personal boundaries
Posted 14 years agoHello everyone, today's lesson is about personal boundaries.
I get that furries are a much more huggy bunch than most, and I'm totally okay with that. I hug people by way of greeting, it's not that big a deal. However.
Lately a lot of furs seem to think that interacting with me in the same way i interact with my closest friends is okay. It really isn't, and it's kind of creepy.
You know that bit in mean girls where it's only okay when Janis says Damian is almost too gay to function?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r2j_SmCmjVY
It's like that.
I love all you guys dearly, but I really don't think it's okay for furs I barely know and have barely spoken to to come up and try to grope me, or lick me, or bite me, or call me a slut or a whore or whatever.
"But how do I know if she considers me a close friend or not?"
If you're not sure about whether or not I consider you a close friend, you probably aren't one. It may seem super-bitchy, but I'm honestly starting to feel really uncomfortable about it at meets and sunday sessions, so it needs to be said.
Besides, my body belongs to
nickcassino and
coolieo
I get that furries are a much more huggy bunch than most, and I'm totally okay with that. I hug people by way of greeting, it's not that big a deal. However.
Lately a lot of furs seem to think that interacting with me in the same way i interact with my closest friends is okay. It really isn't, and it's kind of creepy.
You know that bit in mean girls where it's only okay when Janis says Damian is almost too gay to function?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r2j_SmCmjVY
It's like that.
I love all you guys dearly, but I really don't think it's okay for furs I barely know and have barely spoken to to come up and try to grope me, or lick me, or bite me, or call me a slut or a whore or whatever.
"But how do I know if she considers me a close friend or not?"
If you're not sure about whether or not I consider you a close friend, you probably aren't one. It may seem super-bitchy, but I'm honestly starting to feel really uncomfortable about it at meets and sunday sessions, so it needs to be said.
Besides, my body belongs to


<3
Posted 14 years agoWell, if you were around a few months ago you would have seen that journal I posted about my Dad cheating on my mum and deciding he wanted to go seek his fortune in America. You'd think we'd be over it by now but he just keeps telling us he'll come back, but then finds more excuses to stay where he is. It's really weird cos I thought I'd gotten over it, but then he says he's coming home and I realise I do want to see him, but then he decides nope. And mum's kind of unstable and keeps flipping her shit at random things (although this is understandable).
I'm not sure who to talk to, and whenever I want to say something in real life it just doesn't seem to work (i don't tend to talk about my feelings a lot)
But I guess I just feel like I need to get it out somehow. Here seems like as good a place as any.
For the past few weeks while this has been happening I felt really horrible, like the person who brought me up just decided he didn't want me anymore. Then today, when he told us he'd been 'detained' again I got three texts from three different furs who I consider to be some of my good friends, and they were all ridiculous and funny and made me realise that you guys are the greatest, loveliest people in the universe and I have no reason to feel alone.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm going through a rough patch at the moment but having friends and bitches and hoes (see: Cass and Coolieo) like the melbfurs has really helped and I love you guys.
I'm not sure who to talk to, and whenever I want to say something in real life it just doesn't seem to work (i don't tend to talk about my feelings a lot)
But I guess I just feel like I need to get it out somehow. Here seems like as good a place as any.
For the past few weeks while this has been happening I felt really horrible, like the person who brought me up just decided he didn't want me anymore. Then today, when he told us he'd been 'detained' again I got three texts from three different furs who I consider to be some of my good friends, and they were all ridiculous and funny and made me realise that you guys are the greatest, loveliest people in the universe and I have no reason to feel alone.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm going through a rough patch at the moment but having friends and bitches and hoes (see: Cass and Coolieo) like the melbfurs has really helped and I love you guys.
RAWR IMA TIGER ^_^
Posted 14 years agoSo anyway today I hung out with my cousin, and we visited a bunch of local secondhand shops, and I FOUND A GODDAMN TIGER SUIT. It's a touch too small for me (the legs dont go all the way down) but you know what, it adds to my awkwardness.
You know when you're really little and you look up to your parents like they're they coolest people ever? I always looked up to my cousin XD
It's pretty much always been me, him and his sister against the rest of my extended family, who are all like my big fat greek wedding but chinese and not nearly as hilarious. So tonight him and his gf were like OMG WEAR THAT TIGER SUIT NAO, and I turned up to one of our giant family dinners in it. Everyone was baffled beyond words. As in, they pretty much chose to ignore it cos they had no idea what to say XD
winning.
You know when you're really little and you look up to your parents like they're they coolest people ever? I always looked up to my cousin XD
It's pretty much always been me, him and his sister against the rest of my extended family, who are all like my big fat greek wedding but chinese and not nearly as hilarious. So tonight him and his gf were like OMG WEAR THAT TIGER SUIT NAO, and I turned up to one of our giant family dinners in it. Everyone was baffled beyond words. As in, they pretty much chose to ignore it cos they had no idea what to say XD
winning.
