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My stay at this place was Terrible
a year ago
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Something that was meant to be my safe heaven turned out to be a nightmare.
Not everyone you trust is worth trusting enough to live with. Which is the hard lesson I have learned.
6months ago I was meant to move on and up with everything and be better. After fighting so hard to be healthy from walking pneumonia. My whole living situation devolved into hell.
A "friend" if I can ever have called him that. Turned into a malicious prick, after what he calls a betrayal.
But honestly it wasn't. I JUST couldn't keep secrets for a "friend" that constantly telling me I'm going to kick me out of my home, that I pay rent for! And not just rent, I paid my half of the rent, electricity, I bought groceries. Filled the fridge, picked him up from work, took him to work. Not everyday but enough times that it was clearly adding up. And not every time did he compensate me. Which I thought I was doing him a favor, but that getting away from the point. I Cleaned like a fucking servant. All while still going to work at night. Let me tell you it wore me to the bone. To work at home before work then work more for work then come home to clean up. Basically work more after work.
And still none of this was enough to not be harrassed, yelled at, knocking on my bedroom door to be argued about something pointless like the dishes. Even if they wasn't my dishes. Just constantly messed with via turning off the AC when I'm sleeping.
Mind you I work at night. So I'm asleep in the hottest part of the day. In the worst room in the house for ac. Of which my room is the smallest with no closet space. And lots more but getting back to the point.
Nothing kept this asshole away from me except court and the cops. Not even begging his gf [the actual apartment lease signer] to please mediate the issues between us. So they dont escalate. That didnt help. Only legal actions helped.
My heart and wallet have been broken over this. And it's been more than embarrassing that I havnt uploaded any work . Especially since I have it done and its beautifully done too. All becuz I dont even have the energy. Let alone energy to take a shower. So where would I find the energy to art?! I didnt.
Hell I didn't even feel comfortable in my own home. Hell I didnt have internet for 3 months even tho I paid for it. Becuz he took away my password. And while it's his service, we agreed to share becuz I was paying for it. That's not all; i paid $1000+ just to be told I couldn't use certain things in the house.
I wasn't allowed to have guests, or use the extra room. Which was supposed to be the room for guests.
I wasn't allowed to do whatever he felt like saying I wasn't allowed. Hell it came to a point where he tried to deny me access to the kitchen or AC. Even the the kitchen is right outside my door. And the temperature in my room is 6°+ hotter than the actual rest of the house! And he KNEW THAT from the start.
Mind you he is not my Landlord nor does he have any authority. His gf is more of my Landlord. But this didnt stop him from acting like it. Or being a general asshole to me. Becuz now he "doesn't like me"
My stay here is coming to a close at the end of this month. And while I am excited about that. Much has suffered in this turmoil of roommate fighting.
I've lost sleep, money, jobs, ect over this during my stay here.. I almost lost my mind.
And I am emotionally tapped out. I feel like a failed artist always promising to do better and life. Just kicks me in the throat. And I spiral out into just trying to survive.
I am refunding everyone I owe art to. This really makes me feel defeated in the worst of ways. I didnt ever get to go out and party. I could escape to my dad's house and that's about it. I almost never see any of my friends. I went to my friend's place may be 2 times in the 9 months that I been living here. I went to the beach 1 time. And I live 10mins from the beach.
There is a lot more but you get the picture. I became a hermit locked in my room. For like 5 months I suffered the heat of my room with the door closed . Just trying to stop the fighting. Trying to tip toe around this man in every sense. It feels like swallowing broken glass. Some times it worked but over all it didnt stop shit. I shrank myself down for nothing. It didnt keep the peace. He would just have his gf talk to me on his behalf. For whatever he felt was an issue. Mind you his girlfriend is an angel. But he walks all over her good natured heart.
Anyways, I am still going to so the art! I dont want to give up and let him win. Becuz I am not going to give up my dreams. Just becuz a bad friend/roommate situation gone wrong. He cannot have this part of my soul!! I wont allow this shit to keep chipping away at me. Lord knows he tried his best.
I can say: I am safe, And I am still working. I just severely had to put everything into the back burner. I fucking hate it.
Fighting almost everyday about pointless shit that I took care of anyways. Especially when he is a pig when I'm home, feels like a sick joke. Like arguing about dishes, knowing full well that he never does ANY cleaning around the house. Even for things he dirtied. You know who cleans: It's me, my boyfriend and his gf that do the cleaning. And we ALWAYS do it. The house stays clean, like a museum house and for who?!? Houses get dirty! That happens. But it was used like a weapon. Just more ammo... another reason he got to argue and fight with me, damn near every day.
Please be careful who you move in with. Even if you are friends for years. I was friends with this guy for 6years. And still if this happened to me. It can happen to anyone. Let my story be a lesson in taking care of yourself 1st. You never know what happens when you over estimate your importance in anyone's life.
I really believed that our friendship would be worth more. And it wasn't. To this day, he knows he was wrong. And to this day he still blames me. What was my "crime"? I didnt, allow myself to be quiet while being threatened. Especially since he pays for NOTHING. HE is living rent FREE by mooching off of his girlfriend. Yes that's right.
He pays no rent, no electricity, no internet and no groceries.
Fucking unbelievable. Sick fuckint joke. But believe it...
Stay safe out there furiends. Bad times dont last forever. Much love, with all my heart. <3
Also RIP Dragoneer my heart just hurts. Dark days my friends....
-ee
Not everyone you trust is worth trusting enough to live with. Which is the hard lesson I have learned.
6months ago I was meant to move on and up with everything and be better. After fighting so hard to be healthy from walking pneumonia. My whole living situation devolved into hell.
