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My Valentine's Day (rant look away)
14 years ago
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Valentine's day is like a bee hive. You can get sweet sweet honey from the hive or you can be attacked by a mob of fucking bees which just adds pain to your lonely ass life. The bees are the people that go out of their way to shove it in your face that they are in a loving relationship with someone and they just keep stinging you. Coworkers getting flowers and shit delivered to their desks and making me come over and act like I'm all impressed. Yeah, I get it, someone likes you, now go back to fucking work. Or telling me the plans they have tonight at the most fanciest fucking ripoff restaurant in the city. Then the topper is they ask me what my plans are. Well if in case you haven't noticed, I never talk on the phone to anyone, I have no pictures of anyone on my desk and there is no mention of a girlfriend. They could have at least asked if I had someone first. I mean what the fuck am I supposed to tell them. That I'm going home to sit in my parents basement and drink Jägermeister?
The bees were everywhere today. I could not get away from them. With their balloons, their flowers and their chocolates. I can understand being loved but why must they proclaim it to other people? What about the people not in love? There is no consideration. But hey, there always the fail safe right? That statement "oh there is somebody out there for you". Well maybe there isn't? There is just as much of a chance that there is no one for me as there is someone for me. I did, I lived by that statement for a very long time. I kept my hopes up and just accepted that someday the right one will come along but my patience has worn very thin which is leading me to believe that this is only true for some. As stated before I have given up all hope in finding someone in the fandom but I think this is starting to spill over into everyone as a whole. There is just is no one for me. I don't know if its me, I'm just too picky or what but I really feel like theres nobody out there. I am not just going to grab anyone I see, get hitched and pretend to play house with someone that I will eventully grow to hate in a few years just because everyone else is doing it. Its gotta be me cause everyone I date eventually somthing throws up a red flag for me that tells me to stop what I am doing and just run. Maybe I looking to far ahead into the realtionship or something I dont know.
It just that none of this fucking makes any sense. How can I be such a likable person but be the loneliest bastard out there? Is it me? Am I just a friend to eveyone and no one looks any deeper than that? This just doesnt go for the fandom this is for like everything, my whole life I have been like this. People like omg your so awesome and thats it. It just stops there. Nobody is like hmm maybe I could date this person? I mean come on, I hate tooting my own horn but Im a nice guy, I pay for fucking everything. I got sweet ass cars a kick ass job in new york city tons of cool shit, come what the fuck? No, you know what I get? I get oh hey your a funny nice guy. End of story. Hell I ride around in the DeLorean which is a goddamn chick magnet, I might get some chit chat from the ladies and that it. Is it my face? My hair? What the fuck is it? And its not like I'm go around flashing all this crazy shit to everyone and being a huge douchebag. I am very modest about it. Right now I kinda am cause Im getting progressively more drunk as I type but I mean come on! Theres fucking dirtbags walking around whit lovely ladies. Even that too. I am not like a wolf in sheeps clothing out to get anyone. Like hooking up is all that is on my mind all the time. I want someone that will be my best buddy too. I thnk that si the problem. Ladies want to be treated like princesses on a peadastal. They want you riase them up. I dont want that. I want someone thats with me on level with everything. Like we are sticking thogether through life as it is. that is it. We dont try to out do who ardore eachother more. You know. Friends that stick together. Ahh jeeze you know look Im drunk now and I know I have close frinds that are probably going to read this that are married, going to be marired or in relationshipts. Im sorry dont take this stuff to literally. None of this is being aimed toward you or about you or anything. You are all cool don't worry your cool in my book. Its about just peole in general, not you.
I mean yeah actually everybody that reads this don't get pissed at me or anything. Im just drunk and lonely on Valentines day.
