Update;; Whats Been Happening..
a year ago
Hey everyone ;w;
I apologize for the lack of updates and artwork for the past month;; I've been wanting to wait till things seemed to look up a bit, but two weeks ago my dad has suffered from a brain aneurysm/stroke. We we're able to get him to the hospital in time for them to perform the surgery;; and once the surgery was finished, it was a waiting game to see if he would survive the next 14 days...I was an absolute wreck during this...I couldn't think, eat, or drink. My dad is my absolute world; he is the reason for everything that I am.
Thankfully I wasn't alone, my family and my friends have kept me comforted during this time. I wouldn't have lasted without them. And everyone's overwhelming support during this time;; has been extremely appreciated ;;
My brother drove the two of us out of town every day since he was hospitalized and stayed by his side for as long as we could;; We're still visiting him everyday.
The two scary weeks have officially passed yesterday, and dad is now being moved out of the ICU into his own room in the hospital; despite him being out of ICU, he still needs to stay on clinical watch for the next 21 days; just to make sure everything is still healing properly ;w; He sadly can't move the left side of his body, but the doctors say that his muscles still work and that they are not permanently damaged; so we can fix that with physical therapy and time QvQ
During all this; I'm also in the process of learning and figuring out my fathers financial situation with bills and insurance;; It's been extremely stressful, but i'm slowly figuring it out;; Especially since my dad cannot communicate with us;; One day at a time ;v;
Despite all that's going on; I decided to still partake in my Seasonal Job this year. I know my dad would be so pissed if I skipped a year because of him, he would want me to work and make sure I was financially stable for the next couple of months;;
So yea;; I've been officially re-hired a couple days ago, and currently have no start date; but they usually start around the first week of October
I am so insanely sorry for those who have been waiting patiently for their artwork;; I was trying so hard to catch up on some overdue queues but sadly, I have to stop for the time being;;
Since Dads condition is stable as of right now; I should start working on artwork again;; but we'll see. Its hard to really focus right now despite him being stable;; there's always that 'fear' that something will happen overnight...Which in his situation; anything can go from 0-100 really quick; the anxiety has been eating my insides; but I try to stay strong from him and my family
Thank you all for taking the time to read ;; and i'm sorry again for those who have to wait longer, I extremely appreciate everyone's patience with me during this time ;w;
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Edit: 09/16/24: My father has been officially admitted to a hospital to start his physical therapy and so much more;; he's still extremely fatigued and not responding; but I know this type of healing takes a long time. Day by day ;; The place he is at has everything he needs <3 Now it is all on him;;
Thank you all again for your patience with me;; I hope I bring better news a couple months from now; but we shall see;;
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Edit2: 10/02/24: My dads condition is still the same, but everything else about him is healthy. The doctor mentioned that his brain activity is actually active enough for him that he should be awake and responsive; but he's not;; he's still extremely fatigued and tired. So they're currently stumped about that;; the doctor recommends that my brother and I move him around a lot more; but its so hard to see him cause of the driving distance;; my dad is now 3 hours away;;
But he does still slightly follow commands and we got a video of him holding my brothers hand when asked, so the doctor and nurses now know that he is actually improving; they just haven't been seeing it
Sadly we can't see him as much since he's in a hospital 3 hours away; my brother and I have been going two times a week to see him; but gas money has been draining our banks;; its extremely rough right now;;
Right now my brother and I are in the process of trying to get POA of our mother; so we can properly take care of their financial bills and make sure mom is still taken care of in the skilled facility shes currently in. Luckily my mom is barely coherent enough to approve a POA. So only time will tell if they accept it or not
My dad also didn't do his taxes this year; so we're also currently trying to figure that out and get those done too;; its been extremely exhausting trying to figure out everything. But my brother is a rock; he's been doing absolutely amazing; we got this <3 ;w;
I'm just sadly gonna be still busy till we get all this stuff settled;; once we get POA of mom; things should be SUPER smooth sailing...
I apologize for the lack of updates and artwork for the past month;; I've been wanting to wait till things seemed to look up a bit, but two weeks ago my dad has suffered from a brain aneurysm/stroke. We we're able to get him to the hospital in time for them to perform the surgery;; and once the surgery was finished, it was a waiting game to see if he would survive the next 14 days...I was an absolute wreck during this...I couldn't think, eat, or drink. My dad is my absolute world; he is the reason for everything that I am.
