
YouAreNotInHerDream
Dear L,
My name is Suzanne and I have been in a relationship for almost two years with Karrie, my girlfriend. We are very close and share all of our secrets to one another. We both believe that having a tight bond in our relationship keeps us from drifting apart and also to keep emotional drama stable and rare. But sometimes that bond becomes unstable and over the past few nights, I found out something about her that I am not really pleased about.
There are times at night where I would listen to her talk in her sleep. Sometimes they are embarrassing dreams I ask about in the morning, or they are just constant whimpers and purrs. I do not hide the fact that sometimes I find her “in the mood” while she sleeps, and that is when I start to have a little “fun” with her. She does the same to me from time to time, and she openly admits it. But, one night, I found out something about her when she was having an erotic dream. She used to moan my name several times, but last week, she said a different name. I knew she wasn’t playing a trick on me because I know when she is pretending or a sleep. She moaned the name of her ex-boyfriend who she are still friends with. I thought that it was just a passing name, but she said that name more and more. I never mentioned it to her. I cant help but to continue to please her while she dreamed about him. I don’t enjoy it, but if it makes her feel good, then I will do it…
Right now, I am concerned that she will go back to her ex-boyfriend, or is already seeing him behind my back. She said that I was her first female lover and she cares so much about me, but is she right now having second thoughts about going back to males? Should I let her go to her ex-boyfriend and not ask about it? What about when she mentioned his name when she is asleep? I want to bring it up to her, but she is very fragile and I don’t want to cause any emotional downfall.
L, should I just leave things just the way they are, or should I confess that I am now worried about our relationship and her sexually fantasizing about her ex-boyfriend? I don’t want to break up with her, but I cant continue to have her continuously thinking about him while we make love…How can I bring my point up to her? What if she really does have sex with him behind my back? Please respond as quickly as you can. This is really making me uneasy and worried.
Thank you,
- Suzanne J.
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Being in a deep sleep is much like hypnosis. While that person is dreaming, you can alter their dreams by whispering into their ear, touching their hand or massaging their body. Sometimes, they slowly wake up, half awake and half asleep. They might not remember what just happened when they woke up because their mind is still a sleep and they are still dreaming when conscious. During this state, if you ask a question, chances are that the one who is asleep will answer. The answer might not be complete, but it might give enough information about what is going through their dream world. Sometimes, the answer is not what you wanted to hear. Chances are they might tell the truth, expel their secrets to you when they don’t realize it.
- Ookami Kemono
YouAreNotInHerDream © 2007 Alex Cockburn
Dear L © 2007 Alex Cockburn. All rights reserved.
My name is Suzanne and I have been in a relationship for almost two years with Karrie, my girlfriend. We are very close and share all of our secrets to one another. We both believe that having a tight bond in our relationship keeps us from drifting apart and also to keep emotional drama stable and rare. But sometimes that bond becomes unstable and over the past few nights, I found out something about her that I am not really pleased about.
There are times at night where I would listen to her talk in her sleep. Sometimes they are embarrassing dreams I ask about in the morning, or they are just constant whimpers and purrs. I do not hide the fact that sometimes I find her “in the mood” while she sleeps, and that is when I start to have a little “fun” with her. She does the same to me from time to time, and she openly admits it. But, one night, I found out something about her when she was having an erotic dream. She used to moan my name several times, but last week, she said a different name. I knew she wasn’t playing a trick on me because I know when she is pretending or a sleep. She moaned the name of her ex-boyfriend who she are still friends with. I thought that it was just a passing name, but she said that name more and more. I never mentioned it to her. I cant help but to continue to please her while she dreamed about him. I don’t enjoy it, but if it makes her feel good, then I will do it…
Right now, I am concerned that she will go back to her ex-boyfriend, or is already seeing him behind my back. She said that I was her first female lover and she cares so much about me, but is she right now having second thoughts about going back to males? Should I let her go to her ex-boyfriend and not ask about it? What about when she mentioned his name when she is asleep? I want to bring it up to her, but she is very fragile and I don’t want to cause any emotional downfall.
