Awww, I'm really sorry to hear about that. I know such well-wishment probably doesn't mean a great deal, but I hope you can find yourself the right girl.

Don't worry cooper. I know it's hard but I'm sure you'll find someone.

It's never too late to find a special someone. It's something that you don't really know when will happen, but I know for sure you'll find someone.

Time and patience. Most people do not find anyone they are compatible with for many years, the typical age for those who find someone they spend the rest of their life with is 32-35.
As soon as your put your mind off the subject for a while, someone will unexpectedly pop up. It just takes some patience as time passes.

If you are looking, put yourself out there. Some furs tend to stay in their home too much, and then don't realize how much you need to get out there and explore the world. I don't know your situation, but I am sure there is someone out there for you. If all the jerks and a-holes in the world find someone, you will too!!

Take care fuzzball.

Yeah, I'm totally not a shut in. Im always going out socializing and partying it up. Ha ha maybe I have to become one of those a-holes. Seems like they always have the chicks! lol

Never compromise who you are Coop...

u will find someone i know how u feel........im open........ but i dont think u want a 16 year old teen that has weird thoughts but keep looking

i'm loney too but just be koo with it man.

I can understand how you feel abut that, I to have felt the same way.

Huh I thought it was only us lonely and single women. Who knew? But don't worry I'm sure you'll find someone cause you seem like an awesome person!

Aww thanks!
Yes we must keep searching!

Yes together we shall stand strong and search >:D

Totally know where your coming from an how you feel. :/
but i have learned one thing over the years an thats stuff happends for a reason an the right people come around when you least expect it ^.^ trust me
Hang in there!

there are just ALOT of guys in this fandom. lol and very few girls. its like a needle in a haystack and its the same way with me...but most of the guys are gay in the fandom lol anywho, i suggest plentyoffish.com :3

Yeah even outside of the fandom I have been hitting a losing streak.
Maybe I should get me one of those Russian brides. lol

those always work. she can make you sammiches and be your footrest. xD i kid i kid

I'm 26 and haven't established a long term relationship. Trust me, some of us are just as lonely and single as the guys.

I feel your pain. But it's never too late to hook up with somebody.

Example: My grandma started dating after her divorce in the past few years, and she's pretty happy. So remember, anything is possible!

Good luck with your search, in the ghey world I am also in the same boat...which may suck even worse...cause there are plenty of guys out there. Anyways, going to bowling tomorrow? It'd be nice to see "The Tom" again

I have to come down for one of them, I have a conflict for tomorrow otherwise I would go.

Crap, you're gonna be there? I got stuff to do. Oh well.

Aww I wont be going tomorrow. Im attending a classic VW campout\car show this weekend.

Well although it's going to stink I won't be able to see you, the VW car show sounds pretty awesome! Have a great time.

In the same boat, even more confusion for me lately if I even want someone in my life.

*hugs you tightly* I would have LOVED to be mated to you!! You have the personality i have been looking for in a mate, but it sucks that you live so far away!! Plus i don't know if you'd want a gazelle anyway lol.

You shouldn't throw in the towel at all!! I know exactly how it feels to see others with their bf/gf. I get jealous when i see mates suiting together at cons or outings. Maybe the furries girl are intimated with how popular you are in the fandom.

What are you talking about?! Gazelles are awesome! Yeah the distance thing totally sucks. Man, I'm still kicking myself I didn't hang with you more at AC this year. I seem to always run all over the place like a chicken without a head at cons. I think we would make a badass fursuiting duo!

Yes you should be kicking yourself in the butt...no matter how cute it is LOL. Yes i admit it.... I couldn't help ,but stare at it at AC Don't worry though as i should be doing that myself cause i was so damn intimated by how popular you are. Took me a lot of courage to hug you from behind in the fursuit lodge. Hey.....at least you got to eat my donut *zing*

I totally agree with you that we would make an awesome fursuiting duo *huggles*

Oh my goodness! Long distance isn't that bad. I was with SF for almost a year (my average). I'd fly out to each him every 4 months and visa versa so that we'd see each other every other month. dude this chick... gazelle(!) seems pretty rockin'!

Awwww Thank you so much *huggles and nuzzles*

I'll try to talk to him for you

You shouldn't feel that way. Love comes when you least expect it, just like you find things when you aren't looking for them.