Thankfully I wasn't alone, my family and my friends have kept me comforted during this time. I wouldn't have lasted without them. And everyone's overwhelming support during this time;; has been extremely appreciated ;;
My brother drove the two of us out of town every day since he was hospitalized and stayed by his side for as long as we could;; We're still visiting him everyday.
The two scary weeks have officially passed yesterday, and dad is now being moved out of the ICU into his own room in the hospital; despite him being out of ICU, he still needs to stay on clinical watch for the next 21 days; just to make sure everything is still healing properly ;w; He sadly can't move the left side of his body, but the doctors say that his muscles still work and that they are not permanently damaged; so we can fix that with physical therapy and time QvQ
During all this; I'm also in the process of learning and figuring out my fathers financial situation with bills and insurance;; It's been extremely stressful, but i'm slowly figuring it out;; Especially since my dad cannot communicate with us;; One day at a time ;v;
Despite all that's going on; I decided to still partake in my Seasonal Job this year. I know my dad would be so pissed if I skipped a year because of him, he would want me to work and make sure I was financially stable for the next couple of months;;
So yea;; I've been officially re-hired a couple days ago, and currently have no start date; but they usually start around the first week of October
I am so insanely sorry for those who have been waiting patiently for their artwork;; I was trying so hard to catch up on some overdue queues but sadly, I have to stop for the time being;;
Since Dads condition is stable as of right now; I should start working on artwork again;; but we'll see. Its hard to really focus right now despite him being stable;; there's always that 'fear' that something will happen overnight...Which in his situation; anything can go from 0-100 really quick; the anxiety has been eating my insides; but I try to stay strong from him and my family
Thank you all for taking the time to read ;; and i'm sorry again for those who have to wait longer, I extremely appreciate everyone's patience with me during this time ;w;
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Edit: 09/16/24: My father has been officially admitted to a hospital to start his physical therapy and so much more;; he's still extremely fatigued and not responding; but I know this type of healing takes a long time. Day by day ;; The place he is at has everything he needs <3 Now it is all on him;;
Thank you all again for your patience with me;; I hope I bring better news a couple months from now; but we shall see;;
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Edit2: 10/02/24: My dads condition is still the same, but everything else about him is healthy. The doctor mentioned that his brain activity is actually active enough for him that he should be awake and responsive; but he's not;; he's still extremely fatigued and tired. So they're currently stumped about that;; the doctor recommends that my brother and I move him around a lot more; but its so hard to see him cause of the driving distance;; my dad is now 3 hours away;;
But he does still slightly follow commands and we got a video of him holding my brothers hand when asked, so the doctor and nurses now know that he is actually improving; they just haven't been seeing it
Sadly we can't see him as much since he's in a hospital 3 hours away; my brother and I have been going two times a week to see him; but gas money has been draining our banks;; its extremely rough right now;;
Right now my brother and I are in the process of trying to get POA of our mother; so we can properly take care of their financial bills and make sure mom is still taken care of in the skilled facility shes currently in. Luckily my mom is barely coherent enough to approve a POA. So only time will tell if they accept it or not
My dad also didn't do his taxes this year; so we're also currently trying to figure that out and get those done too;; its been extremely exhausting trying to figure out everything. But my brother is a rock; he's been doing absolutely amazing; we got this <3 ;w;
I'm just sadly gonna be still busy till we get all this stuff settled;; once we get POA of mom; things should be SUPER smooth sailing...
Hoping for things to keep improving.
And there's no need to apologise for wait times at all, life and family are more important in my opinion ^^
Also, communication is important to keep friends in the loop... you'll NEED them, so PLEASE ask trusted friends if you need help with something, or even just need someone to talk/vent/etc. with. It really does help, and folks wouldn't (or at least shouldn't) offer to listen if they didn't mean it.
I don't really know you super-well, or I'd offer. Sorry.
Please DO talk when you need it. When someone you care a lot about is in distress, it just feels like it would be easier if it was you yourself suffering instead of them. Feeling helpless hurts.
Also, don't try to be a superman... if you need help with practical things like paperwork or legal stuffs, please be realistic enough to know when it's time to call for backup or more expertise.
I feel helpless because I can't really do much for you, so hopefully this helps.
Good to hear that your dad is on a better track now. I at least have some understanding of how this anxiety can eat away at you.