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12 years ago
1. I don't use voice or cam with people I don't consider extremely close to me so please don't expect me to use these features with you.
2. I rarely initiate conversations with people unless I have something I need/want to tell them so when you want to talk, you'll probably have to come to me. Please do not be offended if I do not come to you for conversation as it is NOTHING personal.
3. I hate awkward small talk, especially when it has no direction. Asking me direct questions to get to know me better is more than welcome but I hate it when people try to hold conversations that go something like this: "Soooo... how are you? That's good to hear. What's the weather like? Oh that's nice. Wow. I'm super bored... soooo what do you want to talk about?" I much prefer conversation with direction to it as I do not enjoy feeling like I am supposed to be entertaining you. Conversation should come naturally and if you find you have to force it, you should probably think about why you want to talk to me. If the answer is "because I am bored," please find something to do yourself instead of metaphorically putting me up on a pedestal and telling me to dance - I am not here to keep you busy. If the answer is "because you want to get to know me," ask me questions about things you want to know about me, even if they are silly things like what my favorite pizza topping is. I love answering/asking random questions to get to know people better! If you engage me in awkward small talk with no direction, chances are I will eventually stop responding to you because I have nothing to say so please be aware of this!
4. Please do not press your personal problems/drama on me. If we are talking about issues we are having and it is relevant to the conversation or if I ask about it, it's totally cool! But I really, really hate it when people I don't know very well suddenly decide to divulge everything that is going wrong with their life on me. Something like: "Hey how are you? Oh I'm totally awful because my roommate is an asshole and he stole my money and then lied about it and then I was walking home and my girlfriend broke up with me and I'm so lonely. I wish we could hang out" Saying things like "I had kind of a bad day" is completely fine and if I want to know more about your bad day, I will ask and then you can tell me... but please please pleeeaasse don't just dump it on me when I don't really know you all that well. If you need to vent, ask first before you just unload on me. Sometimes I'm having a bad day too and I want to talk about positive things instead!
5. If I do not respond immediately, I am probably not ignoring you. I am more than likely occupied with something else or didn't notice. Sometimes Skype fails to make the little sound to alert me of new messages and I am blissfully unaware until I tab over. Please do not take slow response times personally. I am a human being and as much as I would like to give my full attention to everyone all the time, I am physically incapable. This goes in conjunction with the next bit -
6. I use my Skype statuses to actively display my current mood/level of attention. These are further explained here
7. I tend to remove people from my friends list if I have not talked to you in several weeks or months. If this happens, please do not take this as "I don't like you." I simply like to keep my friends list pretty clean and pared down to those I do talk to regularly. If I kept EVERYONE who talked to me for a while and then stopped, I would barely be able to find the people I talk to on a regular basis. In most cases, if you find yourself suddenly removed from my friends list with no explanation, it doesn't mean I won't add you back if you want to continue talking again or that I hate you or that you did something wrong... it usually just means we haven't spoken in forever and I'm trying to keep my contacts list clean and easy to navigate!
8. Speak to me like an adult, not a child. I understand some of you enjoy RPing as baby furs but I am an adult trying to have an intelligent conversation with you. I know you don't speak like a baby fur at work and I'd like to hope you don't speak like a baby fur around your family and real life friends. If I was RPing with you, that would be a different situation and I would be completely OK with you embodying your fursona... but when I am trying to have a conversation with you as an adult and a real life individual out of character, I expect you to talk like an adult with me. If you speak like a child, I automatically am less interested in your point of view because I cannot take you seriously and I cannot take you as an educated individual when you say things like "pwease." I am not trying to say I am not okay with you being a baby fur or that I am not okay with you RPing as a baby fur... what I am trying to say is that if you want me to listen to you and respect your opinions and ideas as an individual in the real world, you should stop trying to portray yourself as a child around me when I know you are not one.
9. In conjunction with number eight, please please PLEASE do not use furry/brony related replacements for words around me unless you are intentionally using them to be humorous. Words like "pawsome," "furvert," "paw off," "anypony" etc. when used in a serious context irritate the hell out of me. We don't have to butcher every word to make it exclusively furry/pony related... most of the time it sounds absolutely retarded. I want to be spoken to like an intelligent human being, so I would appreciate if you would try not to use these words around me and stick to "normal English."
10. Please keep your RP emotes to a minimum. I am not a touchy, feely individual and do not like to RP in casual conversation I hate hate hate when people touch me or act intimate with me in RP/emotes. Stuff like -hugs you- and -pets you- and whatnot really bothers me. There are very few people who I feel comfortable enough with to allow such emotes but chances are, you are not one of those people. If I have emote hugged you, it's okay to emote hug me back. But this isn't an open invitation to crawl into my lap, scritch my back, pet me, etc. If you aren't sure whether or not I would be okay with it, ASK!! The worst that could happen is that I will say "Sorry, I'm not comfortable with that" and we can move on with our conversation. I won't look at you any differently and I won't be upset at you. In fact, I'll appreciate that you took the time to find out what my comfort zone was instead of just pushing my boundaries. That being said, I do not mind emotes that communicate simple emotions - things like "-facepalms-" or "-laughs-" as they can be used much like internet acronyms and emoticons (things like LOL or :]) and can clue me in on how you feel about something we are talking about.
I know this list is long and can seem a bit over the top but please bear in mind that I am sharing these things with you to avoid conflicts or miscommunications regarding talking with me via Skype by letting you know what my boundaries and expectations are. If you continually push these boundaries, chances are, I will remove you from my Skype as it will likely make me not want to talk with you. Thank you!
NOTE: This journal used to contain my Sakura Con review but I have repurposed it to be my Skype 'rules' as I did not wish for this to appear in current feeds. All hidden comments above my pink comment were related to that journal and have been hidden due to their irrelevance to the new content. Thanks guys!
No longer relevant as I've deactivated my Skype.
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Page note: This journal was repurposed from it's original posting as a Sakura Con Review. The above hidden comments were related to the review and were hidden because they are not relevant to the new content of this journal. Thanks guys!
