That lack of communication and being a prick tend to be common things for us.

Not saying that everyone is, but its an unusal 'observation' I've run into quiet often during my travels and can never seem to understand. Before I continue mind you, this isn't caused by anyone I've met here or known elsewere in fandom, more by sheer luck of run-ins at cons and just general cencus when I'm among furs.

I know we're all busy with life, we have school work to finish, jobs to tend to, even family and communities to help prosper, but the unusal thing is, at least for me, is we don't seem to be very open to others or tend to engage furs we have't met before.
Let me put it to you like this, every time i've gone to a con or fur meet, i tend to be one of the few furs just standing outside of the crowd and looking in like an observer. I know I'm a wallflower but i still try to embark in conversation with people to get comfy with those around me. The fact is, when such conversations happen, it seems to almost feel like pulling teeth.

Let me give a general example. I started a conversation with someone once and began asking how they were doing. They said they were alright and then didn't say anything else. I'm like 'okay' and then ask 'so what do you do?' Most often I get a few resoponses and try to focus on asking open ended questions about them, their career or just general interest with whatever is going on at the time. The sad fact is that more often then naught, the conversation goes only one way and very rarely turns back to me to get the person to know me. I don't get it most times considering I always show general interest in other people's work or pleasure, just to broaden my own views on things. Perhaps someone can help me figure that out, maybe its my approch, or perhaps people tend not to want to talk or maybe I don't look good or maybe their just no interest?

Now, I don't want to sound selfish, this is all for the benefit of improiving my own social capabilites and more often then naught i follow through with it, but sometimes, its just general prickyness of the other party that is to blame. Recently I was with a friend in a IM Chat, and he was talking with someone we had both met at a con. Instantly when i came inh, the guy started grilling me for making a little comment that, to him, was stupid, and that because I said hi to someone while he was talking that I was a very rude person. Of course, I took offense to that, and after apologizing, proceeded to rip him a new on with how stupid he was; it didn't help he 'assumed' I was trying to use him as a reference guide because he was dressed as a soldier when, in all honesty, i could care less. The fact he did was just uncool considering I knew more about that shhit and even pulled up wiki articles on the subject we debated.
But I degress, he wasn't a 'bad guy', just someone who had obviosuly been through shit with other people far to often to be open to someone who may be different; we call that stereotyping.

I've had my share of people doing this, people I thought were cool or just wanted to get to know and would happily show some kindess to, but at the end of the day, many don't tend to return it, and i'm often left alone and with the feeling of being uncared for. Is something I'm doing wrong? AM I a bad person in some way? DO I look ugly? I ask these questions so much but hardly get an answer. I'm honestly hoping someone can come to me and give me a swift slap in the face and tell me i'm thinking crooked and that i shouldn't be bothered by it, but it happens so much, what can I do?