I will be trying to avoid FA for a while (being a lurker Im sure it wont be noticed)

The long and short is after 13 years relationship and near 8 years marriage my wifes latest affair resulted in her leaving. This was autumn last year and I'm still very much struggling to cope or function at even the most basic level.

A lot has came to light since, a lot of lies unearthed and the realization of just how mistreated and used I was and how many alarm bells should have been flashing for years. But to steal from bojack when you love someone red flags are just flags.

I dont know what place ill have in this, or any other community, or if ill ever be able to.

Thank you for your patience.