L, should I just leave things just the way they are, or should I confess that I am now worried about our relationship and her sexually fantasizing about her ex-boyfriend? I don’t want to break up with her, but I cant continue to have her continuously thinking about him while we make love…How can I bring my point up to her? What if she really does have sex with him behind my back? Please respond as quickly as you can. This is really making me uneasy and worried.
Thank you,
- Suzanne J.
* * *
Being in a deep sleep is much like hypnosis. While that person is dreaming, you can alter their dreams by whispering into their ear, touching their hand or massaging their body. Sometimes, they slowly wake up, half awake and half asleep. They might not remember what just happened when they woke up because their mind is still a sleep and they are still dreaming when conscious. During this state, if you ask a question, chances are that the one who is asleep will answer. The answer might not be complete, but it might give enough information about what is going through their dream world. Sometimes, the answer is not what you wanted to hear. Chances are they might tell the truth, expel their secrets to you when they don’t realize it.
- Ookami Kemono
YouAreNotInHerDream © 2007 Alex Cockburn
Dear L © 2007 Alex Cockburn. All rights reserved.
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Hard question. Fantasies have their ups and down, there isn't a costant timespan for a single fantasy, but real relationships usually don't change with the tide...try talking about it usually it's the only way to know the truth but if you're worried that she may have an emotional downfall then the only thing probably is to choose how do you think could hold on more between you and her 'cause you too are worried and there's always a limit to everything. Never take it to the limit... it's worse...
Hope to heve been of some help.
Great pic, by the way^^
Hard question. Fantasies have their ups and down, there isn't a costant timespan for a single fantasy, but real relationships usually don't change with the tide...try talking about it usually it's the only way to know the truth but if you're worried that she may have an emotional downfall then the only thing probably is to choose how do you think could hold on more between you and her 'cause you too are worried and there's always a limit to everything. Never take it to the limit... it's worse...
Hope to heve been of some help.
Great pic, by the way^^
if anyone tries to wake me up when I'm in a deep sleep I just yell "NO!" very loudly, involunatarilly... just like people jerk their hand away when its burned. I feel asleep in work the other day and it happened when a manager tapped me (during break, just before the shift started up again). lol, oops. "Charlene, wake up..." "NO!"
to the topic... she shouldn't mention the dream, but just ask at some point about the girl's feelings for men and her ex in general. work it in to a conversation without being too confrontational about it.
to the topic... she shouldn't mention the dream, but just ask at some point about the girl's feelings for men and her ex in general. work it in to a conversation without being too confrontational about it.
Dear Suzanne - It is nearly impossible to control one's dreams, especially erotic ones. You could have a dream about your ex, a stranger you met on the bus, someone you never met before, or a teacher, or anyone else in your life. The subconscious likes to play tricks with the rest of the brain, especially when you wake up and wonder 'What the heck was THAT about??" I would not worry about it at all
I've spoken a few times in my sleep, but more often I'm the one watching my friends sleep and listening to their mumblings. When i ask them about it in the morning, they are usually confused and don't remember what they were dreaming about.
I've spoken a few times in my sleep, but more often I'm the one watching my friends sleep and listening to their mumblings. When i ask them about it in the morning, they are usually confused and don't remember what they were dreaming about.
I think puma and turk covered it, pretty well...you can't control your dreams... if its a memory... its good that you can see when they are at peace, that they have fond memories of those from thier past... i know i have many fond memories of the woman i "played straight" with...and i know she does too... doesn't mean i'm any less gay... dreams and the subconscious are more "honest" usually, yes, but they are also just as fickle and wandering...
the good news is, as long as one doesn't "freak out" and bring it up normally, its usually easy to breech the subject...and as long as you ensure your lover knows you still love them, and that you're happy that they have fond memories... they should appreciate that love...
Alex, i'm happy to see you back to this kind of stuff... its beautiful... i love it...
the good news is, as long as one doesn't "freak out" and bring it up normally, its usually easy to breech the subject...and as long as you ensure your lover knows you still love them, and that you're happy that they have fond memories... they should appreciate that love...
Alex, i'm happy to see you back to this kind of stuff... its beautiful... i love it...
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