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Bullying is NEVER good.
13 years ago
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I originally wasn't going to say anything about this save to my friends but we had an... altercation yesterday with my eldest. Simply put she was the target of a very severe bullying incident.
Recently my daughter has through a lot of hard work won several medals in gymnastics. She took one of them to school for show and tell because she was rightly excited to tell her friends in her class. A girl that was in her class last year heard about it and decided she needed to be taught about showing off. In the front of the school she yanked my daughter back by her hair, shoved her down scraping my daughter's face and breaking her glasses, then proceeded to use scissors to start to cut her hair. A teacher made it to them pulling the older girl off.
The girl is expelled and other legal proceedings are starting but as of this moment she is completely unrepentant and refused to apologize.
My daughter has been obviously upset by this. The good thing is she has a lot of friends (being in a private school she tends to have the same classmates from year to year) and sisters and a brother that have been protecting her and helping to cheer her up but she's still scared and is scared she is a show off now.
To those that may not believe it, and I know you are out there, bullying has consequences. This is an example of that. Both physical and emotional. I'm tired of seeing people treat this as a 'no victim' crime. As a teacher i see it as parents say 'oh its just harmless, its how children get tough for the real world.' I'm sorry but when someone is attacked, physically or mentally it is hurtful and wrong. People need to understand that and if a little good comes from this, it won't be 'good' but lets just say that it will feel like notice has been sent.
Recently my daughter has through a lot of hard work won several medals in gymnastics. She took one of them to school for show and tell because she was rightly excited to tell her friends in her class. A girl that was in her class last year heard about it and decided she needed to be taught about showing off. In the front of the school she yanked my daughter back by her hair, shoved her down scraping my daughter's face and breaking her glasses, then proceeded to use scissors to start to cut her hair. A teacher made it to them pulling the older girl off.
The girl is expelled and other legal proceedings are starting but as of this moment she is completely unrepentant and refused to apologize.
My daughter has been obviously upset by this. The good thing is she has a lot of friends (being in a private school she tends to have the same classmates from year to year) and sisters and a brother that have been protecting her and helping to cheer her up but she's still scared and is scared she is a show off now.
To those that may not believe it, and I know you are out there, bullying has consequences. This is an example of that. Both physical and emotional. I'm tired of seeing people treat this as a 'no victim' crime. As a teacher i see it as parents say 'oh its just harmless, its how children get tough for the real world.' I'm sorry but when someone is attacked, physically or mentally it is hurtful and wrong. People need to understand that and if a little good comes from this, it won't be 'good' but lets just say that it will feel like notice has been sent.
Make sure your daughter knows that she did nothing wrong (except maybe being ready to defend her person) and she doesn't fall into a "victim mentality."
If anything, it harms both the bullied and the bullying. For starters, it leaves potentially life long childhood scars on a child that would make it hard to interact with others with crippling fear of the world around them making it hard to return to school.
For the bully, if action isn't taken to remind them such behavior is wrong, they could do it again and if bad behavior persists, it could lead to more bullies popping up following there example.
I'd hate to say it, but not all children are little angels and are capable of understanding what is right and what is wrong. Most learn that over life and if they don't, they potentially become thugs and jerks.
Hope everything works out for you and your daughter and she knows that she did nothing wrong.