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Relationships, Birthdays, and AnimeBoston
13 years ago
So I've been thinking lately about commitment and relationships that extend beyond friends. I like the freedom to hang out with whatever friends I want whenever, even if certain things happens. Relationships beyond that though... dating, Mates/BF/GF... they scare me. Why? I don't really know. it might be that I've generaly been burned by relationships before (The best I had I had to end early because I didn't feel anything for the other and didn't want them being lead on by false hope). I'm always afraid it could end in a disaster, with friendships being unable to remain or last because of it. Granted, a lot of this worry has gone down as of late, simply because I also associated sex completely with romance and relationships, but quite obviously that's been changed. Unlike a lot of furs in this community, I don't go looking for a relationship. If one comes to me, I'll take it, but I don't go looking for a relationship because I'm lonely. In that way I kinda have a leg up from most of the community, but it still makes me wonder if it's also that I just fear commitment in some way. Not sure how to test it really. Now this isn't to say I wouldn't LIKE a relationship. I'd love to have a BF/GF to be able to hold and cuddle and talk with, but I also know relationships take a lot of trust and a lot more than just kissing. At this point I'm rambling though so I'll cut it short.
So my Birthday is in a little over a month on the 27th of March. This is the Tuesday after Spring Break for me, which sadly means no getting an epic 221st party at home. Which again makes things awkward. I haven't really had a birthday party since... well, 6th or 7th grade really. Maybe even earlier. It used to just kinda be a family affair for a while, then just kinda "hey, you were born this day. he's some gifts". partially this is by my choice. I don't like parties for myself much, and I also don't like cake (Cupcakes excluded). I will eat cake, but it's not something I will choose to eat, but will eat if presented to me. But this year is my 21st, and that's typically a big celebration, right? That, and I have friends that I would love to see at a birthday celebration. Initially I had thought to throw one at the apartment, but I realized that could cause conflicts. For one, both my roommates are reserved in their own way. Mel might lock herself in her room to avoid any crowds or just get uncomfortable. Or worse, mildly bitchy and trollish. She's great usualy, but I know her, and I know she doesn't much care for the crowds I could see. Skye, on the opposite hand, is subconsciously homophobic (Getting better) due his upbringing. While now he can joke with us about gay things and even take jokes insinuating he's gay and roll with them, he's still made uncomfortable by it. He does enjoy parties for being able to interact with people, but I dunno. Optionally, I could host the party the weekend before I go back up to Maine, but that means finding other means of acquiring alcohol (because god be damned if I'm not getting (responsibly) shitfaced on my 21st). I could in theory also have the party the weekend after, still at my house, but that means traveling back to Mass for a weekend just for something like a party. Granted, I would want the party to be small anyway, but I dunno. Maybe I could find somewhere else to host it or let someone else throw me one at a different place. Like that'd happen.
As for the last bit of this Journal, I will be hitting AnimeBoston this year as part of my school's RPG club. We will be arriving Friday, but attending only Saturday and Sunday (I might try to sneak off anyway and hit Friday night. Liability my ass, I'm from Boston and can handle myself!). I'll be going as part of a small Cosplay group for the TV show Avatar, probably as Zuko (3rd Season). Just throwing that out there to look for me during then.
All for now.
-Border Da Cougah
So my Birthday is in a little over a month on the 27th of March. This is the Tuesday after Spring Break for me, which sadly means no getting an epic 221st party at home. Which again makes things awkward. I haven't really had a birthday party since... well, 6th or 7th grade really. Maybe even earlier. It used to just kinda be a family affair for a while, then just kinda "hey, you were born this day. he's some gifts". partially this is by my choice. I don't like parties for myself much, and I also don't like cake (Cupcakes excluded). I will eat cake, but it's not something I will choose to eat, but will eat if presented to me. But this year is my 21st, and that's typically a big celebration, right? That, and I have friends that I would love to see at a birthday celebration. Initially I had thought to throw one at the apartment, but I realized that could cause conflicts. For one, both my roommates are reserved in their own way. Mel might lock herself in her room to avoid any crowds or just get uncomfortable. Or worse, mildly bitchy and trollish. She's great usualy, but I know her, and I know she doesn't much care for the crowds I could see. Skye, on the opposite hand, is subconsciously homophobic (Getting better) due his upbringing. While now he can joke with us about gay things and even take jokes insinuating he's gay and roll with them, he's still made uncomfortable by it. He does enjoy parties for being able to interact with people, but I dunno. Optionally, I could host the party the weekend before I go back up to Maine, but that means finding other means of acquiring alcohol (because god be damned if I'm not getting (responsibly) shitfaced on my 21st). I could in theory also have the party the weekend after, still at my house, but that means traveling back to Mass for a weekend just for something like a party. Granted, I would want the party to be small anyway, but I dunno. Maybe I could find somewhere else to host it or let someone else throw me one at a different place. Like that'd happen.
As for the last bit of this Journal, I will be hitting AnimeBoston this year as part of my school's RPG club. We will be arriving Friday, but attending only Saturday and Sunday (I might try to sneak off anyway and hit Friday night. Liability my ass, I'm from Boston and can handle myself!). I'll be going as part of a small Cosplay group for the TV show Avatar, probably as Zuko (3rd Season). Just throwing that out there to look for me during then.
All for now.
-Border Da Cougah
There's plllleeennnty of in between as far as commitment goes, if someone wants an excusive relationship or any sort of commitment before the first month/ third/fourth date happens, that's just rushing things a little bit. . .
I attended AB last year and came across a handful of furries there, including a couple of fursuiters! I was wearing a tshirt with a wolf character on it when I was there, and a few furs at the con liked it. One guy even asked me if I was on FA. (I wasn't on at the time, though.)
If things go well for me, I should be able to attend AB this year.
The 99 restaurant in Charlestown has been an established once a month meet place, but since it is 'familiar' there could be an option to utilize that spot and space on a separate and announced date for a lunch or dinner party and celebration. This would also allow 18-20's to attend more openly if that age range wished to.
More Openly and downtowny-accessible could be an open invite to Food Court Options in/around Quincy Market area, and bar-hopping around the old-school bars tucked in that block near Haymarket Square. This would probably be open to 18-20's up and until we went in/out of the bar-hopping scene around.
Lastly, slightly outside Boston area at the South Shore Plaza/Braintree Mall is a Dave and Busters. Food and arcade entertainment and alcoholic drinks for those 21 plus with ID.
Think on such ideas and then choose a date and time, and further decide if such announcement will include a specific invite list, or a more general open invite vibe.
May you celebrate enjoy, and get happy spinny drunk and still make it home safely enough for the 21st.