The bees were everywhere today. I could not get away from them. With their balloons, their flowers and their chocolates. I can understand being loved but why must they proclaim it to other people? What about the people not in love? There is no consideration. But hey, there always the fail safe right? That statement "oh there is somebody out there for you". Well maybe there isn't? There is just as much of a chance that there is no one for me as there is someone for me. I did, I lived by that statement for a very long time. I kept my hopes up and just accepted that someday the right one will come along but my patience has worn very thin which is leading me to believe that this is only true for some. As stated before I have given up all hope in finding someone in the fandom but I think this is starting to spill over into everyone as a whole. There is just is no one for me. I don't know if its me, I'm just too picky or what but I really feel like theres nobody out there. I am not just going to grab anyone I see, get hitched and pretend to play house with someone that I will eventully grow to hate in a few years just because everyone else is doing it. Its gotta be me cause everyone I date eventually somthing throws up a red flag for me that tells me to stop what I am doing and just run. Maybe I looking to far ahead into the realtionship or something I dont know.
It just that none of this fucking makes any sense. How can I be such a likable person but be the loneliest bastard out there? Is it me? Am I just a friend to eveyone and no one looks any deeper than that? This just doesnt go for the fandom this is for like everything, my whole life I have been like this. People like omg your so awesome and thats it. It just stops there. Nobody is like hmm maybe I could date this person? I mean come on, I hate tooting my own horn but Im a nice guy, I pay for fucking everything. I got sweet ass cars a kick ass job in new york city tons of cool shit, come what the fuck? No, you know what I get? I get oh hey your a funny nice guy. End of story. Hell I ride around in the DeLorean which is a goddamn chick magnet, I might get some chit chat from the ladies and that it. Is it my face? My hair? What the fuck is it? And its not like I'm go around flashing all this crazy shit to everyone and being a huge douchebag. I am very modest about it. Right now I kinda am cause Im getting progressively more drunk as I type but I mean come on! Theres fucking dirtbags walking around whit lovely ladies. Even that too. I am not like a wolf in sheeps clothing out to get anyone. Like hooking up is all that is on my mind all the time. I want someone that will be my best buddy too. I thnk that si the problem. Ladies want to be treated like princesses on a peadastal. They want you riase them up. I dont want that. I want someone thats with me on level with everything. Like we are sticking thogether through life as it is. that is it. We dont try to out do who ardore eachother more. You know. Friends that stick together. Ahh jeeze you know look Im drunk now and I know I have close frinds that are probably going to read this that are married, going to be marired or in relationshipts. Im sorry dont take this stuff to literally. None of this is being aimed toward you or about you or anything. You are all cool don't worry your cool in my book. Its about just peole in general, not you.
I mean yeah actually everybody that reads this don't get pissed at me or anything. Im just drunk and lonely on Valentines day.
That's at least how I'm trying to view this day. Best to ya, man. *hugs*
I've tried hanging out with a couple of girls, and all of them turned out to be stupid bitches one way or another. Then I had an online relationship where he faked his death to get out of it. My fur family and I were all literally heart broken, crying, upset, until we found out he was still alive and had previously hit on another guy saying, "Yeah, I'm gonna dump this guy and be with you"! That was the last relationship I ever bothered pursuing.
I mean, it's like this. You can't know true love without putting up with relationship heartbreaks, bullshit and disappointments. Me, I gave up looking for "true love" since early last year. If "true love" does find me, I'll probably sure know it based on the things I thought were true love in the past that just turned out to be shit. However, I'm simply content to just be by myself, cuddling my stuffies. It's not like I'm truly alone.
I do hope you can sort things out and take some time to meditate and reflect on things. And I do mean put serious thought into it. Listen to some very relaxing music that just sits in the background not distracting you from anything, and think and reflect.
(still dont know what happened but i saw zee love!)
Will all work out for the better....
I was at the DMV for a good portion of the day, then came home and got on computer and watched videos all day...
"I find that there is something for everyone in this world. Something like love and friendship don't come the way they once did. Things change, but the fandom will always be here, as much as your friends. She is out there and she will learn to love you and every part of you. Otherwise, if they don't, it just wasn't meant to be. But know, she's out there."
What was true then is still now. For me, I have loved, many times, but not to frequent. I feel the world might stop spinning and the star go dim if I ever thought less of the people that pass through my life. Enjoy it. Some live to long a life unventured and some live it too short to know what just happened. Something will come along. You're still young. Valentines was last night. Today is a new day and there's always tomorrow. Don't waste your time. Because believe me. Some things don't ever come again. You haven't missed out yet. Don't waste your time on self doubt when there is something to do right now. Good luck!
