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12 years ago
Well, been a while hasn't it? Six months since any sort of update, and ten months since a full life update? Well, let's give some of that.
So, most of my close friends know, but I'm now out of college. However, those fours years have nothing to show except student Debt and bad memories. Mistakes were made, life hit hard, and things were done that could not be taken back. However, i long ago by my third year said to myself that if I had to leave without completing my degree, I would give myself 3-5 years to get my life in order, get an associates degree, then work towards a Bachelor in a field that would advance whatever career I've seemingly made for myself. I still plan to stick to this, but it will be hard. Though, when is life not hard? Life is but a series of struggles we must overcome, hmm?
Got into a pretty nice relationship for a while as well, but it was decided we both needed more time to fix ourselves. This was the life changing moment I hinted at way back, but never said more about. Perhaps there will be luck down the road but gonna focus on fixing myself first. It did teach me I still have a lot to learn about relationships though.
Anywho, so as I mentioned about 6 months ago, I've been staying with my gracious friend Frosty while in Massachusetts. He's been letting me stay here for free of charge, but I wont be free-loading for long with luck. Why? because during the six months I've been here, I've been working. It's been hard, as it's only been part time, but I've gone from working at TJ Maxx in Newton, to doing an emergency transfer to Marshalls near me, and soon getting a whole new position at Hannafords for more pay + More hours. TJs was great, but it was still minimum wage, which wasn't so bad while I had the Saturn.
"But why did you transfer to Marshalls? What emergency was there?" Well, alot. First of all, as said, TJs was great, but minimum wage. I was taking hom very little compared to what I had to spend on repairs to my Trailblazer. However, a 'Yena in a nearby state offered me a deal: He gets my Trailblazer, and I get his Saturn SL2 with no problems aside from the lack of AC. A sweet deal, as what sealed it was the upgrade in Gas Mileage from 18MPG to 40MPG Highway, which was where most of my travel was. It was extremely basic, but nice, and I actually liked the little plastic-mobile. Problem was it was a deal too good. During one time while trying to go from my work in newton to Guil's place, I lost control on the highway. Still not sure how, but I went in the median between highway and exit and tore the front axle off while running over a sign. Car was towed, damage estimates and towing costs were too much. Stayed at Guil's for a few days to recover and let work know I would need to cease working for them because of this. One manager had offered to drive me, but had forgotten to pick me up on the day he was supposed to.
So I ended up transferring to Marshalls. Thought this would be good, cause it's only a half hours walk down the road [Which seems to BAFFLE people that I walk that far too work] and the place was always in desperate need of people, so I figured I had a shot at getting more hours. Only, I was wrong. They kept ganking me on hours and requiring too much of me with the hours they gave me. I was NOT having this, and just before FurFright started looking elsewhere. Got a breakthru when Guil pretty much decided to prove to me how much more useful networking is to a job search than even applying at all, and got me a job at his Hannafords for much higher pay than minimum, which I start that in a couple weeks time.
"But Border, without a car how will you work at Guil's Hannafords?" Simple. I'll have a car. I've been working my ass off to still try and fix my life, but also to save for a car. At first I had made the mistake in thinking it would cost me $800+, but after looking stuff up, I can in good faith get my mother's Jeep Grand Cherokee [04 with only 62K miles at most on her] for about $300. yay family sales tax exemption! Will have to register and insure it myself but can afford this. Unfortunatly it has some problems, namely the tires needing to be replaced asap, but it will mean I have wheels again, which will add to so much freedom. Of course, it will also tap into the money I take home. Jeeps are Jeeps, and they like gas. My mom's is no exception, and that 18 Gallon tank will hurt, but it will be necessary. And not too bad when budgeting.
Finally, went to FurFright. Sad to hear it's ending, but also hear people are gonna try and keep it going, just under a different moniker. All the power to them if they manage to do it and I'm willing to help myself, but not holding to anything. Will keep saving up for FurFright for this year, but until i hear anything it will just be a base savings account that may go to another con. Perhaps RF finally.
