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15 years ago
Friendship is the cooperative and supportive relationship between people, or animals. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis.
in my life i have called many a person my friend. and they have called me friend in return. but every now and again i look around at the people i give this wonderful title to and i start to wonder, who can still wear this title with pride among the people i see on a day to day basis. i value friendships much higher then most to top it all off. i try my best to help anyone i call "a friend". weather it comes to money, time, food, touch. you name it. as long as it will not put me in harm i wont take a second thought...it will be done. and then there are the times that i STILL will take harm to myself just for them, and why? because they are a friend.
as i make a small list in my head of friends around me, i cant help but wonder...do they even care? its so hard to ask someone this question. its kinda a catch 22. the mere act of asking this question could ruin a friendship, its showing them that you don't really respect them. that you have to question there friendship to know that it is there. but i really want to know sometimes! cause it gets to the point where they stop doing friendly things to me and as a good friend should do, i just respect whats going on and carry on.
i almost lost a friend over the past few days. and i didn't even know that it was even in question. but with simple communication everything is just fine. but there is a second friend that i have that is doing way to many unfriendly things to me and those around me that i wonder if i should keep trying to be that persons friend or not. i keep trying and trying to stay friends with that person and he isn't doing anything friendly to me in return. I'm sure in time everything will show it's self. but i never like lies or not truths.
within the furry fandom friendship is easy and hard to come by. I'm sure all of you have fallen' to this problem. its super easy to befriend someone over our glorious inter-webs. Ive done it a few times myself. and then there are those that will not even give you the time of day...you don't even get a reply sometime. but its not like you are asking someone for anything, other then simple friendship. is it so hard to want to be friends with others? or to let others be your friends?
but i digress...i really wish there was a simple way to find out. a way of asking but not questioning them. should it be judged on acts alone? should it be something else? am i thinking to deeply into this topic? ...well yes i could be. but this is just kinda who i am inside. i always want to know more about the things that i know. and knowing everything about a friend sounds like something a good friend should do for one another.
what do you think?
in my life i have called many a person my friend. and they have called me friend in return. but every now and again i look around at the people i give this wonderful title to and i start to wonder, who can still wear this title with pride among the people i see on a day to day basis. i value friendships much higher then most to top it all off. i try my best to help anyone i call "a friend". weather it comes to money, time, food, touch. you name it. as long as it will not put me in harm i wont take a second thought...it will be done. and then there are the times that i STILL will take harm to myself just for them, and why? because they are a friend.
as i make a small list in my head of friends around me, i cant help but wonder...do they even care? its so hard to ask someone this question. its kinda a catch 22. the mere act of asking this question could ruin a friendship, its showing them that you don't really respect them. that you have to question there friendship to know that it is there. but i really want to know sometimes! cause it gets to the point where they stop doing friendly things to me and as a good friend should do, i just respect whats going on and carry on.
i almost lost a friend over the past few days. and i didn't even know that it was even in question. but with simple communication everything is just fine. but there is a second friend that i have that is doing way to many unfriendly things to me and those around me that i wonder if i should keep trying to be that persons friend or not. i keep trying and trying to stay friends with that person and he isn't doing anything friendly to me in return. I'm sure in time everything will show it's self. but i never like lies or not truths.
within the furry fandom friendship is easy and hard to come by. I'm sure all of you have fallen' to this problem. its super easy to befriend someone over our glorious inter-webs. Ive done it a few times myself. and then there are those that will not even give you the time of day...you don't even get a reply sometime. but its not like you are asking someone for anything, other then simple friendship. is it so hard to want to be friends with others? or to let others be your friends?
but i digress...i really wish there was a simple way to find out. a way of asking but not questioning them. should it be judged on acts alone? should it be something else? am i thinking to deeply into this topic? ...well yes i could be. but this is just kinda who i am inside. i always want to know more about the things that i know. and knowing everything about a friend sounds like something a good friend should do for one another.
what do you think?
He won't let anyone ruin any type of relationship, from any person, any method.
He's probably sick of it all and wants it all to be in the past, and he will fix it.
So don't give up on him.
:/
Having such qualities helps in a lasting relationship as far as i've seen because there's integrity and the "acts alone" tells alot about an individual as well.^^
I do respect what others call as friends and i feel it boils down to just personal preference or what the people around you feel is comfortable to be around. There are variables when it comes to this and there are no right or wrong answers in most cases.
I'd just pass up as a not my cup of tea thing. ^^
I know not everyones goin' to have perfect good match in terms of views/preferences/ideals. However, personally i feel that some things about that person can be ignored as long as it doesn't cause harm or raises issues. Say for example i don't like baseball and automatically dislike that person that would be unfair.
Being asked to hang out and one does and when the time comes to ask the other, now it doesn't want to hang out, that's unfair.
But in all senses I mean that I wish more people did. I used to wonder the same thing of course time showed if someone really cared for me or not. Break ups, friendship losses, mates lost.
I would never end a friendship to such a question though. The only time I see a friendship ending is when a question turns into an argument about me not spending enough time with the other or blames of me not loving them enough when they have been offline for a month.
As a watcher though I'm always open to talk with you any time Ekans. I wish I could meet more people like you.
Hope everything improves buddy.
And these are Just thoughts of mine. I try and type them out when I can
>_>
What does that have to to. With the topic at hand?
How do you know if someone really cares? You don't know until you're in a bind.
its all about how much you value it. if both of you treat it like it should be, then it will be quite real.
What I don't understand is online only friendships. I've not had good experiences with them.
I hope whatever is troubling you with this person gets resolved. Just look at the flags and decide what you think is best.
I hope the person understands though