I've dated Jersey girls. Get out of there. They call it the armpit of America for a reason. Driving through that State is a forever reminder of why.
What I found out in women these days is that they don't want a nice guy. They want an asshole. A major asshole. So maybe that is what you're not doing right. Why not give it a try? Be an asshole until you get the girlfriend you want. Then as soon as that mission is accomplished, you can slowly work yourself back up to being a nice guy again. Only do it slow so she doesn't notice any changes. And you may just have something then.
I unfortunately understand your pain and I agree with you… There must be nobody for us I believe. :/
You said everything, and the commenters too: girls are more interested in assholes than in “nice guys” like us. :(
May I ad you to some messenger? It will not make our situation any better, but if you want to speak and rant about love things, I will be there. I would appreciate helping you.
Hang in there bud.
This might give you a slight laugh, at work on the 13th were about to close, This guy comes back to Electronics to get an iPad2 for his wife. he quickly filled out the card and had to ask me how to spell "Valentines". Sadly I laughed in my head.
Ha ha, you can tell v day meant a lot to that guy!
To be honest, I'm in a relationship, and maybe it's just me being closeted, but I feel the same way about PDAs. I think it's something in human nature to profess just how all over someone you are, both to declare the mate as property (She/he's mine! See, kissing them! MINE!) and as some type of psychological reinforcement (If we're making out in public, it MUST mean we're in love!). I don't think it's targeted as a way to grind down singles though.
Humans just can't keep their mouths shut about what they do with their genitals though.
You don't need to prove to the world that someone belongs to you but that someone needs to know that she is where she belongs.
I wonder if this is related to not wearing glasses while eating.
Obviously not but you must know that in this life the most important thing is to be happy.
You don't need to be in love. In your house can live the person you want. A true friend you feel the same as being in love.
Happiness is not the same as love.
~Sorry my english. But I hope I have helped~
Even in other countries, you're loved ^w^
Oh sure it's a cool car and all, but oddly enough, I think most people would view the car in exactly the way you described in your post how people seem to view you: entertaining, nice, and amusing . I'm not sure if most individuals even know that the name of the car is actually DeLorean, most would only recoginze it as "that car from Back to the Future".
If you really want a car that's explicitly a "chick magnet", you drive a Ferrari. The only people I think you'll end up attracting with the DeLorean are B.T.T.F. geeks that'll constantly ask you if the thing goes 88 miles an hour.
Try a different haircut, try some different clothes, and expand your social circles.
Sitting in a basement drinking and going 'woe is me' isn't exactly the best way to get what you want.
I don't know you personally, but here's what I do know:
First impressions mean everything. Sorry people, but life isn't a Disney movie. People don't just magically walk into your life all the time. It takes active processes to meet new people. Try new things. Go different places.
Have confidence. Don't be friendzone material.
You gotta man up and act on an attraction when you meet a chick... (and not just when your drunk). But you really do make a lady feel like a princess. I'll write you a letter of recomendation!! (sorry, Lame Squeak is lame.)
So I started listening. I paid attention to those who were giving me compliments, who told me I'm cute or handsome, to those asking where I was going to be con-wise, and so on. And lo and behold...I found him. He's been there for years. He told me how he felt, and I realized it was someone I've really liked for a long time. We talked and talked...we realized that what we felt WAS more than just being friends. So as of yesterday, we're now dating.
Not saying that the same will happen to you, but it can, Just open your eyes a little more...and listen to who does strike up conversations with you. Someone may be trying to get your attention, and you don't even realize it.
I dont know why someone wouldnt date ya, you seem awesome enough :D If I were your age and knew you, I bet Id give it a shot x3
its odd how all my ex's IM me or call me or text me on V-Day..even one of them that i know for sure is dating someone. I guess they want to make me feel like shit too.
As for your rant about being a nice guy & not finding anyone...haven't you figured it out? Women LIKE assholes. Become a bigger d-bag and be amazed at how much poon you can attract. Its sad & disturbing & i will never understand why......
I feel like I'm in the same boat. Nice enough guy but nobody special for myself... yet at least.
I think my biggest problem is that I just don't ask anyone out. And with you being ducking coopertom. You got more goin for ya than I do right now. =3