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15 years ago
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>>> http://zee-wolf.deviantart.com <<< Alright, guys. Rant journal coming up, and a big one, so apologies in advance. Don't read if you don't want to, etc.
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So here's my latest issue: The concept of "mates" in the fandom. Not the idea that it's supposed to embody, being so close to someone that they're that special someone for life. The concept that I imagine being someone's mate means is that they are someone you will never let go, that you will cherish forever, that will be the one person to whom you dedicate your whole life. I embody this in Zy: I love him with all of my heart, and I plan to grow old with him, to live with him... he really is the whole world to me, above all else.
However. The biggest thing that's irked me to date is that so many of the people I've seen in the fandom take that concept and stamp it in the mud. If I wanted to pull out a list it'd be a pretty dang long one. How do they do this? To them, a mate is just a best friend, and it's a status thing. To some, it's about equal to a middle-school relationship: short-lived and for nothing but the sake of saying you had one for all of your friends. And to others? They just jump from person to person, calling each one their mate, and saying they love them so deeply before turning around and going elsewhere.
Forgive my language, but that's just bullshit. It's like taking the very deep, special concept I have and share with my mate and treating it like a toy. It might seem silly to get this upset over it, but it really does get under my skin more than anything else. It's made worse that some people close to me have done this exact same thing... and it's just so frustrating. Especially when I've told some how I feel and they do it again anyway. Not going to name any names; that's unfair. But just know that it's this sort of thing that just drives me up the wall more than anything else.
I understand some people think they're in love when they're not. It happens, and I know it's happened to me before. But at the same time, show a little maturity, folks... if you're "falling in love" with a new person every other week, is it really love, or are you just being confused? Just... ugh.
Anyway, there's my little mini-rant for now... sorry y'all have to listen, but hey, it gets it off my chest, ne?
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So here's my latest issue: The concept of "mates" in the fandom. Not the idea that it's supposed to embody, being so close to someone that they're that special someone for life. The concept that I imagine being someone's mate means is that they are someone you will never let go, that you will cherish forever, that will be the one person to whom you dedicate your whole life. I embody this in Zy: I love him with all of my heart, and I plan to grow old with him, to live with him... he really is the whole world to me, above all else.
However. The biggest thing that's irked me to date is that so many of the people I've seen in the fandom take that concept and stamp it in the mud. If I wanted to pull out a list it'd be a pretty dang long one. How do they do this? To them, a mate is just a best friend, and it's a status thing. To some, it's about equal to a middle-school relationship: short-lived and for nothing but the sake of saying you had one for all of your friends. And to others? They just jump from person to person, calling each one their mate, and saying they love them so deeply before turning around and going elsewhere.
Forgive my language, but that's just bullshit. It's like taking the very deep, special concept I have and share with my mate and treating it like a toy. It might seem silly to get this upset over it, but it really does get under my skin more than anything else. It's made worse that some people close to me have done this exact same thing... and it's just so frustrating. Especially when I've told some how I feel and they do it again anyway. Not going to name any names; that's unfair. But just know that it's this sort of thing that just drives me up the wall more than anything else.
I understand some people think they're in love when they're not. It happens, and I know it's happened to me before. But at the same time, show a little maturity, folks... if you're "falling in love" with a new person every other week, is it really love, or are you just being confused? Just... ugh.
Anyway, there's my little mini-rant for now... sorry y'all have to listen, but hey, it gets it off my chest, ne?
mojalth
Sasuke
Everyone's different. Not only dies "mate" have other meanings in other places, but the very concept of a devoted relationship isn't truly universal within the fandom. I'm sure they don't mean to annoy you... in fact, I once met a man who envied me for being able to be establish a non-physical relationship with a woman... so just try to bear with them.
I don't even use the term myself - boyfriend or partner suit me fine :3
I've seen a few people go through several 'mates' over the course of a few months.
Bottom line is simply this to me: Love isn't something you can stumble in and out of, something petty, or something as shallow as a mate to show off to the fandom... And it's more than a simple connection, and it needs to get treated as such.