I never thought anyone would look at me twice as well. But then I went into a chat room, someone IMed me, we got talking and everything changed. Just be yourself.

In the fandom here that's an easy answer, there just aren't enough girls in it to be a statistic. Exposure from the amount of unsure bisexuals and homosexuals in the community making people feel even more uncomfortable, lonely and even unsure about themselves doesn't help either.

Personally, I think a lot of that loneliness has to do with people turning to the internet for companionship, rather than joining a social group where they can meet someone in real life. Dating sites, forums, nerd groups aren't very good places to find a girl to spend the rest of your life with especially if they are distant. Let alone if they are being honest with they're typed up profile. They could say anything they want (men and women mind you) just to attract someone to them. Also, the lack of direct, face to face interaction doesn't help people with their confidence and ability to effectively present themselves to one another to even ask someone for a date.

I see it all the time, people never come out of their houses to talk to their neighbors, yet they know most everything that goes on in the neighborhood even if they've never seen daylight in several weeks. I also believe that most people aren't sure what it is they really want. Sure we're lonely and it'd be nice to have someone to share our moments of joy and gladness with in our lives, but who would be best suited for this? You won't find out unless you walk up to someone, talk to them, take them out and get a feel for their personality and quirks to decide if they are a good match for you.

Another problem I see is this outrageous amount of influence and programming in society from marketing and religion. It's so far past the point of being rational now that everyone's afraid for their lives because they think dying alone is going to happen. We see commercials on tv and the radio about how not having the right color teeth is going to shoo some girl away, not having the right car is going to turn everyone's nose away from you, not using a specific body wash is going to make you unattractive.

People are so caught up with fear of not being accepted they forget to stop and take the time to realize just how much of it ISN'T necessary to their survival, sending themselves into a frenzy because they are still by themselves. (friends, family, and anyone else you may think about from time to time apparently doesn't count for some reason..) So these people run around like psychos looking for someone, anyone to fill this void, taking a cornering, lowering a standard there just to satisfy this... thing, which ends in tears and anger and leaves the two involved back where they were at the beginning, all from trying too hard.

I think, if we're to find someone, just let things happen. If you see someone you think might be interesting, approach them. Talk to them, you might be surprised by what you could accomplish just from saying "Hi." to someone in person. Remember the 40 year old virgin? He was happy, alone, older and you know what? He found someone and was happier then he'd been his entire life. Perhaps we should take a lesson from that.

In short, good luck to all of you out there looking and forgive my tl;dnr essay with the hopes you find someone who's right for you. *hugs all*

Thats the thing I don't get. I'm a very outgoing talkitive guy. I talk to eveyone. Everytime I go somewhere in town there are people that know me and stop to talk to me. Im a super social person. Im thinking it actually might have the opposite effect. It may freak people out that Im talking to them.

My apologies. I should have better specified my response as a generalization based on my observations rather than solid facts.

That may be highly possible. Again, with the lack of physical interactions with people they don't know it probably scares them (for some stupid reason) into thinking your a rapist stalking them.

If you ask me, I'd just attribute the situation to "everyone" being afraid of each other and assuming the worst case scenario automatically, not giving anything a chance for something vivacious to happen.

I could be wrong but, those are my opinions. Variances between individuals well... all I can say is for some.. maybe some things just aren't meant to be...

I am sure you will find someone right for you.

I relate to this. For me I feel there is no one for me that could spend a long time relationship with me. I've been alone for too long in my early years until high school and even then it was crap due to crappy friends. I see all the shitheads I grew up with in highschool (now friends on my facebook) getting married having up to three kids for some, having a established career already and I'm only 24. I'm stuck in massive debt and living at home with little to nothing to offer to anyone. All I can say is you're not the only one... There is never one specific problem one can point to as the cause of this dilemma with people it's always a combination of things. not sure what those are though...

I feel your pain, man. Finding someone isn't nearly as easy as movies tend to make it out to be. But hey, as long as you keep looking, I'd imagine you'd find someone. Odds are, if you express an interest in someone, they're not going to do anything drastic in terms of rejection. Just accept it as a possible consequence of a worthwhile endeavor, and perhaps it won't feel so bad.

Just my tidbit of advice... not a whole lot I can say on it, though. Hope it still helps. ^^

Yeah the whole boy meets girl part of the movies just seems like a load of BS to me. Stuff like that just doesn't happen in the real world. Well at least for me anyways.