I do believe that's the extent of this update this time around. Happy trails~
-Border
So, most of my close friends know, but I'm now out of college. However, those fours years have nothing to show except student Debt and bad memories. Mistakes were made, life hit hard, and things were done that could not be taken back. However, i long ago by my third year said to myself that if I had to leave without completing my degree, I would give myself 3-5 years to get my life in order, get an associates degree, then work towards a Bachelor in a field that would advance whatever career I've seemingly made for myself. I still plan to stick to this, but it will be hard. Though, when is life not hard? Life is but a series of struggles we must overcome, hmm?
Got into a pretty nice relationship for a while as well, but it was decided we both needed more time to fix ourselves. This was the life changing moment I hinted at way back, but never said more about. Perhaps there will be luck down the road but gonna focus on fixing myself first. It did teach me I still have a lot to learn about relationships though.
Anywho, so as I mentioned about 6 months ago, I've been staying with my gracious friend Frosty while in Massachusetts. He's been letting me stay here for free of charge, but I wont be free-loading for long with luck. Why? because during the six months I've been here, I've been working. It's been hard, as it's only been part time, but I've gone from working at TJ Maxx in Newton, to doing an emergency transfer to Marshalls near me, and soon getting a whole new position at Hannafords for more pay + More hours. TJs was great, but it was still minimum wage, which wasn't so bad while I had the Saturn.
"But why did you transfer to Marshalls? What emergency was there?" Well, alot. First of all, as said, TJs was great, but minimum wage. I was taking hom very little compared to what I had to spend on repairs to my Trailblazer. However, a 'Yena in a nearby state offered me a deal: He gets my Trailblazer, and I get his Saturn SL2 with no problems aside from the lack of AC. A sweet deal, as what sealed it was the upgrade in Gas Mileage from 18MPG to 40MPG Highway, which was where most of my travel was. It was extremely basic, but nice, and I actually liked the little plastic-mobile. Problem was it was a deal too good. During one time while trying to go from my work in newton to Guil's place, I lost control on the highway. Still not sure how, but I went in the median between highway and exit and tore the front axle off while running over a sign. Car was towed, damage estimates and towing costs were too much. Stayed at Guil's for a few days to recover and let work know I would need to cease working for them because of this. One manager had offered to drive me, but had forgotten to pick me up on the day he was supposed to.
So I ended up transferring to Marshalls. Thought this would be good, cause it's only a half hours walk down the road [Which seems to BAFFLE people that I walk that far too work] and the place was always in desperate need of people, so I figured I had a shot at getting more hours. Only, I was wrong. They kept ganking me on hours and requiring too much of me with the hours they gave me. I was NOT having this, and just before FurFright started looking elsewhere. Got a breakthru when Guil pretty much decided to prove to me how much more useful networking is to a job search than even applying at all, and got me a job at his Hannafords for much higher pay than minimum, which I start that in a couple weeks time.
"But Border, without a car how will you work at Guil's Hannafords?" Simple. I'll have a car. I've been working my ass off to still try and fix my life, but also to save for a car. At first I had made the mistake in thinking it would cost me $800+, but after looking stuff up, I can in good faith get my mother's Jeep Grand Cherokee [04 with only 62K miles at most on her] for about $300. yay family sales tax exemption! Will have to register and insure it myself but can afford this. Unfortunatly it has some problems, namely the tires needing to be replaced asap, but it will mean I have wheels again, which will add to so much freedom. Of course, it will also tap into the money I take home. Jeeps are Jeeps, and they like gas. My mom's is no exception, and that 18 Gallon tank will hurt, but it will be necessary. And not too bad when budgeting.
Finally, went to FurFright. Sad to hear it's ending, but also hear people are gonna try and keep it going, just under a different moniker. All the power to them if they manage to do it and I'm willing to help myself, but not holding to anything. Will keep saving up for FurFright for this year, but until i hear anything it will just be a base savings account that may go to another con. Perhaps RF finally.
I do believe that's the extent of this update this time around. Happy trails~
-Border
Relationships also act as stepping stones to becoming an emotionally mature adult. Even though it did not trun out the way you might have hoped for, the mutual feeling you had for each other provided a glimpse of what is to come in your future.
Things are getting better for you now with the new jeep and new job! If and when you are ready to continue or finish your education, you'll know what you have to do to make it a success. In the meantime, keep strong, love your family, spend time with those that care about you and continue to reach out and make new friends. I wish you the absolute best for your future and hope that 2014 is the best year of your life, thus far :)