Kind of goes together though, desires and kinks are bound together by their core. A desire/preference/passion is a platonic love for something or some action you do in life, but that platonic love can in some unexplained moment (maybe excess testosterone or estrogen) turns into something that makes it sexual. Once you see something through that lens, it isn't likely you will lose interest.

Maybe you want to love someone who loves the things you love, so when you consider your sexual preferences you might inadvertently mix those very desires and actions into the sexual mix.

Well said and interesting. One thing I want to clarify. I wasn't even aware I had such a kink it just clicked with me despite how immoral [for lack of a better term] the action is.

It's just subconsciously that action translated into that person wanted me so much that he went out of his way. Or at least that how I introspect it.

I may not understand some of people's kinks but I try to learn. It's a window into the soul in a sense.

Well there is another slightly less optimistic version that I hope doesn't sound back-handed. We find beauty in many things, but one very consistent thing is something being uncommon, rare or hard to obtain that is positive or pleasurable.

So for some people, they get sexual thrills from something like the thought of being molested because they don't see it as something ever likely to happen (in other words it seems rare). A person with lots of conventional beauty likely gets cat-calls and harassment a lot and so finds it severely off-putting, while people who have found love or at least physical attraction similarly have the need of "being loved and desired" fulfilled. Some people can find it hard to be loved for many reasons, shyness, depression, being conventionally unattractive, having non-standard lifestyles like being gay, etc. These people can be starved of love or sexual attraction from others they often look to get it from anything. This can also be a lingering issue, someone might have spent year struggling for love or physical affection and eventually got it, but keep finding it desirable because they lacked it at an important time, which imprinted this as a core desire.

I like your wording I relate with what you are saying it's insightful.

Being mindful about the needs helps fillfulling it in a more of a healthy manner and well everyone struggles with something. That's just how it's, but that also can be wrong due to my limited perception of life.