i dont get you. you try and help others yet you hide in your shell not letting any one help you. why does it please you to help them? yet your advise might make ones life harder.

I give advice and help those people who tell me their problems. I inform them that my advice is based on my life experience and my profession, whether they choose to take it or not, is up to them.

The main current being that, what i say makes sense to them. If it makes sense, and is logical and reasonable, and they can see its going to help them, then they will choose that path, whether its hard or not. There truth in the old saying of 'Sometimes the right path, isn't the easiest'.

And i don't trust anyone to help me.

I help others because i find it self satisfying, redeeming, and it's important. Thats also why i do the job i do. It makes me feel better, to make others feel better, because chances are, i've been in a position like theirs at some time, and i've felt similiarly (maybe not exactly, but simlarly) to how they are feeling. And i wouldn't actually wish my experiences on anyone.

why dont you trust any one? you dont even want to talk sometimes others may make your life easyer you know your not an expert on problems but its your choice to open up or not i just find it annoying you tell people to admit there feelings about things yet you dont your self. honestly i wouldnt talk to someone who isnt open ether.
also some times one might know how another feels yet the other is still told to tell the one how they feel n it just pushes it in there face making it yet another thing to be confused about so thanks for adding another complication to my life i really dont like letting people down you know.

First of all, i didn't say i was an expert. I don't talk to people or open to some people, because they don't have any business knowing. Just the same as if someone doesn't decide to tell me something, its their choice and i won't push it.

I tell people to admit their feelings to people they trust and think will support them. I would tell my feelings only to someone i thought i could believe in. Not many people are on that list for me, and i have good valid reason for it to be that way.

And just to top things off Smokey, don't tell me i've added a complication to your life. You left a comment and i responded truthfully. I didn't accuse you, i didn't tell you you're wrong for anything and i didn't point out any faults with -you- specifically. So if you have found a complication, you found it on your own, without me saying anything to insinuate it.

So i won't feel bad for you thinking its so complicated to feel like you're letting someone down. I don't even see anywhere in the last couple of comments where you -have- let someone down anyway. So that sentence, was a seemingly pointless one, unless you're calling out for attention. In which case, open up some chat windows and tell people "I want some attention. Talk to me".

so you just dont trust many? meh ok every ones diff i guess. its just got me baffled

n i ment complications with advise youve given to others but yeah i guess from there view it was best for them. dont worry
and the thing bout not wanting to let someone down well once again todo with the advise youve given but i guess not any ones fault -.-
and i wouldnt openly say i want someone to talk to me cause that shows weekness thats my big issue.
oh well dont worry im just giving you mixed msg ere n kinda blaming you for nothing really :/ so dont worry sorry forget bout this.

oh but you know people ask whats the matter offering help cause they care bout you know n you just snap back at them its rather hurtful.

I snap back if they don't just drop the subject when i first ask.

And i find a lot of people think that not simply saying you want attention, and acting out to get it instead is weaker. Because that shows a lack of self esteem and confidence, and when you act out, you hurt other people. Thats weakness. With severe consequences.

You've been blaming me for a lot of nothings, and i've shouldered it Smokey and not gone off my handle at you for them, but you need to let those go. You either like me, or dislike me, you can't keep switching between the two.

oh i have self esteem n confidence issues thats nothing new there but how is admiting it less week then trying to hide i?
and i aint sure why i snap. i can and do snap at any one really and i shoudlnt. once again my same problem of me not talking its annoying me instead i blame someone any one. really sorry i just dont know whats going on any more im worryed youd start a rumar by mistake or something some reason.

I don't start rumours. They find their way to me, i figure out the facts and leave it at that. They usually aren't my business anyway unless someone makes it my business.

Hiding, is weak, is it not? Such as it is out in the world, if you find something a little scary, and you hide, you're surviving, but not by having the courage to face what it is that makes you feel insecure. You're hiding because you're afraid, and -that- is most deffinately a weakness.

A lot of people say its so hard to hold everything in and stay strong, but its a lot damn harder to say it out loud, to yourself and everyone else, and still be strong enough to overcome it. -That- is hard. And its painful. But it takes a lot of strength.

rummars as in you may be mistaken give the wrong impression. such as sedge doesnt like me getting close to sari but his a friend of mine even if he likes me or not. its stuff like that got me defensive before because you try help rag which is far but its not the best move when i got confused. oh well it couldnt of been helped all good for now :/

and so you saying its a bigger weakness to hide it rather then facing your weekness? hmm i should keep this in mind when im trying to be more open. i just dont want to bother people with my problems i just want friends of mind to cheer me up keep me happy but i guess doesnt always work.
every thing will blow over is the view i get in my head alot of the time.