I've been lonely for a long time now, but I just accepted it and stopped caring all together. I'm not saying you should do that, but just have faith and courage in yourself and don't give up.

Hard to imagine you having trouble when you seem to stand out so much and fun to be with from what I've seen. That doesn't make me feel better since I'm kind of the opposite personality.

 The friend that got me into furry happens to be gay, so pretty much everyone I met through him were too.  I see what you mean, I'm turning 30 and it just seems like everyone is taken by now, and like you said, has the ship sailed to find any great women out there? There are rare crazy examples of wonderful single ladies, but then distance becomes a huge issue if you are looking for someone in the furry fandom.

Or like Eris said, maybe you've become too popular. Good luck, don't give up. Maybe you just need to be more open with your status, but I shouldn't be giving any advice myself considering.

Popufur do tend to make the lesser popular furries feel like they aren't good enough to be mated to them. Like me for example lol. i have to admit though....i was really nice that i got to hug Coopertom at AC ^__^ He's just so huggable!!

Wow.....i really new to read what i write before i hit the pist button *facepaw* My grammar is so shitty at times lol

I'm telling ya man, I dunno what is wrong with the world today, nice dudes like you and I got it tough.

I'm through with dating. Dating is for chumps.
Coopertom, I'm proud of you! I was twice your age when I figured that out.

Lets start the woman haters club just like the little rascals.


Hmm... Wait, lets not.

I hear you bro. Straight or gay, it's a bitch to find someone. :P

Dude, I say this with the total belief that you can attract more chicks than me, and I have a pretty good batting average, and I'm older than you XP! It sounds like you don't use okcupid or plentyoffish, online dating isn't for losers anymore. There are tons of awesome geeks on there, from personal experience. Get out there on dates, you'll get them online, rest assured. I have profiles for both and while its a boring story to meet your mate there but who knows. Do you use Facebook a lot? All my high school crushes are interested in me now, the geeky nice guy is in. You'll be a big hit if you broaden your opportunities,

I really agree with this. You're a desirable person. You're intelligent, loving, creative and hilarious. Even though I get a fair amount of attention in the real world, I try to make the best with my resources and used to use okcupid and maintain an active presence on pounced and facebook. You have a lot of love to give, Coop, but you need to look for the woman who will be best to accept that love and give her's in return.

Yeah my batting average has gone in the toilet when I became more involved with the furry fandom. Furry stuff diverted my attention from other things. I have tried a few dating sites in the past but I hate to say it but it seems like those sites are just full of train wrecks with only a handful of seemingly interesting girls that never get back to you. I'm sorry but dating sites actually ended up getting me a 300 pound stalker girl staring at my house and sending me creepy love letters which took me a year to get away from her. I don't have a facebook or anything like that but thing that gets me are the people I went to high school with. I was a fairly popular guy in High School. Lots of kids knew me and I was cool with everybody minus some jocks and goths but when it came down to someone dating me it was crap! My entire 4 years of high school I only dated 2 girls and that was it. To this day I see people I went to high school with and they are somehow shocked that I don't have a girl yet cause "I'm such a great catch". The real kicker is when you hear this coming from the mouth of some unemployed failure of life with missing teeth as they wrap their arm around their beautiful girlfriend, soon to be wife. What is wrong with this picture? I must be undatable or something.

*pounces from behind* Hey....at least you got to date during high school mister! lol.....I didn't have my first date till i was 20 so hush *nuzzles*

Oh Cooper <3 I hope you find someone. You are a really great guy! When I got to Anthrocon 2010 I was a bit nervous in suit and didn't know what to do, but then I said hi to you and you just made my day <3 Thanks for the compliment on the red converse, heh. But anyway, I'm sure you'll find someone. I think there is a furry dating site called Pounced or something of the sort.

Aww thanks!
It really makes me happy when I find out that I was able to put a smile on someones face or make their day better.
I'll be sure to bring my red converse too next time!

As long as you be yourself, and never EVER base your attraction to girls based solely on their looks, you will find that special someone. She may even be in your life now and you just don't know it yet. That's what happened to me, my mate was right there....and a decade later, so was I lol. The moment you stop worrying about it, it'll seem like no time at all has passed and bam! Girlfriend in your house, messing with your stuff, changing the thermostat, and taking up space in your closet with her stuff. Good times.

