"I do everything the right way"



Perfectionists are realistic, conscientious, and principled.

They strive to live up to their high ideals.



How to Get Along with Me

• Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work.

• Acknowledge my achievements.

• I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I am.

• Tell me that you value my advice.

• Be fair and considerate, as I am.

• Apologize if you have been unthoughtful. It will help me to forgive.

• Gently encourage me to lighten up and to laugh at myself when I get uptight, but hear my worries first.



What I Like About Being a ONE

• being self-disciplined and able to accomplish a great deal

• working hard to make the world a better place

• having high standards and ethics; not compromising myself

• being reasonable, responsible, and dedicated in everything I do

• being able to put facts together, coming to good understandings, and figuring out wise solutions

• being the best I can be and bringing out the best in other people



What's Hard About Being a ONE

• being disappointed with myself or others when my expectations are not met

• feeling burdened by too much responsibility

• thinking that what I do is never good enough

• not being appreciated for what I do for people

• being upset because others aren't trying as hard as I am

• obsessing about what I did or what I should do

• being tense, anxious, and taking things too seriously



ONEs as Children Often

• criticize themselves in anticipation of criticism from others

• refrain from doing things that they think might not come out perfect

• focus on living up to the expectations of their parents and teachers

• are very responsible; may assume the role of parent

• hold back negative emotions ("good children aren't angry")



ONEs as Parents

• teach their children responsibility and strong moral values

• are consistent and fair

• discipline firmly