IM NEARLY AT 2000 PAGEVIEWS
Posted 14 years agoHEY! YOU!
Posted 14 years agoGET OFF OF MY CLOUD!
okay so I need new music. Recommendation tiem!
HOWEVER, there are two parameters:
1) Nothing post-2000.
2) No jazz (reggae and funk are okay.)
OKAY... GO! =D
okay so I need new music. Recommendation tiem!
HOWEVER, there are two parameters:
1) Nothing post-2000.
2) No jazz (reggae and funk are okay.)
OKAY... GO! =D
Tribble fursuits/ MINFUR
Posted 14 years agoSO bummed I can't go to 'minfur' this year, I was so excited planning all the epic awesome I as going to do
then
oh sorry guys it's in your last and most important week of uni. soz babbbezzzz
not that I blame anyone in particular, it's just an unfortunate situation I guess.
Might go for a day though
Melbfurs, we're going to have a giant fucking christmas party though, mark my words.
Also, tribble fursuit?
then
oh sorry guys it's in your last and most important week of uni. soz babbbezzzz
not that I blame anyone in particular, it's just an unfortunate situation I guess.
Might go for a day though
Melbfurs, we're going to have a giant fucking christmas party though, mark my words.
Also, tribble fursuit?
Where do we go from here?
Posted 14 years agoToday was the last time I'm going to see my dad for a very long time. I can't even remember what the last thing I said to him was.
so like, a few weeks ago he came back from America, after pretending to go on a business trip. Turns out he was having an affair. Several, actually. Some of them were as young as me.
It's just really weird to have someone you thought loved you all your life suddenly turn into a completely different asshole cocksucker. So I guess I'm not upset to see him leave. He's going to America again anyway, and I don't really want to think about what he's going to do there.
So if I seem a little more black-kitty-ish and less rainbow-ish as of late, that's why.
so like, a few weeks ago he came back from America, after pretending to go on a business trip. Turns out he was having an affair. Several, actually. Some of them were as young as me.
It's just really weird to have someone you thought loved you all your life suddenly turn into a completely different asshole cocksucker. So I guess I'm not upset to see him leave. He's going to America again anyway, and I don't really want to think about what he's going to do there.
So if I seem a little more black-kitty-ish and less rainbow-ish as of late, that's why.
SUPANOVAAAAA
Posted 14 years agoI'm so excited. My Marty Mcfly shirt is half done. There are furries going. There are friends. There is wrestling.
no christopher lloyd anymore though *is devastated* :C
SO! If you're at the melbourne supanova, come say hi! Saturday I'll be dressed as this little fella on the right:
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_QfB1Pu7MA.....k/s1600/10.jpg
but in black and white
and sunday I will be dressed as this guy:
http://www.batmj.com/images/BTTF/BT.....1885_shirt.jpg
LOVE YOU FOLKS! ^__________^ You make me feel like i've swallowed a bunch of glowing fireflies and they're having a rave inside my belly. A really really happy rave!
no christopher lloyd anymore though *is devastated* :C
SO! If you're at the melbourne supanova, come say hi! Saturday I'll be dressed as this little fella on the right:
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_QfB1Pu7MA.....k/s1600/10.jpg
but in black and white
and sunday I will be dressed as this guy:
http://www.batmj.com/images/BTTF/BT.....1885_shirt.jpg
LOVE YOU FOLKS! ^__________^ You make me feel like i've swallowed a bunch of glowing fireflies and they're having a rave inside my belly. A really really happy rave!
FREEEEE AAAART*/NOT FREE ART (take your pick)/SUPANOVAAAA
Posted 14 years agoSO, I'M TAKING ANOTHER TWENTY SLOTS! =D
BUT WAIT
what are the terms and conditions of this one?
Well there's the usual: put a link to thi in your own journal and make sure you're watching me
THEN, so I don't end up wanting to shoot myself in the eyeball, here's how it's gunna swing
*I'm only accepting requests for free art if you can think of something to request that is interesting and/or random. Or if you have a very lovely beautiful interesting unique fursona :3
AND if you want them coloured, hit up my man
coolieo
To other news, I really really RE-E-EALLY want a gothic lolita dress. But alas, no money.
So feel free to commission me as well - if it's a commission you go to the top of the queue and you will get a much lovelier, well thought out pretty piece of pretty artworking like:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5429427/
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5354359/
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5194154/
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5188684/
or whatever else tickles your fancy. I'm pretty chill about life and everything
Price: whatever you feel like ^_^
Also, tails: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/2138131/
Now that I'm done grasping at things to occupy my idleness, to more life things.
Supanova is soon!! =D
expect wrestling fanart. I'm going as Brian Kendrick on the first day (hes like the second most adorable person ever after coolieo) and Marty Mcfly on the second.