Man. I'm the same way. I'll be 27 this December and I am very single. All my life, I can't even get a date. And it's much harder today for women our age to even take us seriously. Sucks big time. Why do us nice guys always come last?

Thats an interesting term, "very single". I should use that one.

Yeah, it sucks being the nice guys.

I know how you feel man
I never had a girlfriend or even a compliment from a woman and I'm 18 and its not like I'm ugly
The problem seems to be that they look more like a friend then a boyfriend accordin to my response to try to have a relationship, they say Im "a nice guy", women in here likes cumbieros and such :S

Even at 18 I remember it being a weird situation. I got alot of the "nice guy" and "you cant really start a relationship cause your still in high shcool". Then college rolls around and your so busy going to school and working to pay for shcool you dont have time for realtionship then get outta college and boom its like everybody you know is hooked up or married. Its like WTF! When did this happen?!

and yes I DO realize I spelled school wrong, TWICE!
Give me a break, its late and I am typing this on a frigging phone cause I have no internet at the moment.

They like bad guys, that insult them, get really really drunk, mostly use drugs and others. [At least womens around my age]
What da hell ladies?? ¬¬
I could never do those things, I would never feel good with myself trying to be another one, but if being me does not work...
What now? Wait more years??
Sometimes I feel just like you and think about give up, each time I got rejected its annoys a lot and I end up depressed because no one even show some kind of interest on me.
But yet I keep trying
'cause those "Pendejas" that rejected me won't beat ME
That special someone is out there somewhere and I "Really" hope all days to find her.

BTW I DO realized them but I was not going to point that out xD
Too bad you still don't have internet though, hope you get back online soon man

One of my best friends out here feels pretty much exactly the same way as you. Fandom, in general, makes it hard to even have a gender balance in friends, and that's ignoring the fact that 104% of the men are gay, so it's really easy to turn any meet into a giant awkward sausage-con.

It kinda sucks, but I can say, having met you once, that you're a million times less awkward than many, many people I know in fandom, so just keep trying and you'll find someone. No bullshit, none of that "There's someone for everyone!" crap, just straight-up "You don't suck so you deserve what you want." :P

Oh come on cooper,
You do not find the ideal woman
It's just time to find
You'll see that someday you will be with that person who really loved like no one
Just wait, you have to be a patient person
you do not have to despair being with anyone
you have to look for that girl who actually shares your tastes and you can find the happiness you seek
Just Wait Cooper, You do not give up

Just Wait ^^

Ugh, yeah...sailing on a similar vessel there friend. It almost seems like the less creepy and less of a total dick you are, the less likely you are at finding a girl. You're at a party and start hitting it off pretty well with someone..and the next thing you know she's of dry humping the biggest ass in the county. Makes me think that the saying "nice guys finish last" is unfortunately too true.....we're going to have to start smackin' bitches and drinking Naty ice. Well here, this should make you feel better.....since none of these guys have girls either

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0bomkgXeDkE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rpeEbvzrxiQ

difference is, these guys will NEVER find a date. You have a chance amn....I mean you are Coopertom for christs sake!!

Yeah that seems almost what happened the night which made me go on this rant. I bumped into an old high school classmate who proceeded to bust my balls how after all these years I still don't have a girl and I'm "the leftover scraps of single guys from the class of 2001". The dude is this biggest scumbag to ever walk the face of this earth, has nothing going for him, is currently living off of welfare checks and somehow he has this gorgeous girl that looks like she belongs on the cover of playboy magazine who is going marry him.

I woudl love to find a woman in general where I live... There's a problem though.

Their all crackheads....

Life ain't fair that's for sure. I feel in the same boat as you.

I've fallen for a few gals in my life, can't get any of 'em to fall for me though.

Definitely feels like that "nice guys finish last" quote is true sometimes.

Just gotta put yourself out there, what's the worst that could happen eh?

I feel your pain man. I remember this being one of the main topics in our first ever YIM conversation. I too am a heterosexual male single fur, and though I am only 23 (my birthday was on the 13th of this month as a matter of fact), I always hate seeing most of my friends with their girlfriends and they are still teenagers, and me without one, as it makes me feel lonely, out of place, and inadequate.

You've met me at AC2010, I'm not a bad looking guy, I just don't seem to have what it takes to find the one for me. Granted, I don't have much of a will or courage/confidence to go out of my way to find one, so I know what my problem is. For years, I've always seemed to fall into the trap that is falling for far away and/or taken chicks.

