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What do you understand by "I love you"?
2 months ago
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Serious question.
What's your interpretation when someone says they love you, not necessarily in an engaging context?
Everytime I hear that, I struggle hardly...I wonder if I can actually love or if I don't understand feelings at all.
I can't tell if it's my paranoia or my past experiences, but nowadays it feels like that anyone can just "I love you" easily, when their acts don't feel like they're actually loving you.
Am I getting something wrong here, or are people beginning to say those things just to comfort someone?
I'm aware of my disorders, but there's people that I don't feel paranoid at all. This happens in specific cases...mostly the ones where people claims to love me in a matter of days or not enough experience together (talking, knowing each other, playing games, etc).
"Loving me" as in...loving my productions? That's fine, I understand that kind of love.
But loving me in a protective way makes me actually wonder if that's actually true or not, and it sends me into a downwards spiral of thoughts I can't put into words here. It reaches the point of stopping my routine.
All of these makes me have real hard times with intimate/close friends around me.
What is "love" for you?
What's your interpretation when someone says they love you, not necessarily in an engaging context?
Everytime I hear that, I struggle hardly...I wonder if I can actually love or if I don't understand feelings at all.
I can't tell if it's my paranoia or my past experiences, but nowadays it feels like that anyone can just "I love you" easily, when their acts don't feel like they're actually loving you.
Am I getting something wrong here, or are people beginning to say those things just to comfort someone?
I'm aware of my disorders, but there's people that I don't feel paranoid at all. This happens in specific cases...mostly the ones where people claims to love me in a matter of days or not enough experience together (talking, knowing each other, playing games, etc).
"Loving me" as in...loving my productions? That's fine, I understand that kind of love.
But loving me in a protective way makes me actually wonder if that's actually true or not, and it sends me into a downwards spiral of thoughts I can't put into words here. It reaches the point of stopping my routine.
All of these makes me have real hard times with intimate/close friends around me.
What is "love" for you?
I suspect I know what disorder I deal with and this makes it even worse. I have a lot of struggles with close friends without wanting it, no matter how much I try to think logically.
Sometimes I just try to evade love at all costs...I think I'll never learn how to love...