruin whatever mystique such people tend to form. (Oh no! Not the truth!)
With this issue, it's just important (to me, at least) to say what you really mean. That's all I and the people who might get offended by such things could ask for.