I wish you luck on your future romance life, it's a crime committed by the universe that you are still single IMO. You're an incredible dude, and it's mind boggling that you haven't been snatched up yet.

*Party Points at you*

I guess the only advice I can offer is to be patient. I went through a similar dry streak that lasted many years. No matter what I did, nothing would happen, was it my attitude? Posture? Hair too short/long? Wardrobe? Too geeky? Not geeky enough? Nice? A-Hole? Nothing was panning out.

It was when I came to the conclusion of "Screw it, I'm just going to be single until I die." that something crazy happened. Women started approaching me...like...all the time. It was enough that my other friends noticed the attention I was getting, and I had no idea what I was doing differently. Someone just opened the flood gates one day...

Unfortunately, the time all this started happening was also the time I dove head-first into the fandom, so I was faced with the dilemma of pursuing these relationships knowing that I would have to eventually have to explain the whole fursuiting thing. That's why I'm still very much single, but I'm OK with that for now...

Maybe the idea of "throwing in the towel" is the very attitude that you need to assume...

I love that song, and yeah being single does suck :<
somebody to spend the days with :\

awwww.... cooper, im sorry u feel that way *hugs* i cant imagine its your fault. ur such an awesome guy to hang out with! im sure u will find someone out there that wants to share their life with u :3

Im in the same boat :( although I'm a bit younger than ya I'm still feeling the exact way. All my friends have girlfriends and ten there is me... And yeah it's sadening. *sigh* I guess time will tell.

Man, I know exactly how you feel. I'm in the same boat as you. I'm 25, and in the last 10 years I've found one person where we shared mutual feelings. Unfortunately, being across the country makes that (at least for now) impossible. :(
If you're in furry fandom and male, pretty much everyone assumes you're gay, so it's extremely hard to meet a potential girlfriend if you're not a flirty type. I'm 25 and pretty much every person I meet that I think I might be able to click with is already in a relationship, which is really disheartening. My main interests/career are computer science degree/jobs, video games, and furry... all of which are heavily male-dominant and a bad place to meet women.

I'm amazed you haven't been able to find someone though, since you're incredibly charismatic. The 2 main suggestions I've gotten are:
1) Try an online dating service
2) Ask female friends to introduce you to their friends.

I wish you luck. Message me any time if you want to vent, gripe, or chat. :3

The real kick in the pants is if I were gay this problem would have never occurred. I'm not giving names but there a few people I had to break their hearts telling them I was straight. It hurt me too cause some of them I consider good friends and I hate to see them that way. It's just mind boggling how the tables would be turned with the dating scene based on my sexual orientation.

Also in the same boat there. :(

Good Morning:

I, too have noticed this trend, and not merely just with "heterosexual" relationships either. In this community, as most know, the male to female ratio seems to be about 9:1, and many MALE furs that I know are still having challenges finding that special someone.

While I can understand, many's desire to find someone quickly, love is never anything that should be rushed. In fact, and this is just *MY* feeling here, and is not meant to infringe on anyone else's beliefs, I would much rather find the one be it take one month, one year, or ten years.

Now, for those of you who are reading this, you are asking, "In what manner is that done?" Believe it or not, the heart is the best indicator of feelings one has for another, and yes this works for guy and girls.

As far as websites go, I have always had good luck with Pounced.org with finding compatible matches for friends or potential "mates".

My thoughts.

All the best,

Rukario

Good luck Cooper! It took me 30 years to find the right girl who can tolerate my furriness!

I didn't find until I was 32...she was 18 @ the time. Talk about taking a chance...it took her almost 1.5 years to make me realize that she was to be my lifemate. So just from my perspective, you kinda have to throw out the book of "typical" when it comes to love that lasts a lifetime.

Honestly cooper, eventually, someone will find you, or you will find someone. Its inevitable that you will find a partner. Hope u find one soon^^ love has this weird way of working i find, that when you are thinking to yourself, hmmmm, noone will ever want to be mah partner, that someone comes along out of teh blue! (thats what happned with mah last gf)

Keep looking for love and you will eventually bump into it!

Steamer Wolf

xx

What is the definition of fatuousness? Adding to this already overflowing thread, that's what. Yet I'm going to try. Just ignore me if I come across as the know it all old guy.

