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Vent Journal: Family Broken (Again)
4 years ago
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Dear Furiends,
Forgive me, but seeing as how finances are tight and I cannot afford therapy at the moment, I need to say this.
My father and his boyfriend have a major dysfunctional, unhealthy relationship. Pops was simping hardcore and the fucker was never pleased and didn't contribute much at all. If anything he would run away despite everything we did for him. Nothing was ever good enough. So he would either ditch us with a huge amount of rage (he has explosive anger issues), or he would blame Pops for kicking him out because the boyfriend would just be aggressive (passive or overtly).
So Yesterday, Pops had to go to a doctor’s appointment. I arrived home after running errands, and when I sat down to eat the doorbell rang. The boyfriend. So I open it and walk away (I've avoided him for months and ignored his existence) when he tells me
“Zeric? I just want to tell you, you won't be seeing me again.” He goes into the closet in Pops’ room and starts collecting his shit. Pops was blindsided. Yesterday the bastard was saying how much he loved Pops and how much he cared for him, yet waits until he knows Pops wouldn't be home to cut n run saying “I didn't want to start an altercation,” yet proceeds to say how Pops is at fault for me ignoring the bastard (lie) and just painting himself as the poor helpless victim. Chicken. Shit. Bastard. He is selfish and when I said that to him, he said “you dont know me.”
“I know what I see. This past Christmas we didn't have a huge party like we usually do. But Pops and I worked to decorate the house because you wanted your daughter to come. We worked, and you went off to visit friends or family. When Pops subtly asked for help, all you said was ‘You’ll get it done.’”
This bastard is opportunistic, cunning, deceitful, and cruel. He was on death's door and not one of his 6 children (all adults with children of their own) came to visit him or ask how he was doing. My father stood by him when even his own brother whom he is living with right now didn't bother to drive him to the hospital. And yet when my father is ailing because of nerves in his back making it impossible to walk, he finds his window of opportunity to cut and run just as he has done previously. I am so fucking sick of this!
My father and his boyfriend have a major dysfunctional, unhealthy relationship. Pops was simping hardcore and the fucker was never pleased and didn't contribute much at all. If anything he would run away despite everything we did for him. Nothing was ever good enough. So he would either ditch us with a huge amount of rage (he has explosive anger issues), or he would blame Pops for kicking him out because the boyfriend would just be aggressive (passive or overtly).
So Yesterday, Pops had to go to a doctor’s appointment. I arrived home after running errands, and when I sat down to eat the doorbell rang. The boyfriend. So I open it and walk away (I've avoided him for months and ignored his existence) when he tells me
“Zeric? I just want to tell you, you won't be seeing me again.” He goes into the closet in Pops’ room and starts collecting his shit. Pops was blindsided. Yesterday the bastard was saying how much he loved Pops and how much he cared for him, yet waits until he knows Pops wouldn't be home to cut n run saying “I didn't want to start an altercation,” yet proceeds to say how Pops is at fault for me ignoring the bastard (lie) and just painting himself as the poor helpless victim. Chicken. Shit. Bastard. He is selfish and when I said that to him, he said “you dont know me.”
“I know what I see. This past Christmas we didn't have a huge party like we usually do. But Pops and I worked to decorate the house because you wanted your daughter to come. We worked, and you went off to visit friends or family. When Pops subtly asked for help, all you said was ‘You’ll get it done.’”
This bastard is opportunistic, cunning, deceitful, and cruel. He was on death's door and not one of his 6 children (all adults with children of their own) came to visit him or ask how he was doing. My father stood by him when even his own brother whom he is living with right now didn't bother to drive him to the hospital. And yet when my father is ailing because of nerves in his back making it impossible to walk, he finds his window of opportunity to cut and run just as he has done previously. I am so fucking sick of this!
*hugs you*
As shitty as the fallout may be, I'm sure things will be way better now that he's gone. At least you won't have to avoid him! You may have to council yer pops on his (potentially?) broken heart. Gay drama is oft the worst drama, cuz so much immaturity crops up due to a lack of properly being able to explore sexuality and relationships at a younger age...hopefully, things generally get better! :/ I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. *Hugs*