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Achelea, The Dragon Report, June 2, 2010
15 years ago
General
It's been a few months since I've updated my journal, so I thought I'd present a few updates for anyone that reads these. :P
TL;DR
Got Married.
Lost Job in Calexico
Moved back in with Mother in Law.
Started Meds ((Followed with a tangent about meds))
Still have 92 Eclipse GSX and love it
Restoring a 77 Celica GT
Um.. Not a lot. And now, for your reading pleasure. The Updates/Journal
Personal
February 2nd, 2009, I got married to my Fiance. ((Yeah, It's been over a year. :P))
Additionally, I've started to get help and medication to reign in my Rampant ADHD and Aspergers. I've finally accepted that I cannot ignore them, and I need help learning how to focus and train myself.
Job related:
Unfortunately, I got let go from my job in Calexico about 2 months in. Didn't have the time to teach me his methods. Since I got let go, my wife and I tried to live there on our own, but being the highest unemployment region in the nation, we caved in and moved back with her mother. -,-;;;
Art Related
I find trying to draw more difficult than in the past. Possibly because I'm distracted, or my skills have slipped. And I have noticed perspective is my bane! I can't get the general shapes right. If some one helps me get them straight, then the picture will turn out just fine. Otherwise, it doesn't look right.
Car Related
And I've kept my 92 Eclipse GSX. And at this point, she has gained the name Kiara Snowshoe.
And we've also finally got my wife's 77 Celica GT back on the road. Woo!
Below is a Really Long Tangent:
I understand some think claiming to have ADHD, or Aspergers is a cry for attention. The latest "I'm Sick! I got This! It's Not My Fault!" Craze.
And to be perfectly honest, I am inclined to agree.
When some one has constant problems or issues with people or groups, and then tries to justify their actions for the last X years with a sudden diagnosis, it looks fishy. And when the diagnosis just happens to be the current "In" thing, it makes it all the more difficult to believe. It fits a little too perfect, and comes off as a Deus ex Mechina. A cure that will make everyone around them forgive them for what they've done in the past. But it won't. It makes the person seem all the more desperate. A gasping cry for attention, hoping the explanation will let them back in. At that point, regardless of the person's actions before, they will be seen as an attention seeker. Trying too hard, etc etc.
With the Internet today, it's all too easy to read up on the latest diagnosis trends, and read the symptoms and then bounce happily in your seat as you find a "perfect" description of yourself. The symptoms are vague, generalized, and can easily to apply to a wide variety of people and personalities. "I read the symptoms for --Disorder-- and they all fit! I'm like, totally --Disorder--, it explains Everything!" This can be dangerous because most people are not doctors. They only look at what they want to see, and not the whole picture.
A Doctor can talk to some one and identify specific patterns and give a full diagnosis. They can decide the best course of action to help a patient understand, and adapt to the prognosis.
I have records from when I was 16 that shows indications of ADHD and possible Aspergers affliction. I have current paperwork that verifies the severity of afflictions. Not severe to make life unlivable, but not so faint that it's easily overcome and overlooked.
My doctor said I am 'Interesting'. I seem to be a walking contradiction. He sees in me everything he's seen in younger children afflicted with both disorders. But where I stand out is I am not doing what most with Aspergers do. I joined the military. I have somehow managed to maintain a relationship, and I accept my problems and seek help. Which are things that go against most people with the afflictions.
HOWEVER, I am still finding I have not fully adapted yet. I get lost filling out applications, and if I happen to get called for an interview, I get stumped, or I find myself rambling endlessly, or saying something, that while a technical truth, might not be the best way of saying it. And If/when I do get past the interview, if I am not extremely vigilant on the job, I will forget what I am doing and lose my place, or perhaps I will chat with other workers more than I will work. Obviously, these are not ideal work practices, and usually result in being let go. Even though it might frustrate me, I eventually understand what I did wrong.
The Aspergers and Adhd are enough to cause problems, but not enough to be obvious. They are facets of my personality. They do not make anything I've done excusable, nor will I let them become crutches.
