It becomes apparent that all we have at the end of the day is each other. I know many of you are upset right now, feeling listless, hurt, betrayed, and terrified of the future. I get it, I really really do. For those who don't know I'm disabled and trans. Ive had Really bad medical issues since I was 13 years old and had to basically fight tooth and nail for 8 years with doctors for them to figure out what's wrong with me. There wasn't a term for what that was, at the time and now there's semi offical one but it's very rare. After the diagnosis I spent about a year in limbo before being approved for social security disability, social security disability insurance, Medicare, and Medicaid. Due to my young age and the recently passed affordable care act, also known as Obama care I was able to remain on my parents insurance as well.

Many people say my lot in life is unfair and to this day my family still thinks I'll magically get better. That one day I'll wake up and be able to go to college and get a job, get married, have kids, and then retire. It's a projected expectation by folks who don't really know me. They don't know I'm asexual. Or trans (i just started hrt a year ago, although I can only do remarkably small doses due to my medical issues). They certainly don't know I'm in a loving long distance poly relationship and won't have any idea to respond to me being otherkin. They still make awful jokes about me being agnostic despite ample evidence to the contrary. They also know I'm a leftist and tend to give me massive shit about it too.

So trust me when I say I get it. And I get how shitty the next few months are going to be without even addressing the return of the 45th administration. We all have family members who are super excited and happy right now, poised to drink in how much all of us are in pain. Do yourself a favor and skip Thanksgiving and maybe Christmas, even if it's hard. Send your folks a card and maybe write out something heartfelt once you can think better in it's place.

Because at the end of the day we need to elan on one another and try to show grace as well as empathy. Many people on our family and communities will not respond to thatnand instead break any attempts to get them to understand. That's a sign that you need to distance yourself. Others are going to become numb and tuned out as they focus only on themselves. These are the people you need to truely reach out to, to try and show them that there's a path forward because they are lost right now.

I know this will take a lot of effort, and a lot of spoons. But, I told all of you about my situation to highlight how utterly devestated and heartbroken I was last night. Now that I'm past that storm, looking forwards as someone who survived Bush and Trump 1 as well as countless other hardships including living in highly abusive places, natural disasters, and more; well. The only reason I'm still here is because of those I love and consider kin.

Chances are, no matter what happens the united states is going to change dramatically over the next four years. It's going to resemble less of a connected nation and more of a confederacy or union of smaller nations. For some of us, those nations will openly be trying to destroy us through at best, legal and political ratfuckery. You will NEED to leave these places and head to safer areas in the United States. If things get truely dire we will need to apply for political asylum elsewhere however I suspect New York and North of that as well as Hawaii and the west coast will be safe. Despite the results and history, I suspect Pennsylvania, Maryland, and Virginia may also be viable but it's hard to say. If you arnt in these areas begin to plan your exit. Ideas of fleeing the country before things get dire will be difficult not just due to monitary reasons but the fact that most countries do not want refugees, even from America.

But, we need to remember that atleast half the country is on our side. That there are communities and good people out there who want to stand with us. Who understand that the beauty of America is its diversity, tolerance, and social welfare. Our best, our very best defense is to reinforce these communities. To get to know our neighbors, to set up means of self sufficiency, and to ensure we're all in this together. That's also why moving somewhere that's more accepting, especially with people you love is important. I know how hard it is, to pack up your life and to flee from an abuser. It's worth it, and yes; soemtimes the abuser can be a state. Do it anyway. Trust me, itel be hard then it will get better.

For those who feel a bit more secure in your identity and chances to not be declared a second class citizen or worse you still need to prepare. Many of us may need your help and any skills you can refine will be of assistance. Even having a spare bedroom ready incase some trans teen is trying to flee a conversion camp or a woman needs medical help and networking to find it is a ton. Beyond that though, there's the fact that with the comming mass deregulation many instutions we take for granted will get worse.

Education. Our utilities. Food safety. Social welfare. Medical care. These are the five big ones that come to mind for me. Thankfully, they are all mitigated with a strong community. Talk with your neighbors, form a plan. Get generators, water preservation/purification, and food creation as well as preservation ready. Stockpile medications. Learn first aid. Get shelter ready for guests. Try to find somewhere to live where there's no landlord or they're not a price of shit. Consider looking into how to teach and homeschooling or start going to pta meetings. If you've considered adopting take steps towards it. These are how we are going to stay alive and how we are going to weather this storm whilst saving those we care about.

By living in a way that aligns with the world we want to be in, by being true to ourselves and having empathy we will bring some people to our cause. There will be crulties inflicted upon us, but with strong communities we can endure it. Those of us who are lawyers, those of us with real money and connections, those of us who are doctors or teachers or who have other special skills? Find a way to make yourself know and avaliable to our community. The only way to thrive will be for us to be self sufficient and to find friends in the media. I know many of us hide for our own protection but that may not be an option anymore; and it's better to come out on our terms than to be forced. Prepare.

The silver lining here is some of the shit the next administration wants to do is so unhinged I suspect many Americans won't stand for it once push comes to shove. Many people voted the way they voted because they're tuned out of the media, don't understand or have the curoristy to understand what either party wanted, and ultimately just remember the stimulus checks from Trump and the lack of checks from Biden. It's petty. It's stupid. But that's what it is. There isn't malice in their hearts, just fear and a desire to pay the rent. Stonewall. Vietnam. The current free palistine movement. These are what got people on our side and changed our nation for the better and all of that came from us speaking our truth.

So that's what we must do. To embrace who we are with love, grace, and dignity. To find places we can do this safely, places with protection, and with other marginalized groups who are feeling just what we are feeling right now. It's going to be difficult but it's also going to be okay. Trust me, we can get through this together.

Stay in touch. Get folks on discord and other social media. If you are a creator please consider getting a part time job in case their desire for a porn ban happens. Hone your skills. Prepare your hearth. And hold onto each other.

This storm will pass.

I love you.