A "friend" if I can ever have called him that. Turned into a malicious prick, after what he calls a betrayal.
But honestly it wasn't. I JUST couldn't keep secrets for a "friend" that constantly telling me I'm going to kick me out of my home, that I pay rent for! And not just rent, I paid my half of the rent, electricity, I bought groceries. Filled the fridge, picked him up from work, took him to work. Not everyday but enough times that it was clearly adding up. And not every time did he compensate me. Which I thought I was doing him a favor, but that getting away from the point. I Cleaned like a fucking servant. All while still going to work at night. Let me tell you it wore me to the bone. To work at home before work then work more for work then come home to clean up. Basically work more after work.
And still none of this was enough to not be harrassed, yelled at, knocking on my bedroom door to be argued about something pointless like the dishes. Even if they wasn't my dishes. Just constantly messed with via turning off the AC when I'm sleeping.
Mind you I work at night. So I'm asleep in the hottest part of the day. In the worst room in the house for ac. Of which my room is the smallest with no closet space. And lots more but getting back to the point.
Nothing kept this asshole away from me except court and the cops. Not even begging his gf [the actual apartment lease signer] to please mediate the issues between us. So they dont escalate. That didnt help. Only legal actions helped.
My heart and wallet have been broken over this. And it's been more than embarrassing that I havnt uploaded any work . Especially since I have it done and its beautifully done too. All becuz I dont even have the energy. Let alone energy to take a shower. So where would I find the energy to art?! I didnt.
Hell I didn't even feel comfortable in my own home. Hell I didnt have internet for 3 months even tho I paid for it. Becuz he took away my password. And while it's his service, we agreed to share becuz I was paying for it. That's not all; i paid $1000+ just to be told I couldn't use certain things in the house.
I wasn't allowed to have guests, or use the extra room. Which was supposed to be the room for guests.
I wasn't allowed to do whatever he felt like saying I wasn't allowed. Hell it came to a point where he tried to deny me access to the kitchen or AC. Even the the kitchen is right outside my door. And the temperature in my room is 6°+ hotter than the actual rest of the house! And he KNEW THAT from the start.
Mind you he is not my Landlord nor does he have any authority. His gf is more of my Landlord. But this didnt stop him from acting like it. Or being a general asshole to me. Becuz now he "doesn't like me"
My stay here is coming to a close at the end of this month. And while I am excited about that. Much has suffered in this turmoil of roommate fighting.
I've lost sleep, money, jobs, ect over this during my stay here.. I almost lost my mind.
And I am emotionally tapped out. I feel like a failed artist always promising to do better and life. Just kicks me in the throat. And I spiral out into just trying to survive.
I am refunding everyone I owe art to. This really makes me feel defeated in the worst of ways. I didnt ever get to go out and party. I could escape to my dad's house and that's about it. I almost never see any of my friends. I went to my friend's place may be 2 times in the 9 months that I been living here. I went to the beach 1 time. And I live 10mins from the beach.
There is a lot more but you get the picture. I became a hermit locked in my room. For like 5 months I suffered the heat of my room with the door closed . Just trying to stop the fighting. Trying to tip toe around this man in every sense. It feels like swallowing broken glass. Some times it worked but over all it didnt stop shit. I shrank myself down for nothing. It didnt keep the peace. He would just have his gf talk to me on his behalf. For whatever he felt was an issue. Mind you his girlfriend is an angel. But he walks all over her good natured heart.
Anyways, I am still going to so the art! I dont want to give up and let him win. Becuz I am not going to give up my dreams. Just becuz a bad friend/roommate situation gone wrong. He cannot have this part of my soul!! I wont allow this shit to keep chipping away at me. Lord knows he tried his best.
I can say: I am safe, And I am still working. I just severely had to put everything into the back burner. I fucking hate it.
Fighting almost everyday about pointless shit that I took care of anyways. Especially when he is a pig when I'm home, feels like a sick joke. Like arguing about dishes, knowing full well that he never does ANY cleaning around the house. Even for things he dirtied. You know who cleans: It's me, my boyfriend and his gf that do the cleaning. And we ALWAYS do it. The house stays clean, like a museum house and for who?!? Houses get dirty! That happens. But it was used like a weapon. Just more ammo... another reason he got to argue and fight with me, damn near every day.
Please be careful who you move in with. Even if you are friends for years. I was friends with this guy for 6years. And still if this happened to me. It can happen to anyone. Let my story be a lesson in taking care of yourself 1st. You never know what happens when you over estimate your importance in anyone's life.
I really believed that our friendship would be worth more. And it wasn't. To this day, he knows he was wrong. And to this day he still blames me. What was my "crime"? I didnt, allow myself to be quiet while being threatened. Especially since he pays for NOTHING. HE is living rent FREE by mooching off of his girlfriend. Yes that's right.
He pays no rent, no electricity, no internet and no groceries.
Fucking unbelievable. Sick fuckint joke. But believe it...
Stay safe out there furiends. Bad times dont last forever. Much love, with all my heart. <3
Also RIP Dragoneer my heart just hurts. Dark days my friends....
-ee
Roommates. That situation can definitely be tough. I've made and lost friends because of that.
Some of my experiences have been positive, some have not. I should definitely have been more picky in some situations.
Your situation there sounds particularly hellish. I suppose that the good thing is that you'll be out of there soon. I really hope that your next situation will be a good one.
I had a longtime friend who I lived in two houses with, but he ended up showing his true colors by lying to me and trying to bully me. Sadly, I hope to never see him again.
My next situation will be me living on my own again. I dont care how hard i gotta grind. I cant put myself in this again.
So i fully understand when you said. That you hope to never see him again. I felt that in my soul...