Feeling worried because you might be feeling old? Well, don't worry, 30 isn't really old...in fact that's probably the beginning of milf range right there, plus I'm sure you have a few buddies that would love to celebrate with you!

Unless, there's something I'm missing here?

Thanks for coming to talk about it, I'm really worried about being old, because I'm looking back at my 20s and I'm not super happy with how it went :(

But maybe 30 isn't really old yet anyway and at least I could live a happy 30s..

About my 20s, I feel like I've lived a life of regret and felt like it's time to mourn a happier 20s I could have had if I didn't go through so much unnecessary trauma. For the longest of time I denied to myself that my family had any abuse going on but as I've grown older I'm accepting that there are many things that happened that were just not ok, they're not "just annoying things that I have to deal with", and that I shouldn't have gone through them, and my only parting gift is trauma that's dragging me back

I spent my 20s trying to catch up with basic lifeskills, but the good news is at least I've gotten there. I could've gotten much further much earlier, and I shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to cry over that spilt milk, because I've learnt that while they shouldn't dictate my life, my feelings are important

That's what I'm sad about and that's why I'm afraid of officially hitting my 30s..

Oh, so that explains how you're feeling a lot better, to which I'm sorry if my previous comment seemed a little 'distant' where I didn't intend for it to sound like that, so thank you for clarifying. But yeah, you've still got a huuuuuge amount of time left on the clock to practically try and live in a rather peaceful way (or whichever way you prefer!)

Now onto what you said, yeah, no one should ever have to suffer through such things, especially if they were traumatic in their 20s and possibly earlier years no less. Sheesh, I'm really sorry that they put you through that, unfairly, I'm assuming. If anything, try not to think about the 20s too hard, especially if that's going to keep dragging you back down mentally wise--as a matter of fact, try and focus on the fact that you managed to catch up during that time. That's one thing you should be really proud of, because that might carry you really far!

Sorry, if my words didn't really do much to uplift your mood, but I just hope you'll be alright when your 30s start coming around. I can see why you're afraid.

Thanks a lot fluffy! You played a good part in getting me out of that bad state, your words are encouraging and understanding ^w^ i can tell you're meaning well and it's so relieving to listen to others to tell me to feel proud of myself. Thanks a lot~ besides as you say I've still got looooots of time left, 10 years is insanely long..

sorry to hear you went through abuse in your 20's. I hope you're able to get help moving on from that. As for mourning about happier times in your 20's you can do that, but it will cause you to miss your 30's. As you get older time flies. just hit 35 myself and it feels like it wasn't that long ago since my mid 20's. for the average person 30 is just the mid point at worst. hopefully you've got a long life ahead of you and in your 40's and 50's you'll be able to look back and say you enjoyed your 30's.

Don't let the number drag you down and don't let your past keep you from enjoying your future. I hope you have a great life moving on through your 30's.

That makes sense, I shouldn't let it control my future. Implementing that is complicated but it deserves a place in my list of goals, a thought that powers each of my actions. "I suck at cooking, but I shouldn't let my past inaction and external discouragement stop me from trying"

Just a number.. I'll heed your word of caution and I won't let it drag me down anymore!

Everyone knows 30 is when huskies crumble into dust!

30 isn't even middle-aged, for most of the world.

o no!! *crumble to dust, leaving a pair of blinking eyeballs*

im just being a sad doofus cos bad repeated past events could frick you up for a long time and it takes effort and time and dedication to reverse and unlearn bad coping habits 😔