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a year ago
Thank you so much for the condolences and words of support, it really means a lot me, even if I can't reply to each and everyone of you.
My family and me is still busy with preparing for the funeral next week.
At the end of July I'll be taking Mom on holiday to Fuerteventura ( Canary Islands / Spain ) because it was Dad's favorite island and we want to go there and visit his favorite restaurant to commemorate him. And she very badly needs a break.
My grandparents lived in the same house as my parents. Mom had been caring for my grandpa for years before he died in 2021. Then spent 3 years caring for grandma, who only kept whining, complaining, ordering Mom around and pitying herself, not bothering about how Mom or anyone else felt. After grandma seriously hurt her back and had to go to hospital she had to be sent to a nursing home in December 2023, because she couldn't climb stairs and be left alone anymore ( she's 97 years old! ) and Dad simultaneously had a heart attack, had to be reanimated and got water in his lungs. Ironically his lungs were tested over and over again, he had been suffering from COPD ( lung disease ) for years, they did x-rays, ultrasonic, CTs, etc. But only in February when Dad had pain in his upper arm they suddenly suspected bone cancer and it took months to find out that it was one of many metastasis and, in fact, lung cancer.
And you know what? He went to a specialist every 3 months to check his lungs because of the COPD disease. Completely in vain as it turned out.
The doctors could have spared him 2 biopsies ( one of them led to his arm breaking and needing an extra surgery ), CTs, etc. and weeks and months of waiting for test results by doing the quickest and most acurate test first instead of in the end when nothing else had brought clarity. A scintigraphy, which immediately showed them where the metastasis were located, what kind of cancer it was and how much of his body was affected ( pretty much all of it ).
Why didn't they to that right from the start, you may ask? Because of money. Health insurances want to make as much profit as possible and the doctors and hospitals have strict rules which treatments they have to do in what order. The scintigraphy was the most expensive.
My Dad had paid the highest contributions for over 40 years and you know what else? The minute he died his health insurance stopped being valid. Mom has to pay the medical officer who had to come and officially confirm Dad's death herself. With an extra fee because he died on a Sunday. And one day before he died he finally got his pass for severely disabled people.
Thanks, government and health insurance, thanks for nothing.
My family and me is still busy with preparing for the funeral next week.
At the end of July I'll be taking Mom on holiday to Fuerteventura ( Canary Islands / Spain ) because it was Dad's favorite island and we want to go there and visit his favorite restaurant to commemorate him. And she very badly needs a break.
My grandparents lived in the same house as my parents. Mom had been caring for my grandpa for years before he died in 2021. Then spent 3 years caring for grandma, who only kept whining, complaining, ordering Mom around and pitying herself, not bothering about how Mom or anyone else felt. After grandma seriously hurt her back and had to go to hospital she had to be sent to a nursing home in December 2023, because she couldn't climb stairs and be left alone anymore ( she's 97 years old! ) and Dad simultaneously had a heart attack, had to be reanimated and got water in his lungs. Ironically his lungs were tested over and over again, he had been suffering from COPD ( lung disease ) for years, they did x-rays, ultrasonic, CTs, etc. But only in February when Dad had pain in his upper arm they suddenly suspected bone cancer and it took months to find out that it was one of many metastasis and, in fact, lung cancer.
And you know what? He went to a specialist every 3 months to check his lungs because of the COPD disease. Completely in vain as it turned out.
The doctors could have spared him 2 biopsies ( one of them led to his arm breaking and needing an extra surgery ), CTs, etc. and weeks and months of waiting for test results by doing the quickest and most acurate test first instead of in the end when nothing else had brought clarity. A scintigraphy, which immediately showed them where the metastasis were located, what kind of cancer it was and how much of his body was affected ( pretty much all of it ).
Why didn't they to that right from the start, you may ask? Because of money. Health insurances want to make as much profit as possible and the doctors and hospitals have strict rules which treatments they have to do in what order. The scintigraphy was the most expensive.
My Dad had paid the highest contributions for over 40 years and you know what else? The minute he died his health insurance stopped being valid. Mom has to pay the medical officer who had to come and officially confirm Dad's death herself. With an extra fee because he died on a Sunday. And one day before he died he finally got his pass for severely disabled people.
Thanks, government and health insurance, thanks for nothing.
Vor allem das viele Krankenhäuser privatisiert sind. Und man hat wirklich das Gefühl über den Tisch gezogen und nicht richtig versorgt zu werden obwohl sie es könnten.
Als ich das letzte mal in einem Krankenhaus war, war ich verblüfft darüber, das die rechte Hand, nicht zu wissen schien was die linke tut. So viel unnötiges Leid und Bullshit >.<
Ich hätte schon eine Woche früher entlassen werden können wenn sie mir die Medis nur mitgegeben hätten, anstatt dort weiterhin gefoltert zu werden.
Tut mir schrecklich Leid, das was dein Dad durchmachen musste :(
Das mit der rechten und linken Hand haben wir die letzten Monate auch erlebt ( eigentlich auch schon vor Jahren als mein Opa immer wieder operiert werden musste ). Was man immer nachfragen und rumtelefonieren musste, um mal herauszufinden, was jetzt eigentlich passiert und wann und ob es schon Diagnosen und Pläne gibt. Da wirste wahnsinnig.
My mother passed in September. I miss her every hour.
Losing my Mom is the worst thing I can imagine.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with all this, which both likely led to his early passing, and is burdening your finances after the fact.
I wonder how much it will take for people to finally collectively say they've had enough of this system? More and more people have a story similar to this.