absolutely not, I've been with the fandom for many, many years, literally half my life. I've had good times and bad but mostly good, made some incredible friends who keep me sane and made some lovely OC's and gotten incredible art and to give it all up for one new person? No way. Hard no.

As they say relationships come and go, but friends (especially good ones) are forever

No, they fuck off, a relation can always fall appart anytime while friendship stay for a long time, u can replace a life partner, but u cant replace a friend.
At the best, everything should be perfect if the partner is also from the fandom, so everyone's happy

Friendship always exceeds relationships. When relationships end, we turn to friends for support

exactly, but actually getting support from them before, during and after the relationship end

Absolutely not.

My partner would understand it's a big part of my life, my creative outlet, and that I have more connections than I can count through the fandom.

If they cannot accept that, then the relationship will go nowhere.

The happiness gained from the fandom is a kind of community love which cannot be replicated by a single individual ;V

My OCs are my life’s work, they’re the closest things I’ll ever get to having kids in this life and in the next and no relationship is worth giving them up. So to hell with that. My OCs and life’s work is all I have that was ever truly mine and mine alone, and they’re far beyond more important to me then said partner will ever be.

Yes and No. If we had a healthy relationship, full of chores, busy with the kids and is having fun and sex, then there would be little to no time for the fandom. I'd stay in touch with a few close friends, but only in email. The fandom for me and for many more isn't what it used to be anyways. People comment less, friends dying, leaving, etc. I could give up 95% of it very easily for a full and happy real family life.
Then again, my life partner would understand that I had hobbies before him, and would allow me to keep some of the most important parts of it. I guess I would never give it all up, nor I'd be made to chose one over the other. It should be a healthy mix of both, without one affecting the other!

You're the only one I believe to think its a yes and no, and I think it's ultimately a spectrum of involvement. It's never a clear black or white.

It's also worth thinking, if two furries got together, but the pair decide to never to engage with the fandom any more as a couple, that technical means they've both still 'left' the community

I may have a """healthy""" outlook on real life and fantasy stuff. Sure I have attachments for my e-friends and the stuff I create, and etc. but I might be having a clear line that separates them.

I can better explain it with sex vs. porn. For me irl sex is mostly vanilla, and sometimes we spice it up with some safe, kinky stuff. Porn (be it porn movie or hentai or furry erotica, etc.) is exciting to look at and fantasize about, but obviously I don't want to get raped, or mind wiped, or be strapped onto a fucking machine 24/7, since the flesh is real and weak. The idea and the fantasy is okay in my head, but for me: Porn is not-real, it's either ACTING or a PARODY of sex. Sex on the other side is tamer, a bit more dull, but pleasant, welcomed and accepted by both of us. I do experiment with kinky stuff, but ultimately, I have a clear idea about what's real and what is not.

Same clear line might be there with my furry interests and my real life. Irl will always come first, and is always the most important thing, real friends who know you, bf, family, pets etc. My furry hobby is nice and I will always own it, but for the sake of a functioning real life and relationship I'd bury it deep...and only I'd know where it is and how to access it.

I have also made thoughts about my OCs being adopted, in case I'd decide to not wake up, or similar shizz. If I don't log in to any of my websites for like 2 years straight, my OCs are public domain, and I am iseaki'd to the next world...over 4X you start to think a bit like that.

Nope. Nobody, not even my partner, has the right to tell me what I must do. A Partnership is exactly that: a partnership. Partners are meant to be equals. They are there for each other, but they also must respect each other's own space, as well their differences.

With the exception of illegalities, financial, domestic and social irresponsibility's and emotional and physical abuse, if whatever the other person likes doing is harmless, both to themselves and everyone else around them, no-one can tell them that they must stop based on arbitrary likes and dislikes.

Half my life has been spent in this fandom. It made me who I am. It gave me unforgettable memories and wonderful friends. I wouldn't give that up for anything.

Couldnt said it better, exactly what i think ^

A good partner wouldn't ask their lover to quit their hobby, i personally would find it concerning if a friend got with someone and the person was getting them to do things like that, it seems controlling.

Nope.

No. I don't care about how good the sex is, I don't care how amazing that person is.
If not for this fandom, I would've probably put myself in an early grave years ago. The connections I made here, the friends who have kept me company... A person who asks me to get rid of ALL that, deserves nothing more than to be shown the door.

Nope. That's already a red flag of a manipulative relationship that I want no part of no matter how great they are in bed. Leaving any hobbies or fandom should always be a personal choice, not a relationship requirement. Even if one surrenders their passion for romance that won't buy partner loyalty and the lack of a main hobby can cause conflict down the line. I'm not that desperate for love with one-sided sacrifices. A relationship without compromises, communication and compassion is a doomed relationship.

No way. Someone who tries to cut you off from your existing social circles and relationships sounds like a controlling abuser who wants to isolate you, make you dependent on them for social interaction, and leave you with no one else to turn to.

