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[ANNOUNCEMENT] A little bit of transparency
EDIT: I forgot to mention, if you're a current commissioner and would like updates on your piece, don't let this deter you from asking about progress! I'm still happy to do what I can for my clients!
WARNING: WALL OF TEXT
Hey guys. Now I'm not here to turn this into a sob story, but I feel I owe a bit of an explanation to my followers and commissioners. As the title says, I just want to be totally transparent, so what I say in the coming time doesn't come off as bullshit or just me making excuses. This is also somewhat a vent, so please bear with me.
The gist of it is my grandmother is officially on hospice, Dante's mom is making his and my family's life a nightmare, and the strain is getting too much on us both.
My grandmother was diagnosed with lung cancer last year on Valentines day, and its coming to the end. Combined with her alzheimers, all she can really do anymore is just...cry. She can't walk, she can't speak. She barely remembers me, and my mom is the only person she can comprehend is there. It's a heartbreaking situation, and we'd like to bring her home before the end so she'd at least be among family. But....
As some of you know, we helped get Dante's mother away from her abuser by letting her live with us until she could get on her feet. She's shown her gratitude by...turning back to a lot of old methods she used to abuse Dante in the past. When she first arived, she gave us two months rent. In her mind, that gave her free reign to do as she pleased in our house with no respect to Dante, myself, or my parents. The first few weeks were fine and everything seemed okay, but as she turned back to old ways of guilt tripping, gaslighting, disrespect, and verbal abuse toward Dante and his sister, things began coming to a breaking point on that front too.
Since her arrival, our bills have doubled in price, we can't keep food in the house, and when she does get groceries alongside us, it's always met with passive aggression when Dante, myself, my nephew, or my parents partake while there's no qualms about her or her daughter eating our groceries. As you can imagine, my mother and father are going through a very difficult time, but any time they show disdain or upset around her, it comes back on Dante with her claiming to him "They're glaring at me" or "they're making me uncomfortable." Our house is over capacity caring for our animals alongside hers (four cats including one disabled and two dogs including one who's severely ill, whom she doesn't put the effort into caring for; once again that's on us) We cannot afford to care for them, but if we don't that too is met with guilt tripping in the vein of "They're losing weight" or even as far as "I'll have to get rid of them because I can't afford it and it breaks my heart but oh well no one wants to help". Yet she leaves almost every night to be with a boyfriend she's only known three weeks, leaving her daughter for us to take care of as well. As much as I love the girl, it's not easy to take care of her when, if we discipline her, then Dante's mother gets on him for 'undermining the parenting' of someone who's never there to do it.
And all of this is on top of the just blatant disrespect and the fact that Dante's remaining family is almost constantly dangled over him, as one wrong move would have her snatching his sister from his life and running. We've taken a pretty bad turn on the front of depression and anxiety as we've both had a history of abuse; it's only rougher for Dante as the one we're facing now _is_ his abuser. He and I are at our wits end and can only hope she finds a place soon.
This isn't excuses for why I've taken a bit of time on some commissions, or why I'm continuing to take work even while my queue is stacked up as is. It's more so just reasoning for my erratic behavior and spotty online presence this past month or so. I've opened up my tip jar if anyone would like to donate to the expenses for caring for the pets or making sure bills get paid, but as spotty as I've been, I completely understand if you would rather get something for the money you spend and would like to wait until I can take a commission in a sound mind with a more steady turn around.
For everyone sticking by me and Dante through this time, we can't say how much we appreciate your continued support and patronage. ~KnightsCategory All / All
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Don't worry, the easy part always comes a little late.
I'm no expert on these kind of issues, but if Dante is old enough and she has somewhere else she can stay for a bit, she should take a vacation from the house for a few days. That might make her mom realize that her neglect has caused her to have no control over her own daughter. But that's a big "IF"and I don't know if that would even work, so just do what you gotta do.
I'm no expert on these kind of issues, but if Dante is old enough and she has somewhere else she can stay for a bit, she should take a vacation from the house for a few days. That might make her mom realize that her neglect has caused her to have no control over her own daughter. But that's a big "IF"and I don't know if that would even work, so just do what you gotta do.
I'm sorry to hear about that . Thats a terrible situation to be in i've had a similar one like that . And its not anything easy to do but all of you are going to have to give her the firm final warning. As much as i wish for it to be better if shes getting like this now and not doing anything to help herself she's not going to get any better and will continue to drag you down with her. I dealt with it for a year and it was a living hell. And you eventually have to say get out. And if things escalate you have to tell her you WILL call the cops to have her leave. I wish you all the best and i wish i could donate something but my car had to get fixed. but hopefully i can put a small amount next pay cheque.
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