After considerable reflection, I have decided to leave Second Life. What once began as a form of escape and creativity has turned into a burdensome and increasingly toxic environment. While my time here has been memorable, I no longer find value in continuing. Here are the main reasons behind my decision:

1. The Drama

The constant drama is draining. It’s not only petty, but it’s also immature and unnecessary. People argue over trivial matters, spread gossip, and engage in behavior that only serves to stir up conflict. It’s clear to me now that this behavior is pervasive, and I can’t invest my time in a space where negativity and immaturity are the norm.

2. The Trophy Syndrome

As a couple, my partner and I have been reduced to nothing more than a status symbol. Our relationship, rather than being valued for its genuine connection, has often been treated as a spectacle for others to admire or envy. On top of that, some people have no boundaries and continuously ask either me or my partner, “Why aren’t you with my partner?” It’s as though our relationship is up for grabs or that we owe them some kind of explanation. This objectification of our bond is something I can no longer tolerate.

3. Walking on Eggshells

The level of sensitivity here is extreme. It’s as though every word and every action is subject to scrutiny, and the fear of offending someone has become overwhelming. I find myself constantly second-guessing every interaction, which makes it impossible to have honest, relaxed conversations. I’m tired of tiptoeing around everyone’s fragile emotions.

4. The "Not-So-Subtle" Horny People

There is an undeniable presence of people who, despite claiming to be interested in friendships or casual interactions, are actually only pursuing physical or sexual connections. I have repeatedly declined such offers, making it clear that I am in a committed relationship. Yet, these requests persist, making it clear that many are only here for their own gratification. It is disrespectful, and I no longer wish to engage with people who cannot respect my boundaries.

5. Creepy Newcomers

Newcomers often cross boundaries without even realizing it—or worse, they don’t care. There is a level of discomfort that comes from interactions with people who are either overly eager or unaware of basic social decency. The lack of respect for personal space and privacy makes these encounters increasingly unpleasant.

6. The Therapist Role

Over time, I have been expected to take on the role of an emotional caretaker for people who unload their personal problems onto me. While I’m happy to listen to friends, the constant stream of strangers seeking advice or solace is draining. I did not join Second Life to become a free therapist, and I’ve grown tired of being an emotional crutch for others.

7. Unstable Relationships

There is a disturbing trend in Second Life where relationships are often unstable or treated as temporary experiments. Many people are quick to jump into open relationships or situations that are never built on any solid foundation. I was fortunate enough to find a real, committed partner, but the constant chaos and emotional instability around me have made it clear that this is not a healthy environment for genuine relationships.

8. Lost Spark

What initially made Second Life exciting—the creativity, the sense of exploration—has slowly turned into a tedious routine. What once felt like an adventure has become a monotonous grind, with the novelty long gone. I no longer feel inspired, and logging in has started to feel like a chore rather than a choice.

9. Scams and AI Art

The platform has become rife with scams, both large and small. The dishonesty is everywhere—from fake goods to shady dealings. But the most egregious issue for me has been the use of AI-generated art for profit. People use these soulless, mass-produced images to sell as “art,” with no real creative effort behind them. This has completely devalued the work of genuine artists and soured my view of the marketplace.

10. Childish People

A concerning amount of individuals here act like they are stuck in their teenage years. From petty arguments to extreme self-centeredness, the level of maturity is, frankly, disappointing. I no longer have the patience for people who refuse to take responsibility for their actions and constantly seek drama and attention.

11. Grudges That Never End

Second Life seems to be a place where grudges are held for years. People can’t seem to let go of past conflicts or old mistakes. I’ve moved on from things, but many others remain trapped in cycles of resentment. It’s toxic, and I refuse to be dragged back into that environment.

12. My Partner and the End of the Purpose

I consider myself extremely fortunate to have found a partner in Second Life who has become an integral part of my life. This connection is rare, and it’s something that I deeply value. But because of this, Second Life no longer serves any meaningful purpose for me. I’ve found what I was looking for—genuine love and companionship—and I no longer need to be in this virtual space. However, I am not abandoning my friends here. I continue to stay in touch with them through Telegram and Discord, and our relationships remain unchanged.

13. Conversations That Feel Scripted


Some people talk like they’re straight out of The Elder Scrolls: Oblivion—repeating the same shallow lines, generic flattery, and awkward phrases like they’re reading from a script. There’s no real engagement or depth. Just canned small talk and robotic catchphrases. It’s bizarre and unsettling.

14. Needy People Everywhere

There’s a difference between friendship and emotional dependency. Unfortunately, many users blur that line and latch on, demanding constant attention, validation, or reassurance. The neediness isn’t just tiring—it’s suffocating. I can't be someone’s entire support system just because they don’t want to be alone online.


15. Emotional Overinvestment

Too many people pour their entire emotional lives into Second Life, treating every interaction like a lifeline. They confuse attention with affection and expect constant emotional availability, even from people they barely know. It’s not about being cold—it’s about boundaries. When someone makes you responsible for their mood, their loneliness, or their sense of self-worth, it stops being a friendship and starts feeling like emotional hostage-taking.

I’ve had people lash out just because I couldn’t be online or wasn’t “there enough.” That’s not connection—it’s pressure. And I’m not here to be anyone’s emotional crutch. I care, but I won’t carry someone else’s weight at the cost of my own peace.

For all of these reasons, I’ve decided that my time in Second Life has come to an end. While I may have enjoyed it at one point, the platform has become a place that no longer provides me with the peace or fulfillment I once found. I am moving on to something more meaningful and real.

Fuck Second Life.

Q&A

Am I being called out?

No. This is a personal decision based on my experiences and frustrations. It’s not about calling anyone out or criticizing anyone directly.

Do you want to join VRChat?

We just left Second Life; we don’t want to get sucked back into another platform. We’re looking for something more grounded and real, not another virtual world.

Are you coming back?

Probably not. My time in Second Life has run its course, and I feel no need to return. I’ve moved on to new things, and I don’t see myself coming back anytime soon.