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It pays to be honest(some people need to read this)
13 years ago
Once, there was a time when...
I know the first thing that comes to someones mind when a person asks them if something they are doing is bothering them in some way that you don't want to hurt the other person so you don't tell them. Well you should tell them, sure it may hurt them but it's better than holding it in and letting things get worse.
By holding it in you're not only hurting yourself but eventually when the other person finds out not only is it going to hurt them but they also get to find out they were hurting you. Also if they don't know what they're doing wrong then they have the potential to hurt someone else who comes along the way.
So instead of letting things be as they are or not saying something when asked, be honest and let the person know so they can learn. People don't always know and can't read your mind when they're doing something wrong, just tell them and be there for them if they get upset and things will be much better in the long run.
It's stupid to hold it in and make things worse, you lose friends, your lose lovers, and it can take a toll on yourself. I've been through this with people many times and have hurt people because no one tells me I'm doing something wrong when I ask. I've lost people because I didn't understand why they were upset and kept getting angry or acting out and doing the wrong things trying to figure out what was wrong because someone wouldn't tell me. It's also caused me to be more cautious and worrisome around people which can make it hard to meet people or make friends.
If you've been through something like this with me, you know who you are, stop doing it and be honest when someone asks you if something they are doing is bothering you. That doesn't mean be a jerk or be too harsh, there are gentle ways to tell someone something.
Have patience with people so they can really learn the right way instead of the wrong way by hurting others.
By holding it in you're not only hurting yourself but eventually when the other person finds out not only is it going to hurt them but they also get to find out they were hurting you. Also if they don't know what they're doing wrong then they have the potential to hurt someone else who comes along the way.
So instead of letting things be as they are or not saying something when asked, be honest and let the person know so they can learn. People don't always know and can't read your mind when they're doing something wrong, just tell them and be there for them if they get upset and things will be much better in the long run.
It's stupid to hold it in and make things worse, you lose friends, your lose lovers, and it can take a toll on yourself. I've been through this with people many times and have hurt people because no one tells me I'm doing something wrong when I ask. I've lost people because I didn't understand why they were upset and kept getting angry or acting out and doing the wrong things trying to figure out what was wrong because someone wouldn't tell me. It's also caused me to be more cautious and worrisome around people which can make it hard to meet people or make friends.
If you've been through something like this with me, you know who you are, stop doing it and be honest when someone asks you if something they are doing is bothering you. That doesn't mean be a jerk or be too harsh, there are gentle ways to tell someone something.
Have patience with people so they can really learn the right way instead of the wrong way by hurting others.