BACK TO THE FUTUUUUURE <3 <3
If any of youse guys are going to melbourne supanova, come say hi! :3
I bite, but you'll like it.
Free arts:
1) Haruka Pyrocat (pending ref)
2) Fima (pending ref)
3) Anders (BECAUSE PIRATES) http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5456614
4) Chuchianci
5) Coolieo
6) Sheba_Metaluna
7) Rinatar
8) Tinycat
9) Darkentiger
Commissions
1) Oxyloged x4 (sketched)
2) Paskhowl (sketched)
AND, lex is doing commissions. Colourful ones!! XD http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/2219103/
BUT WAIT
what are the terms and conditions of this one?
Well there's the usual: put a link to thi in your own journal and make sure you're watching me
THEN, so I don't end up wanting to shoot myself in the eyeball, here's how it's gunna swing
*I'm only accepting requests for free art if you can think of something to request that is interesting and/or random. Or if you have a very lovely beautiful interesting unique fursona :3
AND if you want them coloured, hit up my man

To other news, I really really RE-E-EALLY want a gothic lolita dress. But alas, no money.
So feel free to commission me as well - if it's a commission you go to the top of the queue and you will get a much lovelier, well thought out pretty piece of pretty artworking like:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5429427/
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5354359/
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5194154/
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5188684/
or whatever else tickles your fancy. I'm pretty chill about life and everything
Price: whatever you feel like ^_^
Also, tails: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/2138131/
Now that I'm done grasping at things to occupy my idleness, to more life things.
Supanova is soon!! =D
expect wrestling fanart. I'm going as Brian Kendrick on the first day (hes like the second most adorable person ever after coolieo) and Marty Mcfly on the second.
BACK TO THE FUTUUUUURE <3 <3
If any of youse guys are going to melbourne supanova, come say hi! :3
I bite, but you'll like it.
Free arts:
1) Haruka Pyrocat (pending ref)
2) Fima (pending ref)
3) Anders (BECAUSE PIRATES) http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5456614
4) Chuchianci
5) Coolieo
6) Sheba_Metaluna
7) Rinatar
8) Tinycat
9) Darkentiger
Commissions
1) Oxyloged x4 (sketched)
2) Paskhowl (sketched)
AND, lex is doing commissions. Colourful ones!! XD http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/2219103/
Commission me!
Posted 14 years agoDrawings are a flat rate of whatever the hell you feel like paying me.
Now moving on to fluffies!
Here's an example of the stuff I've made: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5342665/ ^_^
Now the usual wait is two weeks but especially around con time and working around uni I might take a bit longer - i'll let you know when you
My tails are all custom made to suit your fursona, hence the slightly more expensive prices (since I have to buy each individual fur you're wanting)
Here are the BASIC prices, as I said they are custom and so the prices may vary depending on other specifications you might want. Like if you wanted a super-super long tail it would be a little more expensive.
I'm also liable to give you a discount if I already have the fur in stock/ really really like you
HATS
Basic hats start at $30, and that'll get you something like this:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5009083/
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5004146/
With the long ear flaps/pockets it'll be $40
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5355189/
TAILS
Tails start at $20, and that'll get you a bunny tail or a basic kitty tail [pictures soon]
A two coloured short hair tail is $30
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5211025/
A one coloured long hair tail (of a medium size) is about $40-$45
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5211224/
+$10 per colour
Something large like this would be $60
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5453571/
PAWS
Usually if you order something which only uses a bit of the fur I buy i'll make a complementary set of paw gloves like the ones for Rainbow Bunneh:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5211224/
On their own they start at $25 and get you a one coloured pair of soopah-floofy paw-gloves ^^
HOW TO ORDER:
Note or comment with what you want. Please be a specific as possible, include any refs if you have them.
If you want I can do you a reference drawing for free so you know I'm making exactly what you want.
I do ask that you pay first once we've sorted out exactly what you want, I don't want to be spending my money on expensive fur material only to find out you've backed out at the last minute.
Paypal only - soberdirector[at]hotmail.com
Unless you know me in person :)
FLUFFY SLOTS:
1) Anders paws
2) Fima's mystery rainbow husky-tail
3) Jelly's mystery brown bunny
Now moving on to fluffies!
Here's an example of the stuff I've made: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5342665/ ^_^
Now the usual wait is two weeks but especially around con time and working around uni I might take a bit longer - i'll let you know when you
My tails are all custom made to suit your fursona, hence the slightly more expensive prices (since I have to buy each individual fur you're wanting)
Here are the BASIC prices, as I said they are custom and so the prices may vary depending on other specifications you might want. Like if you wanted a super-super long tail it would be a little more expensive.
