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Update to Roommate situation + Apartment
14 years ago
So I was supposed to look at the apartment this morning, but the guy in charge had apparently called me before I woke up (I don't wake up earlier than 9 on weekends unless I have to) to see if I was still willing to look at the apartment today and that he'd be available until 9:30... but possibly in the afternoon as well. Left a message saying I'd be available better in the afternoon if possible, since I only need to look at the place to get a feel of what it might look like and have maybe three or so question to ask him.
Anyway, as for my Roommate, when our friends left that night and we were getting ready for bed, I pretty much voiced my concerns and laid them all out on the table, using the specific words "Raging Homophobe", "Ignorant", "Dangerous" and many others to describe how my perception of him changed in that one event. We talked and talked and talked. Almost every other word he said was an apology too for scaring me so much to make me not want to go back to the room that night (I almost considered driving down to Silvermane's or Guil's because I was that afraid) and he explained where he was coming from. I told him specifically that he needed to:
*Work on his anger (Any time he feels uncomfortable it comes to him as anger)
*Try to be more tolerant (I gave him the advice to think of it as such: It does not affect me, therefore I don't give a shit.)
*Think before he acts (Has a habit of acting before thinking, but his is more catastrophic).
Again, he was apologizing profusely not only to me but to EVERYONE who had witnessed and seen that event, and he was at least very sincere with me about it. Because I'm such a bleeding heart I'm still giving him a chance, and if the apartment looks like a situation that could work as still having him as a roommate for it, then I'll bring it up to him (But also lay down some major ground rules in paper). But this is his final chance. If this happens before the end of December, I'm talking to some friends I have who live in an apartment and will need a roommate, because I will not tolerate intolerance. Stupid I can handle. Anger and intolerance, no.
Anyway, as for my Roommate, when our friends left that night and we were getting ready for bed, I pretty much voiced my concerns and laid them all out on the table, using the specific words "Raging Homophobe", "Ignorant", "Dangerous" and many others to describe how my perception of him changed in that one event. We talked and talked and talked. Almost every other word he said was an apology too for scaring me so much to make me not want to go back to the room that night (I almost considered driving down to Silvermane's or Guil's because I was that afraid) and he explained where he was coming from. I told him specifically that he needed to:
*Work on his anger (Any time he feels uncomfortable it comes to him as anger)
*Try to be more tolerant (I gave him the advice to think of it as such: It does not affect me, therefore I don't give a shit.)
*Think before he acts (Has a habit of acting before thinking, but his is more catastrophic).
Again, he was apologizing profusely not only to me but to EVERYONE who had witnessed and seen that event, and he was at least very sincere with me about it. Because I'm such a bleeding heart I'm still giving him a chance, and if the apartment looks like a situation that could work as still having him as a roommate for it, then I'll bring it up to him (But also lay down some major ground rules in paper). But this is his final chance. If this happens before the end of December, I'm talking to some friends I have who live in an apartment and will need a roommate, because I will not tolerate intolerance. Stupid I can handle. Anger and intolerance, no.
Made me lol.