Looks like someone needs a big hug!

Sandvich for you. *offers you a marshmellow, peanut butter, and chocolate bar sandwich*

Try it, it's delicious. *gives you the treat expecting nothing in return*

Well, that's as good an explanation as any!

Now get online so I can pumble you about my day.

You know, I think I already knew all this. o.o

Im just like that...I cant stand loneliness, mostly because of the voices but thats another story all of its own. For me I would go to message boards and talk to the anonymous to see how they felt about stuff. I got banned from PAWSRU at one point, I was unbanned because the admin found out 5 anonymous users insulted me for being used for child pornography. I wouldn't have complained if they werent douches...that shit is serious. I become impotent from the thought of childhood memories...

Oi, stop being me.

Stop being me first.

i'm not a professional or anything, so forgive me if i'm totally off-base, but here goes:
on one hand, it's terrifying for people who never really got to develop much in the way of social skills to poke their head out of their little bubbles and talk to other people. to put it simply, you're terrified that someone will see all the little things you hate about yourself and tell you that you're a horrible person, and you'll agree with them. but there's more to you than all those little nasty pieces; there is plenty of kindness, and a love of fun. you obviously hate being alone, and, from the comments i've seen so far, you act as a vent for a lot of people. but you don;t have someone to vent to about your life. you need a pressure release, and some positive reinforcement. if you ever want to talk, PM me or try me on yahoo. i'd be glad to listen.

I always enjoy your company, no matter how much is spoken. I'm very glad you're here. :)

Don't worry.
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Awww *hugs*

If you ever want to talk, let me know in a PM how to reach you.

awww I know how that is like.... if your interested in making a new friend who is very understanding id be glad to offer up My friendship, hell i wouldnt mind gettin to know you as well ^^

My addies are on my home page or you can PM me either way let me know!

I can empathize with this.

Can't talk about myself, so I forced myself to start asking people about their lives a while ago, but lately everyone just says "nothing". :c

I kinda know that feel. :c Although I feel more awkward than bad about not having anything to say to others eventually.

I think going by the amount of replies to this journal, you have a massive following <3 your a cool bean dude, just, be more social i guess^^

I'd love to speak to you all the time :3 but I never see you online :<

Cat-zombie is a pretty cool guy. Eh draws fat-amputee-hypers and doesn't afraid of turds.

Heh

It depends on the man. You describe a Manly man correct, but I think among the furry community, yourself is a little better known or at least everyone is openly searching for what exactly their self is. I could give an explanation of something I've seen before a few times but really the simple answer is sometimes the best. Put yourself out more. This doesn't mean RP'ing or even having an engaging conversation, just say hi to people online and if they know you they'll start chatting at you. Play a game with a friend. Get steam if you don't already have it and download some free games like TF2 and Spiral Knights. Add some friends on there and when you see them playing jump in and join them. Even if you don't say a word, your at least there with friends listening to their interactions(or reading their chat).

I'm the same way. I just wait for people to talk to me on my messengers, since I don't have anything really to talk about. THough mostly people I get are those that just want to RP with me. RPing gets boring after awhile. Hopefully you can break out of feeling these way.

You know, you can poke me anytime on Twitter if you wanna talk. :3

Honestly that's just how it goes sometimes. If you work at it you can chip away at that until you can feel comfortable talking to folks and such. The few times I've interacted with you, you've seemed like a really fantastic guy. Honestly I've tried to get myself to talk to you but... similarly, I have an issue with my interactions with folks. I'll start to type an IM, get it finished, and just... hesitate before hitting send. And in that moment I think "I'd be bothering this person with my stupid conversation" and I never send it.

Maybe I'll try to work through that, so I can do my best to help you work through yours :3

Welcome to the club? xD there's alot of people out there in the same situation.. but if nobody ever says anything then how does anything ever start?

at least you have your art, if not to talk about then it's something you can use to express yourself and say things without moving your lips or tapping a keyboard, to be able to pop open your head and show whats inside.. and even doing that must take alot of effort...

I really need to stop relating to people i know nothing about xD bleh, anyway, hope you get a few pokes and things start looking up for you, misery loves company as they say.

i have seen and experienced this case before your not the only one who has this kind of problem dude. if you ever need anything note me or ping me up i know its hard but i can try to help ya feel better

Why don't you talk more? Just relax. Just be yourself. *trollface*
Maybe you're just trying to be social when you perhaps really don't want to talk to the person in the first place.
Hanging out with the loud and super social tend to carry you. And you get rustier at conducting social interaction when you let that happen.

I'm the same way but not as bad I think. If you ever want to talk, I think I just reestablished communication with you, correct?

Been there. Sounds like you suck at small talk, or just stuff you know about. Do you have a social circle outside of the web?



IDK, we can all suck at stuff together.

SOrry your so down Zombiecat your a pretty cool guy dont be so sads

You know what... I'm almost exactly the same... ^^;

I guess I already hit my low point and moved on from it tho... maybe you can too, before long.. :) The point where you start working to change and get better at talking and sharing and stuff.. ^^

I'd say that I'm here to talk to if you ever wanna say hi, but.. well, i am. :) if that day ever comes.

