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A letter to my unborn children
(NOTE: No, I'm not pregnant yet.)
My patients has been depleting for quite some time now in anticipation of meeting you somewhere outside of my dreams. Life, as you will eventually find out, is more often then not a waiting game, and if you're anything like me, the waiting for wonderful things to come can get taxing every now and then. So what's taking so long you might wonder. In the beginning, it was finding an honorable man that was worthy enough and would be proud to call himself a father. I knew I had found him when my dreams of you had become more vivid. I know you're trying to talk to me. So now what am I waiting for? That's a good question. Sometimes I honestly don't know.
I think all I'm waiting on right now is being sure I can be the wisest mother possible, and the only way for me to do that is to go off into the world and explore, dream, and discover. I want to be a mother you can count on and be proud of. Until then, would you like to hear some motherly advice?
If something doesn't feel right to you, it probably isn't. And if it does feel right, then it probably is. Don't ever second guess yourself. If your friends all jump off a bridge, that doesn't mean you should do it. Despite what everyone says, broccoli really is the tastiest food in the universe. Never be afraid to express your opinions on something, but understand there is a good time and a bad time to do so. Yogurt cups make excellent soup containers. Your words can be just as powerful a gift as any material possession. Love yourself before you love anyone else. Animals are just as valuable as any human being. There's no bad day an ice cream cone can't fix. Shoot for the moon, because if you don't make it you'll still have landed among the stars. Don't ever give up on someone just because they're being difficult for a period of time.
There's a lot more I could spout out to you, but I myself am still learning. When we finally meet in person, I'll share the rest with you as well as the many more I've yet to learn. You're going to find life has a lot of uncertainties, but so long as you use them to guide your decisions when things seem mixed up and confusing, you'll be okay. And remember, the one thing you don't ever have to question is that I love you and I'll always love you and will always be proud to call you my child, now and when we finally meet in person, to the day I die.
Until then, little one, I'll see you in my dreams.
I love you,
Mommy
My patients has been depleting for quite some time now in anticipation of meeting you somewhere outside of my dreams. Life, as you will eventually find out, is more often then not a waiting game, and if you're anything like me, the waiting for wonderful things to come can get taxing every now and then. So what's taking so long you might wonder. In the beginning, it was finding an honorable man that was worthy enough and would be proud to call himself a father. I knew I had found him when my dreams of you had become more vivid. I know you're trying to talk to me. So now what am I waiting for? That's a good question. Sometimes I honestly don't know.
I think all I'm waiting on right now is being sure I can be the wisest mother possible, and the only way for me to do that is to go off into the world and explore, dream, and discover. I want to be a mother you can count on and be proud of. Until then, would you like to hear some motherly advice?
If something doesn't feel right to you, it probably isn't. And if it does feel right, then it probably is. Don't ever second guess yourself. If your friends all jump off a bridge, that doesn't mean you should do it. Despite what everyone says, broccoli really is the tastiest food in the universe. Never be afraid to express your opinions on something, but understand there is a good time and a bad time to do so. Yogurt cups make excellent soup containers. Your words can be just as powerful a gift as any material possession. Love yourself before you love anyone else. Animals are just as valuable as any human being. There's no bad day an ice cream cone can't fix. Shoot for the moon, because if you don't make it you'll still have landed among the stars. Don't ever give up on someone just because they're being difficult for a period of time.
There's a lot more I could spout out to you, but I myself am still learning. When we finally meet in person, I'll share the rest with you as well as the many more I've yet to learn. You're going to find life has a lot of uncertainties, but so long as you use them to guide your decisions when things seem mixed up and confusing, you'll be okay. And remember, the one thing you don't ever have to question is that I love you and I'll always love you and will always be proud to call you my child, now and when we finally meet in person, to the day I die.
Until then, little one, I'll see you in my dreams.