I'm also liable to give you a discount if I already have the fur in stock/ really really like you
HATS
Basic hats start at $30, and that'll get you something like this:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5009083/
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5004146/
With the long ear flaps/pockets it'll be $40
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5355189/
TAILS
Tails start at $20, and that'll get you a bunny tail or a basic kitty tail [pictures soon]
A two coloured short hair tail is $30
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5211025/
A one coloured long hair tail (of a medium size) is about $40-$45
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5211224/
+$10 per colour
Something large like this would be $60
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5453571/
PAWS
Usually if you order something which only uses a bit of the fur I buy i'll make a complementary set of paw gloves like the ones for Rainbow Bunneh:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5211224/
On their own they start at $25 and get you a one coloured pair of soopah-floofy paw-gloves ^^
HOW TO ORDER:
Note or comment with what you want. Please be a specific as possible, include any refs if you have them.
If you want I can do you a reference drawing for free so you know I'm making exactly what you want.
I do ask that you pay first once we've sorted out exactly what you want, I don't want to be spending my money on expensive fur material only to find out you've backed out at the last minute.
Paypal only - soberdirector[at]hotmail.com
Unless you know me in person :)
FLUFFY SLOTS:
1) Anders paws
2) Fima's mystery rainbow husky-tail
3) Jelly's mystery brown bunny
I LOVE YOUUU/ Open for commissions!
Posted 14 years agoSeriously, furries are so awesome
i've never really fit in anywhere before midfur. is nice :3
also, melbourne furs = THE BEST KIND. Chances are if I met you today, I think you're amazing.
To other things!
coolieo has been telling me to take commissions
I really want to be an attendee and not a penniless volunteer at the next midfur, so we figured it's a good idea.
so now
Chibi linearts are two dollars
like this! :http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5166899
these more detailed ones are five
like these:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5145644
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5100072
And ref sheets are also five eeeeeeeyah
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5188628
HATS AND TAILS AND PAW THINGERS PRICES COMING SOOOON WOOP WOOP
Paypal only to soberdirector[at]hotmail.com, lalalalalalala, note me or comment for them
1) Haruka Pyrocat [linearted]
2) Sedgy trade [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5354337]
3) Coolieo [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5366060]
4) Fima [Chibi]
5) Oxyloged [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5366066/]
6) Tusky [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5384106]
7) Zafrina [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5366070]
8) KeitaroHusky [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5376441]
9) Shebawolf145 [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5376443]
10) Midnight _Hauler [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5384115]
11) InuysahaWolf [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5376448]
12) Keida [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5384126]
13) Momo_Hagurashi [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5376446]
14) HappyHuskyKoma [Done! http://i56.tinypic.com/malbow.jpg]
15) Toba_Sagewolf [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5386378]
16) Shadow 505 [Done! http://i51.tinypic.com/2dt0vpk.jpg]
17) Matias [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5401571]
18) JillThePurpleFox [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5386375]
19) DIRUS [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5386384]
20) Lardo [Done! http://i54.tinypic.com/315jyuu.jpg]
21) sYnister [Done! http://i56.tinypic.com/2qrzt46.jpg]
22) Chuchianci [Done! http://i56.tinypic.com/qppedx.jpg]
i've never really fit in anywhere before midfur. is nice :3
also, melbourne furs = THE BEST KIND. Chances are if I met you today, I think you're amazing.
To other things!

I really want to be an attendee and not a penniless volunteer at the next midfur, so we figured it's a good idea.
so now
Chibi linearts are two dollars
like this! :http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5166899
these more detailed ones are five
like these:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5145644
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5100072
And ref sheets are also five eeeeeeeyah
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5188628
HATS AND TAILS AND PAW THINGERS PRICES COMING SOOOON WOOP WOOP
Paypal only to soberdirector[at]hotmail.com, lalalalalalala, note me or comment for them
1) Haruka Pyrocat [linearted]
2) Sedgy trade [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5354337]
3) Coolieo [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5366060]
4) Fima [Chibi]
5) Oxyloged [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5366066/]
6) Tusky [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5384106]
7) Zafrina [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5366070]
8) KeitaroHusky [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5376441]
9) Shebawolf145 [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5376443]
10) Midnight _Hauler [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5384115]
11) InuysahaWolf [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5376448]
12) Keida [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5384126]
13) Momo_Hagurashi [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5376446]
14) HappyHuskyKoma [Done! http://i56.tinypic.com/malbow.jpg]
15) Toba_Sagewolf [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5386378]
16) Shadow 505 [Done! http://i51.tinypic.com/2dt0vpk.jpg]
17) Matias [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5401571]
18) JillThePurpleFox [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5386375]
19) DIRUS [Done! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5386384]
20) Lardo [Done! http://i54.tinypic.com/315jyuu.jpg]
21) sYnister [Done! http://i56.tinypic.com/2qrzt46.jpg]
22) Chuchianci [Done! http://i56.tinypic.com/qppedx.jpg]