The fact is that multiple people tried to educate you and you decided you knew better. That just because your friends weren't offended didn't mean other trans people weren't made super uncomfortable, then you went ahead and told a trans person they were 'drowning in a glass of water' for suggesting they were hurt that you

1) would use the language
and
2) would not listen to the three or four people TRYING to educate you.

You're truly only sorry that it now has repercussions, causing you to lose the respect of other artists.

If you do actually care about learning, then here's a tip of you; the H word is also a slur used against intersex people. Call them what they are. Intersex. Offer 'alternate genitals' if that's what you want to offer in your auctions. Trans bodies are completely varied and do not fit one certain criteria, but the sexualization and fetishization of specific bodies, particularly those of intersex and trans women, is not on.

If it's important to you, you will consider what I have to say, what the people who tried to help you were trying to say. Cheers.

Even though I never used it to refer to a real person, I apologized for the offense and asked what I ended up using to avoid the inconvenience.

That..doesn't matter? You still used it in Front of real people who asked you not to. You've been given alternatives, by them, and me just now. You apologized right after telling them they were overreacting. It's not an inconvenience, you insulted an entire discord of trans people and were rightfully removed for being antagonistic.

If you want to keep justifying why you're in the right by all means, but I gave you alternatives. Cut out the slurs and offer 'alternate genitals' or 'optional genitals' for your adoptables. Hell, just call their junk what it is. Boob options, dick options, etc. It's literally that easy to not be offensive.

I only jumped on here so you don't get it twisted - you were educated. You were asked nicely multiple times over multiple weeks to not post borderline porn in the discord, and politely asked to not use a word that sexualized trans people. You decided to quip that they were making a big thing out of a minor inconvenience when it's not, it's our day to day lives.

Hopefully you actually listen. Either way I've said my piece, both here and on dA. Please don't use my bases going forward. Bye.

I never said I would use it that way.
but thank you, you gave me just what I needed to stop using that word, at least this is an answer that I can use.

Generally the terms for gender that from my view seem best to use for both inclusion and also to ensure people aren't confused are: Male, female, nonbinary, trans male, trans female, genderfluid, and intersex. Outside of those the ones that are commonly known are slurs or are generally viewed as potentially offensive to use in the context of a person, or simply aren't know by that many.