*sending better vibes over to you and your very little one*

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You are announcing this with confidence, and I respect that immensely. I'm sorry for the hurt and deceit you've experienced from your ex.

I hope this upcoming year is full of encouragement and joy in big and small things. And I hope you find the love between you and your cub to be multiplied as time moves forward.

Thank you for your kind words 😊 we could all use a little compassion from the world from time to time.

Me and my babe appreciates your warm thoughts. I very much hope that you have amazing things in your future ❤️

I’m sorry you are going through something so immensely difficult. You will have many people, myself included, cheering you and your little one on. You are worth so much more than that crappy ex’s garbage.

Thank you so much 🥺 it means the world to me that I have such sweet people rooting for me.

Love your icon what a cute character!

Hang in there.

Thank you 😊 I will do my best!

aw no, terrible news... what a coward. does he plan on doing that with every woman he encounters from now on? if he has a car you could go and bang it up, and spray "hope she was worth it" all over it. people will think, "ah look, another guy who cheated on his girl, see?" and watch your ex trying to straighten things out from afar...


aside that, kudos for announcing it like that. I wish you two all the best, and all health you could muster. :)



I'm sure it will be a fluffkitty like you. =^_^=

Haha he does have a car, one of those really cute small ones. I don’t know where he’s staying anymore so it’ll just have to stay a fun thought.

Can’t wait to meet the little scrapper! He’s gonna be a fighter like his mum!

I almost expect future minicomics about your new life being a mom to a fluffy fighter kitten. :D

Comics are actually what I really wanna do, always have. Just can’t afford to do em when I am so broke, I started a patreon forever ago with no supporters so idk.

awh.

Congratulations on the child! I wish it could have been in more ideal circumstances, but nevertheless, you are bringing a new life into this world and should be lauded for your courage.

Regarding your ex, I would recommend establishing paternity and pursuing child support. As you cohabitated, it may still be possible to secure material for DNA samples. Though the process may be challenging, ultimately this would benefit the child in a variety of ways, does not expose oneself to legal risk, and creates a pathway for the child to seek information about their father in the future. Even if a relationship is not needed or desired at this time, at the bare minimum establishing family history vis a-vis health records may be useful in the future.

If he is recalcitrant in the process, you may ultimately decide that the cost/benefit of pursuing this is negative. You're the best person to make this evaluation. I hope that your friends and family are supportive during this time and going forward, and you and your child's health remains strong.

The father is pretty abusive, and by that I mean, as a narcissist he gas lights, and invalidates others, so not a good role model in my book. Also he’s a bit racist and sexist. He also carries that toxic male thought process where he thinks emotions are unmanly, I think they are just human.

I don’t even want his help for child support, anything that requires me to communicate with him period would not outweigh the negatives, unfortunately. If I don’t put him on the birth certificate he can’t even fight for the right for joint custody. I will give my kid the option to meet their dad later in life, once they have some good moral values in place.

I have reached out to him and he’s very much okay not replying and to me that is him forfeiting his place in that boy’s life.

Then you're absolutely making the right call in excising him from your life. He continues to demonstrate his unworthiness as a partner and a father, and the best thing he can do for either of you is to stay away.

If and only if, his family can be civil, you could approach one of them to establish familial medical history if you don't already know it.

Giving your kid the choice to meet him is a noble choice; and I hope for everyone's sake, that by the time your child has matured to that point, the father will have done some growing up himself. Emotions are part of the human experience, and his position on that would be laughably wrong, instead of just wrong, if it wasn't actively harmful to the individual.

Thank you for understanding my position.

I really do hope his dad will have grown up some by then too. Perhaps he’ll have found that no woman will entertain that behavior.

My boy is going to be loving and compassionate. I want him to be a helper in this world, and not a bully.

So sorry to hear about everything that's happening. You're very brave for telling everyone what's going on. I wish you the best of luck and hope that everything falls into place quickly for you and your cub 💙

Thank you Daddy 💟