I love you,
Mommy
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Well, I'm 27 now. The cut off time is age 30. Basically, the ONLY thing that's stopping us is we don't want to jump in and have children and look back a year from now and wish we had waited a little longer. We also have a money goal we're aiming for that we're going to work hard towards. Once that money limit has been reached we're going to see where we're at in life and talk.
cool. Sounds like you have really thought this one through... that is a good thing. If I might... a suggestion. Go for 2... One doesn't have the constant playmate and doesn't learn to share... and 3 leaves one out for the most part... four is WAY to expensive these days. With 2, they have a playmate to help keep them busy, they learn to share, and the older one will help manage the situation once they get on about 3 or 4... oh... and if you do go for 2... try to keep them within about 2 years of each other... otherwise it don't work. Mine are a year and 10 months apart... they are best friends, and they help mom with their new sibling (the one that isn't mine) X3
We're not entirely sure how many we're going to have but it will definitely be more then one. I was thinking 3 the max, because I am the middle child in a family of 3. We'll see what happens though. We both adore kids, so maybe we'll be one of those huge crazy families with like 8 kids! Lol yeah right xD
I don't know how to put this... Your children do not want to be born. They do not have the capability to want to be born. They have no brains, no cells. They are at this point nothing more than a possibility, and possibilities don't have the ability to want. It's important that you understand that it is you who wants children to be born from your womb. It's you who wants to be pregnant, and who wants to bring them to life, raise them. You are apologizing to children for something they never have, and never will ask you to do, which is to make them alive. The only person you have to apologize though is yourself.
Your children do not ask to be born. You in fact force them to be born. Force them to be alive, combine the sperm and egg that trigger that magnificent chemical reaction we call a human being. You have no way to ask them, or any obligation since at this point they don't even have the ability to care whether they are born or not, so most people don't raise much a whisker at your act of coercion. What I'm trying to say is, the birth of your children is your choice. If you apologize to them for something they didn't want, then you risk that one day they'll realize this, and they'll tell you that they wish they had never been born. It's not that kids actually wish that, it's just the easiest way to express that you were the one who created them, your responsibilty, your credit, and your blame.
Since they do not exist, your decision to have children, and even the act of conception is a completely selfish choice. You are the only one in the room. There is no one to be unselfish about. Not that there's anything wrong with being selfish. You don't have a choice in this case. Nobody will implicitly benefit from your having a child besides yourself, and your uh... husband. Being unselfish is worse than being selfish in fact, for instance I could tell you to have or not have children, and if you listened to me you would be being unselfish, but most would decry you as wrong and mistaken for obeying someone else about how to treat your own body. You brush your teeth selfishly. You wear warm clothing selfishly. And you have children selfishly. Such is the accepted way in "Western" society.
So basically if you try to project your own desires on your as-yet unborn children, I can only see that as a recipe for disaster. Having kids is a selfish choice, and I suppose that's fine, though if I were you I'd ask a few people for advice instead of just making the choice by yourself. Apologizing for waiting so long doesn't make you seem cute, and doesn't make us think you would make a better mother. It only seems like you're denying your own desires, what you want to do for yourself, and your kids will be happier and less conflicted if you make sure they know that their creation was your own damn business and if there's anything to apologize for it's having them.
Your children do not ask to be born. You in fact force them to be born. Force them to be alive, combine the sperm and egg that trigger that magnificent chemical reaction we call a human being. You have no way to ask them, or any obligation since at this point they don't even have the ability to care whether they are born or not, so most people don't raise much a whisker at your act of coercion. What I'm trying to say is, the birth of your children is your choice. If you apologize to them for something they didn't want, then you risk that one day they'll realize this, and they'll tell you that they wish they had never been born. It's not that kids actually wish that, it's just the easiest way to express that you were the one who created them, your responsibilty, your credit, and your blame.
Since they do not exist, your decision to have children, and even the act of conception is a completely selfish choice. You are the only one in the room. There is no one to be unselfish about. Not that there's anything wrong with being selfish. You don't have a choice in this case. Nobody will implicitly benefit from your having a child besides yourself, and your uh... husband. Being unselfish is worse than being selfish in fact, for instance I could tell you to have or not have children, and if you listened to me you would be being unselfish, but most would decry you as wrong and mistaken for obeying someone else about how to treat your own body. You brush your teeth selfishly. You wear warm clothing selfishly. And you have children selfishly. Such is the accepted way in "Western" society.
So basically if you try to project your own desires on your as-yet unborn children, I can only see that as a recipe for disaster. Having kids is a selfish choice, and I suppose that's fine, though if I were you I'd ask a few people for advice instead of just making the choice by yourself. Apologizing for waiting so long doesn't make you seem cute, and doesn't make us think you would make a better mother. It only seems like you're denying your own desires, what you want to do for yourself, and your kids will be happier and less conflicted if you make sure they know that their creation was your own damn business and if there's anything to apologize for it's having them.
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