I am, and always will be. . .
ME.
TL;DR
Got Married.
Lost Job in Calexico
Moved back in with Mother in Law.
Started Meds ((Followed with a tangent about meds))
Still have 92 Eclipse GSX and love it
Restoring a 77 Celica GT
Um.. Not a lot. And now, for your reading pleasure. The Updates/Journal
Personal
February 2nd, 2009, I got married to my Fiance. ((Yeah, It's been over a year. :P))
Additionally, I've started to get help and medication to reign in my Rampant ADHD and Aspergers. I've finally accepted that I cannot ignore them, and I need help learning how to focus and train myself.
Job related:
Unfortunately, I got let go from my job in Calexico about 2 months in. Didn't have the time to teach me his methods. Since I got let go, my wife and I tried to live there on our own, but being the highest unemployment region in the nation, we caved in and moved back with her mother. -,-;;;
Art Related
I find trying to draw more difficult than in the past. Possibly because I'm distracted, or my skills have slipped. And I have noticed perspective is my bane! I can't get the general shapes right. If some one helps me get them straight, then the picture will turn out just fine. Otherwise, it doesn't look right.
Car Related
And I've kept my 92 Eclipse GSX. And at this point, she has gained the name Kiara Snowshoe.
And we've also finally got my wife's 77 Celica GT back on the road. Woo!
Below is a Really Long Tangent:
I understand some think claiming to have ADHD, or Aspergers is a cry for attention. The latest "I'm Sick! I got This! It's Not My Fault!" Craze.
And to be perfectly honest, I am inclined to agree.
When some one has constant problems or issues with people or groups, and then tries to justify their actions for the last X years with a sudden diagnosis, it looks fishy. And when the diagnosis just happens to be the current "In" thing, it makes it all the more difficult to believe. It fits a little too perfect, and comes off as a Deus ex Mechina. A cure that will make everyone around them forgive them for what they've done in the past. But it won't. It makes the person seem all the more desperate. A gasping cry for attention, hoping the explanation will let them back in. At that point, regardless of the person's actions before, they will be seen as an attention seeker. Trying too hard, etc etc.
With the Internet today, it's all too easy to read up on the latest diagnosis trends, and read the symptoms and then bounce happily in your seat as you find a "perfect" description of yourself. The symptoms are vague, generalized, and can easily to apply to a wide variety of people and personalities. "I read the symptoms for --Disorder-- and they all fit! I'm like, totally --Disorder--, it explains Everything!" This can be dangerous because most people are not doctors. They only look at what they want to see, and not the whole picture.
A Doctor can talk to some one and identify specific patterns and give a full diagnosis. They can decide the best course of action to help a patient understand, and adapt to the prognosis.
I have records from when I was 16 that shows indications of ADHD and possible Aspergers affliction. I have current paperwork that verifies the severity of afflictions. Not severe to make life unlivable, but not so faint that it's easily overcome and overlooked.
My doctor said I am 'Interesting'. I seem to be a walking contradiction. He sees in me everything he's seen in younger children afflicted with both disorders. But where I stand out is I am not doing what most with Aspergers do. I joined the military. I have somehow managed to maintain a relationship, and I accept my problems and seek help. Which are things that go against most people with the afflictions.
HOWEVER, I am still finding I have not fully adapted yet. I get lost filling out applications, and if I happen to get called for an interview, I get stumped, or I find myself rambling endlessly, or saying something, that while a technical truth, might not be the best way of saying it. And If/when I do get past the interview, if I am not extremely vigilant on the job, I will forget what I am doing and lose my place, or perhaps I will chat with other workers more than I will work. Obviously, these are not ideal work practices, and usually result in being let go. Even though it might frustrate me, I eventually understand what I did wrong.
The Aspergers and Adhd are enough to cause problems, but not enough to be obvious. They are facets of my personality. They do not make anything I've done excusable, nor will I let them become crutches.
I am, and always will be. . .
ME.