For one thing, you've still got plenty of time left on your biological clock. If you're really interested in the traditional family thing, the fact that you're gainfully employed and own multiple vehicles is already two green checks on your record. I do think it's time for the bachelor pad, though; it will cement your image as a self-reliant kind of guy. And I got no room to speak here, since I lived with my folks after college until I was 27 myself. But it's undeniable that women will view you as husband material more if you've got your own place. If you actually have a mortgage, that's even better; it shows your commitment (yes, the dreaded C word) in a way no other worldly amenity can.

I know that right now the prospect of a, erm, "used" gal isn't an appealing one. And here's hoping that you find one with low mileage. But for future reference... this will likely become less and less important to you. Innocence, stretched to cover too many years, becomes ignorance, and you don't want that. Prof. Harold Hill was right... the "sadder but wiser girl" is often an ideal mate.

Okay, I'm quoting showtunes, I'm going to shut up before I get any gayer about this.

LOL...that's awesome "find one with low mileage" *high five* But yes i totally agree with what you said about how women find a man husband material. I myself want a sense of security cause from the only 2 bf's i ever dated i ended up supporting them It sucked ass....i would work really long hours, cooked, and cleaned for them while they'd only work a few hours a day and then did nothing for the rest of the day. *sigh* That happened to 50/50 relationships....geez

Yay, thanks for the endorsement! I'm always afraid I'm going to say something awkward or just wrong, since I haven't had anything resembling a straight relationship in two decades. But the vast majority of my friends are straight and I've been closely watching them for years. I'm totally supportive of all my friends in the heterosexual lifestyle.

And here's hoping you find yourself a less piggish man! At least less piggish in an ugly, selfish, lack-of-cute-porcine-fursuit way...

I'm pretty sure you'll find someone, or someone will find you soon! Love is f***ing strange with those strange ways of appearing x3

strange, weird, excuse my english x3

Hey, I only met you briefly at AC but you seem like an extremely likable guy. My heart goes out to you and other people in the same situation.

I think you really need to do what most people are afraid to do when it comes to dating. See it as a job, and start working hard at it. Hit up online dating sites, face the fact that a lot of the people you may go on dates with may not like you for who you are but keep working hard. There has got to be some girl out there that will like you. You said being a furry lowers your batting average... well it's okay because love isn't a game anyway. You can fail a million times but the most important thing is that you only really need to succeed once.

poor bee
i've had tons of ~HOT DATES~ but nothing really works for me so far, but you can't let being in a relationship define and dictate who you are -- gotta work on being really happy with YOU first! it's nice to feel like you 'fit' with somebody but it's also rough if you can't find the person that fits best with you, either ;s
furry is a real creepy place to look for ladies, too ... i've dated furry guys and non-furry guys, tho, and there are an equal amount of crappers out there!

keep kickin' it and being the cool, creative guy that you are and i think things will work out for you [and, oh yeah, think about ummm moving closer to your job...]

MURRS AND HUGGLES YA

As many others have mentioned already: ONLINE DATING SITES!! You can find local people easily this way that match you closer to your personality & interests. Initiate conversation with people you think you'd maybe want to meet and if the conversations go well enough try a first date. It usually takes a few days or sometimes a couple weeks to reach the point of that first date but at least you are getting experience & becoming less shy/more comfortable w/the whole dating thing this way.

The only thing I'd worry about is the furry thing. I personally would keep that a secret from anyone I'm dating and "introduce them" to the fandom very carefully so they don't get the wrong idea or write you off as a freak. Lets face it, this fandom is quite broad in why it appeals to people. Some people are in it for the fursuiting/performing, some for the art, some for the yiff...so the last thing you want your potential mate to do is google "furry" and find the encyclopedia dramatica definition.

Good lucks to ya!

The thing with furry is that, from what I've experienced, all furries pretty much have a similar mindset as far as likes, dislikes, etc... I mean, it's not hive mind calibur but it's more in common than most have right off the bat. For example, I've listened to All Fur Radio a bit while hanging out in FurNation in SL, and I never once encountered a song on there I disliked.

I get what you're saying as far as dating random people, you don't want to introduce yourself as furry, but if you're trying to narrow down choices by dating within the fandom, I would think that it's more likely that the two would have a lot in common... Then again this is coming from a guy who hasn't even thought about dating someone else. I'm probably destined to be single just from my fear of commitment / wanderlust.