No, I'm of the mind that does your would-be spouse love you for you, or do they just love the ideal version of you?
Ask important questions;
Why is this change necessary for us to be in a relationship? For an example and really pay attention to the answer "please just do it" or any other short answer with a nothing burger explanation isn't going to cut it and in fact is a big red flag. They're asking you to change an aspect of yourself, you are entitled to know why and how it affects the relationship and why it simply needs to end.

Just to check, are you going to respond to the comments say the truck here

I have no idea what auto correct did at the end there.

*comments that are posted here

Absolutely no chance. Being in the fandom is the biggest part of my life at 30, I’m not just going to toss that all under the rug and leave it all behind.

No.
I'm also not part of any fandom.

Being given an ultimatum for something that isn't harming anyone or causing problems, than it's a personal issue that partner has. That person he/she/brick needs to look into themselves on why it bothers them.

Why? is the question directed towards the partner.

If they ask that of me, they are not worth being with. Nobody has the right to tell me to stop doing a hobby/lose an interest.

nope. I would consider leaving the community, but my art? No way.

And that's besides the point that, if they really love me back, they would be willing to tolerate some amount of furry-ness (even if it is just "I go onto this website every so often)

My dragon is me, I'm practically not in life without him. if my partner asked for this, he wouldn't understand how important it is to me, this is a partner with whom we have too different paths and points of view. Once again, no, no, and no.

Fuck no, nobody will define my personality or identity.
Remember, you dont need anyone in your life, you want them in your life. If you need them then that is not a healthy relationship. Better to be alone than abused.

To me
Thats either controlling behaviour or they have judgemental or historical reservations about the Fandom
I wouldn't do it.
I want someone to accept me for me
Not to have me and change me for what they prefer
Because if you leave and stay with them, is that really you?
Because at the end of the day, id be losing more than just the Fandom, id be losing all the friends and relationships I have made with others
If they wanted me to give up all my art, ocs, physical and digital assets
Yeah no
If that happens, what else are they wanting you to change in the future? Are they gonna want to habe access to everything of yours? Limit who you can talk to? Make plans and obligations that also take your time up?
If that scenario was brought up to me, I would instantly tell them that we weren't compatible
Because if they had hobbies and activities that they liked and they found enjoyment in, and I had my reservations about?
I wouldn't impose on them
Id be taking them for who they are and what they enjoy
Sorry for the rant, just been through it and seen it happen to others way too much

Huge red flag. Now there's two things stopping the relationship going forward! Remember the rule, don't stick your dick in crazy. Today it's the fandom, tomorrow it's your job, then your friends, then your family.

Controlling behavior like that is a non-starter for me. There are plenty of fish in the sea; and if they don't want to date furries, that's fine, but they have no right to ask me to give up that part of myself.

It would be different if we had been together for years, and I decided to join the fandom while knowing they didn't want to be with a furry. Then they would have a leg to stand on. But in the situation you describe, they can take me for who I am or go away.

It doesn't even have to apply to the furry community. We all have our communities, be it sports clubs, gaming circles, D&D groups, cliques, etc. One shouldn't be forced to disassociate themselves with their passion groups just for the love of someone

And yet, love is blind and a lot of people fall victim to giving up too much of what they love to chase love

It's a question of priorities. For most people, the expectation is that the person you love comes first in your life. So there are people who believe it makes sense to give up other things if they conflict for what's supposed to be your highest priority. And there are people who will feel hurt or betrayed if their partners won't give up something important for their sake, because it means they're not the overriding priority.

I do not think this way, but I don't truly fault it. However, even so, this is something that should not come into play until you have made a commitment to each other, whether that be marriage or simply a decision to spend your lives together; and before that ever happens, you should be sure you have a baseline level of compatibility; that there is nothing about either of you that the other cannot accept, or at least learn to live with.

So if someone being a furry -- or a scat fetishist, or a debt collector -- is a dealbreaker, the honorable thing to do is end things before they reach a point where the other person's feelings will be hurt. Not to string them along and then try to force them to change.

No.
Because if I was truly loved by this person: knowing full well I was into the whole Furry thing. Then they know, its part of the deal.
If they are a sticker collecting maniac, or a cat lady, somebody who collects overpriced bullshit Im not into....then thats a package deal.

And....not to be THAT guy. Odds are she might be into much more lucrative and senseless things then me liking Furry Art / Furry Fandom.
I dont do the whole "My Thing is Better then yours" Nope, if you can have your Bullshit, then Im keeping mine.
If this relation ends on my Hobby, then it ends.

As selfish and stupid as that is.....its stupid and selfish to hang a whole relationship on a harmless hobby.

Indeed! Whenever I hear of former furries saying the left "because their partners" doesn't sit well with me. One leaves the fandom not because they should be forced to, it should be a choice from the furry

If that was a condition, then they wouldn't get to the point of being a close partner.

No way, I need Karani.

There is no relationship where the other partner makes a demand like that which will work out. If your partner is deciding which friends and groups are acceptable to you, buckle up for some good ole abuse :/

Looking at how long relationships tend to last these days leads me to say this.

The odds of the relationship being permanent are very low, and because of that, I'd actually say yes.

Odds are you're going to get Friendzoned.