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Well, a lot happenee in the last six months.
2 years ago
I'll try to keep it short.
Mom visited us 6 months ago on her own to get some time away from her husband. Her husband is losing his memory, probably Alzheimer's. But he refuses to get himself checked for Alzheimer's....cause he is afraid "they'll take his guns."
First 3 months was decent, despite the normal BS from Mom. Like complaining about everything in her life, I am the dumb child, sis is the great child.
After 3 months sis went with Mom to take her home back in Washington state. Only to have her husband be more child like and even forget "how" he shot the bed. Or the wall in the kitchen. From what sis seen, she decided it's best to have Mom come here to live with us. After all four of us (mom, sis, and bro-in-law) chatted in a video call. Sis brought mom back here.
During that time Mom at first ranted and griped about her husband, finding all things to be mad about him. But somewhere from January to now, it flipped to he's just miss understood. And now my sis is the evil child and I am the saint. It's weird and upsetting to now see her do the shit she been doing to me through the years onto my sister. And have her treat me the way she used to treat my sis.
Either way, the house here became a hell hole....which was new for sis and bro-in-law. For me, it was, "Well, hello Mom household, once again...."
Couple weeks ago, everyone was done with each other. And my Bro-in-law escorted Mom back to Washington state. I couldn't cause I got work and can't get time....nor have the funds to be off work. Sis was at her wits end. Her husband at this point understands he done something wrong and agrees he'll see a doc. Will he? That's to be seen. Since his fears go back to his damn guns again, I doubt it. Either way, he now sees my sis as, "one of them libs after my guns.". We don't care about the guns, we care about his mental well being. After all, that saying, "Guns don't kill people. People kill people.". Well, if he's not fully there and don't even know why he accidently shot a wall, or the bed. I would think that it makes sense to either have him see a doc. Or remove the guns. Or what we end up doing , remove our mother.
Anyway, been talking to him again. I lived with them for decades till 2017. He may have been going child like since 2020 for all I know. But I know him enough that I am sure he have no I'll intentions.
But with Mom wanting to go back. I am worried. But not going to stop her. She said she wanted to leave. Then turn around and said she never did.
Either way, she's home now. And both sis and bro-in-law are acting like I normally do after dealing with her at her worst.
The kicker is, before this all started with Mom visiting for a few months, and the eventual move in. I mentioned to them that I been long done trying to deal with her, talk to her, help her. It's all I done as a child. And since I moved to Indiana fully in 2017, it's been nice not having to be at her whims. To deal with her rants, her sudden demands. I been sleeping well and not in desperation to leave the house. Granted, cousin was almost as bad. But still bad enough that I needed to get out of that house too.
Anyway, after all this and seeing how Mom can easily turn on folks with a drop of a hat. And see she have no problem going into the dramatics. Like I seen her destroy things in the past when I was a kid. But never knew the context of things. But see her threaten to trash things, actually trash things. And even at one point run off in public. I am done with her fully. I'll visit, I'll call and talk. But no more entertaining the idea of maybe taking care of her in the future. She's just too much.
And seeing these two here going through the anguish and depressions from dealing with her.....well. their therapist today today suggested maybe they should not try that again. And I agree.
Anyway, that's my drama. While Mom was here, I had no time for myself when I was home. And I am busy at work, so no time for my creative crap. I ended having to decompress....somehow at work. Despite work is what stresses me out. I got some places to go....if I had time and funds. Last part of last year and this year so far been hard on finances to boot.
Ah well, there's my BS entry.
Mom visited us 6 months ago on her own to get some time away from her husband. Her husband is losing his memory, probably Alzheimer's. But he refuses to get himself checked for Alzheimer's....cause he is afraid "they'll take his guns."
First 3 months was decent, despite the normal BS from Mom. Like complaining about everything in her life, I am the dumb child, sis is the great child.
After 3 months sis went with Mom to take her home back in Washington state. Only to have her husband be more child like and even forget "how" he shot the bed. Or the wall in the kitchen. From what sis seen, she decided it's best to have Mom come here to live with us. After all four of us (mom, sis, and bro-in-law) chatted in a video call. Sis brought mom back here.
During that time Mom at first ranted and griped about her husband, finding all things to be mad about him. But somewhere from January to now, it flipped to he's just miss understood. And now my sis is the evil child and I am the saint. It's weird and upsetting to now see her do the shit she been doing to me through the years onto my sister. And have her treat me the way she used to treat my sis.
Either way, the house here became a hell hole....which was new for sis and bro-in-law. For me, it was, "Well, hello Mom household, once again...."
Couple weeks ago, everyone was done with each other. And my Bro-in-law escorted Mom back to Washington state. I couldn't cause I got work and can't get time....nor have the funds to be off work. Sis was at her wits end. Her husband at this point understands he done something wrong and agrees he'll see a doc. Will he? That's to be seen. Since his fears go back to his damn guns again, I doubt it. Either way, he now sees my sis as, "one of them libs after my guns.". We don't care about the guns, we care about his mental well being. After all, that saying, "Guns don't kill people. People kill people.". Well, if he's not fully there and don't even know why he accidently shot a wall, or the bed. I would think that it makes sense to either have him see a doc. Or remove the guns. Or what we end up doing , remove our mother.
Anyway, been talking to him again. I lived with them for decades till 2017. He may have been going child like since 2020 for all I know. But I know him enough that I am sure he have no I'll intentions.
But with Mom wanting to go back. I am worried. But not going to stop her. She said she wanted to leave. Then turn around and said she never did.
Either way, she's home now. And both sis and bro-in-law are acting like I normally do after dealing with her at her worst.
The kicker is, before this all started with Mom visiting for a few months, and the eventual move in. I mentioned to them that I been long done trying to deal with her, talk to her, help her. It's all I done as a child. And since I moved to Indiana fully in 2017, it's been nice not having to be at her whims. To deal with her rants, her sudden demands. I been sleeping well and not in desperation to leave the house. Granted, cousin was almost as bad. But still bad enough that I needed to get out of that house too.
Anyway, after all this and seeing how Mom can easily turn on folks with a drop of a hat. And see she have no problem going into the dramatics. Like I seen her destroy things in the past when I was a kid. But never knew the context of things. But see her threaten to trash things, actually trash things. And even at one point run off in public. I am done with her fully. I'll visit, I'll call and talk. But no more entertaining the idea of maybe taking care of her in the future. She's just too much.
And seeing these two here going through the anguish and depressions from dealing with her.....well. their therapist today today suggested maybe they should not try that again. And I agree.
Anyway, that's my drama. While Mom was here, I had no time for myself when I was home. And I am busy at work, so no time for my creative crap. I ended having to decompress....somehow at work. Despite work is what stresses me out. I got some places to go....if I had time and funds. Last part of last year and this year so far been hard on finances to boot.
Ah well, there's my BS entry.
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