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When talking to people feels like a chore
a day ago
Sometimes I don't feel like chatting, just because my status is "online" on whatever doesn't mean I'm ready to have a conversation or have the energy for one.
I have so much going on and about upcoming move, and today has also blessed me with a fever so I guess I'm mildly sick.
I'm honestly not that good at telling people that I don't feel like chatting right now. Maybe it does sound stupid because an easier solution would to just never reply until I feel like it, but I often feel obligated to reply, which sparks conversation that I don't feel like having. But I also feel like I overextend myself, too many groups to keep up with, not counting private conversations with individuals.
I already have circles of wonderful friends that I can talk to and not feel this way, but I feel like it's mentally unhealthy for me to continue talking to people that make talking feel like a job. Socializing is supposed to be enjoyable, not exhausting.
I've never been good at socializing in the first place, I've always preferred having few friends over many friends. I just have no idea how to tell people that I'm not interested in talking.
Some people demand too much interaction on a daily basis and it's not something I can provide.
I have so much going on and about upcoming move, and today has also blessed me with a fever so I guess I'm mildly sick.
I'm honestly not that good at telling people that I don't feel like chatting right now. Maybe it does sound stupid because an easier solution would to just never reply until I feel like it, but I often feel obligated to reply, which sparks conversation that I don't feel like having. But I also feel like I overextend myself, too many groups to keep up with, not counting private conversations with individuals.
I already have circles of wonderful friends that I can talk to and not feel this way, but I feel like it's mentally unhealthy for me to continue talking to people that make talking feel like a job. Socializing is supposed to be enjoyable, not exhausting.
I've never been good at socializing in the first place, I've always preferred having few friends over many friends. I just have no idea how to tell people that I'm not interested in talking.
Some people demand too much interaction on a daily basis and it's not something I can provide.
As someone who struggle with this also I know the feeling but sooner you make that adjustment the better. Hope that helps a bit, also hope you're doing well! Love your work btw <3
1. put yourself first, afterwich closest people of yours
2. you gonna offend some but you know, let them be offended, that will be their thing to deal with
I put relevance to people offline and irl, rather than online.
Hence message replies - in my toxic trait I guess - can take a few days or longer sometimes.
But thats also a good filter for people that maybe dont fit into your everyday life for blatant simple aspects as timezones.
usually when something feels draining its the body telling you to cut it a bit shorter, trust your gut instead of my words for it
A while back I straight up told someone "Hey just a heads up if I don't respond I've just gotten distracted I'm not ignoring you I'm just everywhere" and they got offended that I'd make up an excuse to stop talking.
Sometimes you just can't prevent people getting precious over it. Makes you feel like an ass, but best thing to remember, is it's absolutely a manipulation tactic they're using on you to drop everything and cater to them. So best you can, don't feel bad if you just leave people on read.
I've had my fair share of incidents with terminally online people that crash out at me for not giving them enough attention. But, not my problem.
think I also just exhaust myself checking all my social medias it's just to much but I can't let it go, checking my feed for bluesky, FA, YouTube and discord is a lot, I mark as read all my discord servers haha it's bad, perhaps should try to lower people I'm following and mute more discord channels or something, don't know how to get over it haha, it's hard figuring it all out so hope you find a way to make chatting less of a chore.
The people I do wanna talk to never wanna chat, and the people I don't wanna talk to, pounce on every chance to dm me lol.
I wish you good luck and mental health, buddy.