You're stronger than you think <3

in my experience, there's no "the one", just a whole lot of Potential Ones

I reckon that can be a fair take - no one's perfect.

Pretty sure that, since day 1, my profile quote is "Perfection doesn't exist, yet you should always strive for it"

For Someone Like Me To Have Two Girls, It's Better Then One:D

I'm Not A Perfect Guy But Yet Somehow, I Find The Perfect Girls...

My Suggestion Is Don't Try To Hard, Be Yourself No Matter The Flaws...

I may not know your exact feelings, but I felt similar when mine ended. For a while I was wondering if it was worth trying to do long distance, since that was one of his reasons for wanting to separate. But eventually I realized that now that I’d had a relationship, I wanted one again, because it was nice to help someone feel wanted and cared for. So however you feel, those feelings are valid and you should embrace them 💜

Here, it is kind of that I innately have some attention to give - seemingly, some that friends can't fully fulfill, of that makes sense.

Well, if you want someone to yap to or keep you company, I’m happy to help. I typically have nothing to occupy my time when I’m off work

Yeah, yeah, love. Unfortunately, I can't love (I'm aromantic) because I never received love during my childhood or growing up. So I don't know the feeling. :'(

My last "relationship" was also a long-distance relationship, if it was even genuine from the other side. It's been almost 15 years now. Since then, I've been single and very closed to love and relationships, partly because I'm also a lone wolf. :/

But for the past two or three years, I've started to feel very lonely. I don't know if it's simply my depression, which keeps getting to me and keeps me looking for something new to put me down with, or if the loneliness is real after all. 😣
I'm not even sure if I'm ready for a relationship or not.😭

BUT this isn't about me now, it's about you! I hope this opens up a new path for a relationship for you and wish you much success. :) 💪💪🍀🍀

Things are in a weird place for me. I love my partner who I've been with for almost 12 years, but being polyamorous I know that I love several other people as well. They all happen to be in America, and there's an entire ocean in the way.

I believe that I have much more love to give, one if the big reasons that I'm poly, and it takes a lot of inner strength to try and maintain something long distance. However, for the right person (or people) it can definitely be worth it.

Trust your feelings and give yourself the space and time to explore them. Dont feel like you have to chase for "the one", just be you and see what comes your way. Hope this helps 💙

Oh yea, the pond. That was an issue last time - it's harder to see one another when a trip is 1500CAD at least.

I think long distance can work - given the right person, which I may reexplore. I've too much to give.

you are a strong bean and i hope you find that certain someone. Im looking too still but with no luck.

Im sure you will find someone tho

Don't forcefully look for one. Just let it happen naturally if it does

Oh, of course - as crude as it is, relationships are like farts - of you have to force it, probably crap.

But the desire to find that natural attraction is certainly there.

For me the moments of feeling the bond are worth everything else. It always takes two and in the end no one is perfect and every side will have to make do. It's up for each one to decide if the relationship is doing the thing for them that they are looking for.
I would encourage anyone to keep looking and trying. The potential is always there to both make an improvement in someone elses life and in return to feel loved and to feel like you have made a difference. Even if at some point it separates, the happy moments are forged in time.

Just my ramblings. I'm hopeful that I will get there one day myself, currently i'm in a complicated spot but just for the potential I feel its worth to keep trying.

This is surprisingly felt. I often go into my friend's DMs with similar inquiries and thoughts. Me, personally, have always done long distance and I find it very easy, but my partners not so much. A lot of cheating, and a lot of built up frustrations, and it leaves you feeling doubtful. I still wonder to myself if I was the problem in all of it.

I've finally gotten to a point where I'm just single and I'm okay with that, even if at times I kinda go into an emotional spiral and want more. That's where my friends help hold me steady, and then I find like 5 new projects to work on to distract me lol. I think that's my biggest issue - being so busy it intimidates people (I've had people call me intimidating to my face); but I'd rather be intimidating and busy than sad and self doubting. Can't wait forever on people. Someone will accept me eventually.

Hopefully this all makes sense lol. Sometimes I find it easier to relate to someone, so I hope there is something in here that you can relate to.

Oh! I didn't notice that you aren't with Takkju anymore. Unfortunate that things didn't work out between you two. I hope you will fine someone someday.