I know how that is.. :/

I'm sure a lot of people here do!

One thing that might help is being in a group. It's more along the lines of being with people, but not being pushed to say something. I'll talk with ya if you need :D

Well um. Chin up. :I

What if I gave you a script?

Actually, I'm kindof not joking. It might do something. Maybe also playing around with...I dunno...identity play? Or objectivism(?)? might be kindof a way to work around things? I dunno.

Identity play? Objectivism? How so?

Possibly, if you assume a different identity for something, you can act under that persona, and kindof "get used to" the talking or whatever. Approach it with a sense of being someone who doesn't care what the response is, too.

Objectivism crossed my mind...I may be misusing the concept...but in a way, this is the flip-side. I've found for myself, that when I feel similarly, I sometimes feel inclined toward being treated as little more than a toy or something like that. It connects to identity in a way, by kindof removing identity. Playing with the idea of lacking an identity, but making it into a good thing, at least within a context. But, you also are given some sort of purpose, probably giving someone pleasure.

So, these are sortof idease for roleplaying...as sortof a psychological tool in the hands of completely untrained and unqualified individuals. But, in my own head, there is value in doing things like that.

It works, I can vouch for it.

Unless I'm completely misunderstanding you, which, given my track record, I probably am.

I think I was saying something like that. Somewhat differently, I think I've worked through or coped with various things through RPs. From time to time, something new comes up, more by chance, that puts me at ease in an unexpected and very welcome way.

talk about something you like, and things you are interested in. try with something simple but get around

welcome to the internet, home of the INTJs

I'm not sure how to react to this, only because I blew up on a so called friend for exhibiting the same behavior. Now I'm worried they may have had the very same issue and I just didn't know. I wish I could be more empathetic, and really I can't think of any words of comfort because I honestly didn't know behaviors such as these existed, or at least I'd never really encountered them before.

Those few times what talked on AIM I just thought you were busy doing other things or were tired. It never once occurred to me that you were freaking out. Honestly I consider you such a cool guy I assumed you were just off doing your own thing.

I hope we get to talk again soon :3

I deal with similar problems. Sucks, don't it? Drawing it out is a good thing though. Look at all them people up there!

....Well if you ever decide you'd like to have another friend, give me a shout!

I only ever get on IM like once or twice a week to unload my horrible pervy ideas to the first person online rather than engage in any real conversation unless provoked. ^^;

So yeah I make a terrible e-friend I guess but if you don't mind such you can note me here and see if we ever manage to get online at the same time. :3

I will talk. I was the same once. You're a mirror of my old self.
I'll do what I can.

should i just talk random shit for shits and giggles?



coz that works

It sounds like "S.A.D" Or~ Social Anxiety Disorder [yeah, not trying to be cute or anything.] I'd look into some of the symptoms online, and if at all possible, perhaps treatment or medication =3 only reason I know? I was the same way. Zoloft=life saver

Well, you can talk to me about anything. I'm bit of a alone introvert myself after all.

You need to find some "normal" people to talk to, so you can have "normal" interactions and conversations. These furries are just trouble I tell ya.

I know another FA member who went through something like this and got better, or at least got a ball rolling. Message me if you want to really talk. I'm sorry the only interaction we ever had was just to hit you up for something.

I can be shy too sometimes and I agree, it's hard to carry on a conversation too. I think making this post was a good idea though, to let people know how you feel.

I think I'm similar, but that's only based on my own amateur psychoanalysis of somebody I've never met, so probably not. I feel awkward linking to myself, but here was my journal on the topic: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/1005729/

I caught on one part of Luc_Folf's comment, "approach it with a sense of being someone who doesn't care what the response is". To describe that thought a different way: Make a disposable personality who can make the mistakes you're afraid to make. I've done that a few times, I think it works pretty well.

To put it in instruction format: Go to some forum or chat channel where you lurk, make a new stupid username which has nothing at all to do with you, and start talking. You're an anonymous nobody, it doesn't matter if you contribute much to the conversation. And it doesn't matter at all anyway, because you WILL mess it up. This is expected, be prepared for it. You'll say something and then later you'll realize it was stupid, or rude, or awkward, and everybody there was upset with <stupid username> and formed a negative opinion of <stupid username>. When that happens, run away and never use that name again.

Then that person with that stupid user name will no longer exist. Everybody didn't like them, but everybody will quickly forget about it because there are lots of stupid usernames on the internet and they do that kind of stupid crap all the time. Everybody moves on, all the bad stuff that happened disappears, and you got to socialize a bit and you learned some things not to do next time. Eventually, you learn all the stuff about socializing that normal people have learned by the time they're eight years old. I don't know what happens after that, I haven't gotten to that part yet.

Sounds intriguing. But what if this is the origin story of every asshole on the internet?

Ah, no, they couldn't-, I mean, most of them probably weren't-, it's...they-, there's just... um. Some of them... might have not been me?
...
They were all actually me. I'm so sorry.

I actually know how ya feel...
I'm better now though...took most of my life but I did it.
I dunno who you are at all..can't help but post a comment here though.
*hugs*