My house has been cut in half
4 months ago
So, both my mom's brother and sister died, so it's just me and mom now.
some positives -
- we both have room to breathe now
- we are talking more than we have in years (and she's been receptive to topics of neurodivergence)
- we have room to set up some things that make life more comfortable
- we can make repair and remodeling plans without push-back
- we can actually clean the house properly
negatives? -
- i'll probably be more busy than normal, i have to take on more cleaning/organizing stuff, all grocery shopping and meal prep
- everything costs money
- hauling out things is taking forever because the bin gets full too fast now
maybe i can get myself more organized and put together finally. being able to watch a movie when i want or listen to music without headphones, not being forced into a 'quiet time' between arbitrary hours is so nice. nervous, but looking forward to trying to set up an art studio again. it might be nice if i got my voice again.
also i'm aware all this sounds callous or rude or cruel, but if i'm being honest... neither of these people were nice people.
her brother was a rude, racist, misogynistic douchebag that injected his opinion into conversations he was never a part of. demanded silence from others in the house while being as loud and obnoxious as he wanted. he took over the kitchen (and i mean it, as we clear out his stuff we've gotten a nearly empty pantry and fridge now) with things we weren't allowed to touch and effectively pushed me out of the kitchen so i was forced to basically live out of a mini fridge, microwave and mini air fryer in my room. he started decorating the outside of the house how he wanted with these bright colored trailer park trash style 'abstract art' he made with wood pieces. took all of mom's stuff out of her little storage shed and made her put it downstairs so he could have his stuff in there instead. built an illegal extra shed so he could do his wood stuff without even asking and caused our breakers to pop a lot cause he refused to get his own generator.
it's not like her sister was much better. she moved in with my mom over a decade ago and refused to work or get her ged so her 'job' was to clean the house, grocery shop and cook. but she'd only buy microwave meals/snacks or quick-cook pasta and carb-heavy bs. she hated vegetables and fruit so would never buy any, even though mom wanted them. she only wiggled a swiffer around on the floors to basically get what looked the worst, never dusted anything. And she held a ton of really ignorant and racist opinions about a lot of things. And even if you talked her around, mom's brother would stick his dick into the conversation and her sister would start parroting all his ignorant ass points again.
i'm not sad they're gone, only sad for my mom since she misses them.
some positives -
- we both have room to breathe now
- we are talking more than we have in years (and she's been receptive to topics of neurodivergence)
- we have room to set up some things that make life more comfortable
- we can make repair and remodeling plans without push-back
- we can actually clean the house properly
negatives? -
- i'll probably be more busy than normal, i have to take on more cleaning/organizing stuff, all grocery shopping and meal prep
- everything costs money
- hauling out things is taking forever because the bin gets full too fast now
maybe i can get myself more organized and put together finally. being able to watch a movie when i want or listen to music without headphones, not being forced into a 'quiet time' between arbitrary hours is so nice. nervous, but looking forward to trying to set up an art studio again. it might be nice if i got my voice again.
also i'm aware all this sounds callous or rude or cruel, but if i'm being honest... neither of these people were nice people.
her brother was a rude, racist, misogynistic douchebag that injected his opinion into conversations he was never a part of. demanded silence from others in the house while being as loud and obnoxious as he wanted. he took over the kitchen (and i mean it, as we clear out his stuff we've gotten a nearly empty pantry and fridge now) with things we weren't allowed to touch and effectively pushed me out of the kitchen so i was forced to basically live out of a mini fridge, microwave and mini air fryer in my room. he started decorating the outside of the house how he wanted with these bright colored trailer park trash style 'abstract art' he made with wood pieces. took all of mom's stuff out of her little storage shed and made her put it downstairs so he could have his stuff in there instead. built an illegal extra shed so he could do his wood stuff without even asking and caused our breakers to pop a lot cause he refused to get his own generator.
it's not like her sister was much better. she moved in with my mom over a decade ago and refused to work or get her ged so her 'job' was to clean the house, grocery shop and cook. but she'd only buy microwave meals/snacks or quick-cook pasta and carb-heavy bs. she hated vegetables and fruit so would never buy any, even though mom wanted them. she only wiggled a swiffer around on the floors to basically get what looked the worst, never dusted anything. And she held a ton of really ignorant and racist opinions about a lot of things. And even if you talked her around, mom's brother would stick his dick into the conversation and her sister would start parroting all his ignorant ass points again.
i'm not sad they're gone, only sad for my mom since she misses them.
step 2: worry about that after step 1.
Hopefully more healing can begin without anything festering, aye?
it's like literally everything i am or do they hated x.x and the levels of hypocrisy might have broke the scales
I hope things trend now for the better ^^