Just didn't work out with him, I wasnt getting things I needed, conversely.

Unfortunate but understandable.

As someone who did long distance for a long time. Back in the wee days of the internet. I just wanted to give a perspective of it CAN work out. I know alot of people think it can't. But my gf and i have been together since 14 and 15. Long distance, now living together for about 11 years. We've been together for 20 years.

Was it easy? No way. Was it harder then a in person relationship. Possibly, but i wouldn't honestly know. She was my 'one and done' high school sweet heart.

But every relationship takes work on both sides. And trust lots of trust.

Oh, I know it can work, but you need two parties willing to actively work for it, and willing to close that distance in time

You want to find the right one? Use your brewing skills. Entropy's Elixirs will help you find her.

I've been told many a time id make a good husband. XD

I struggle with making efforts to find people myself. I want to know what it's like to be in a relationship, but don't have the drive and inspiration to go out and make those connections. ADHD is so annoying but I'm sure I have other things keeping me back.

Some familiar feelings there. Especially the notion that you could give quite a plenty, but no idea who would even want that. And yeah, distance is certainly a killer. The world seems to also have a pretty cruel sense of humor, putting nice people really, really far away.

Best of luck to you! I kinda gave up, but it's not something I'd recommend to people with good chances of being successful ;)

"The world seems to also have a pretty cruel sense of humor, putting nice people really, really far away."

You are so incredibly right about that...

I truly hope that you can find the one, you definitely seem like a awesome being. Long distance relationships are really hard as there is the lack of physical interaction, but there are ways around it, like video calls, VR chat,... And it is all in a hope to help each other to join together at the same location when able to do so

Of course (though I can't stand VRC anymore for unrelated reasons), just need to have someone willing to put in the legwork

It is totally understandable to want someone who would pull their weight, as teamwork is part of how a relationship will last for a long time

It took me a long while to accept the possibility of a LDR. Mostly because... How could I be SURE I wasn't just being used? How could I know that my loyalty wasn't being used, while the other played and I was left with nothing but empty promises?

Then I decided, I couldn't know if a partner that was near me was being faithful, I've seen so many cheat and disloyalty rampant. So I decided if my heart was in it, I would be to. Now I live with the one who I met online, and was friends with for nearly 2 decades. He's over 40, I'm nearly 40. But we've been together now for 5 years. Almost 6. And have a beautiful 3 year old little girl.

Guess what I'm trying to say, you won't know till you try. My partner and I both don't deal well with monogamy (We've to much desire to play with others), but that's where we've the agreement that if we meet someone online, and we click, so long as the other is made aware, we don't mind what happens. So long as it *stays* online, and no RL photos are exchanged, nor voice sex is done. And if we all click? Well... We've a spare room for a reason ^_-

I see that plenty of others have given their very best to cheer and advice so I wont fill the room with more echoes then due.

All I can tell you, is that your gut is usually right. If you've come to realize that a relationship, long distance or not is what you need, follow your instincts with all your heart.

Yeah, long distance can be tough. That said, there's maybe a little bit of a plus to it? They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and there's definitely at least some truth to that. It does feel absolutely magical every time you and them get to be together in-person. How hard it is outside of the times when you can be together in-person kinda depends on the effort each person puts in to communicate and engage in some kind of long-distance activity. I've been in couple where the effort from the other person in that area just sadly wasn't there.

All the best to you, many people are looking for that special someone out there. The good news is that many people have already and will continue to do so ^^

Rooting for you to find someone that you can treasure <3

Wishing the best for you! 💜

Long distance is extremely challenging... and it's a lot about just how much of it can one take. I do hope you will find someone who will take the challenge head on with you.

might be random, but i feel like linking this video https://youtu.be/vTTEYUh6vco?si=MwSdFS9H7vVJd9yQ

If you're still hesitant on getting back into a long-distance relationship, I would suggest taking more time away from that scene until it slips to the back of your mind. It takes some time to separate your expectations and restructure your romantic habits from a previous relationship. Jumping right into another relationship after getting out of one prior albeit recently can be risky.

If you must seek a partner soon, I suggest trying to look up local meetups of hobby groups first whether it's furry or other hangouts just to see if you click better locally or if you're neutral about it (assuming you have not already tried dating in person).