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The Nice Girl (tm)
12 years ago
Hey, if you haven't seen my friend 
sethtriggs new series "Shir Nice Whisperer" here on FA, GO read it. Especially if you're a Nice Guy ™. It's worth a good read with some deep truths.
I know I've complained in the past about Nice Guys ™, and often I get a defensive "Hey, women can be Nice Girls ™ too!" comment somewhere.
Yes, yes they can. I've had my ear talked off by enough of them.
To be honest, I haven't found a lot of difference between Nice Girls ™ and Nice Guys ™. They tend to sound exactly alike.
"Men only want sluts with big tits and no brains. My best friend is the most awesome guy in the world, and he ALWAYS gets burned! It makes me SO mad he gets treated this way! He just caught his latest gold digging bitch of a girlfriend cheating on him. Again. I told him he should dump her and find someone better for him...Hint hint. Did he take my advice? Noooo. Of course not! She batted her false eyelashes and apologized and now he wants her back. OH MY GOD, how stupid can you get? She does this every time, just like the last one he had. I want to rip her nasty ass extensions out for what she's been doing to him! Get this...he paid her cell phone bill because all the air in her head gets yakked out into the thing constantly. Of course she can't pay it herself 'cause she's a stupid ho who can't keep a job."
"*sigh* It kills me inside to see how women treat him. He's smart, funny, kind and so handsome. If he'd just start looking past the exterior and look for someone who actually cares for him that MAYBE doesn't fit his "ideal" in body, he'd be a lot happier. But what can you expect? He's a man. He leads with his dick and can't see that the REAL woman who would care for and treasure him has been by his side all this time."
Does this woman sound like good date material? Discuss in the comments and tell me what you think!
sethtriggs new series "Shir Nice Whisperer" here on FA, GO read it. Especially if you're a Nice Guy ™. It's worth a good read with some deep truths.I know I've complained in the past about Nice Guys ™, and often I get a defensive "Hey, women can be Nice Girls ™ too!" comment somewhere.
Yes, yes they can. I've had my ear talked off by enough of them.
To be honest, I haven't found a lot of difference between Nice Girls ™ and Nice Guys ™. They tend to sound exactly alike.
"Men only want sluts with big tits and no brains. My best friend is the most awesome guy in the world, and he ALWAYS gets burned! It makes me SO mad he gets treated this way! He just caught his latest gold digging bitch of a girlfriend cheating on him. Again. I told him he should dump her and find someone better for him...Hint hint. Did he take my advice? Noooo. Of course not! She batted her false eyelashes and apologized and now he wants her back. OH MY GOD, how stupid can you get? She does this every time, just like the last one he had. I want to rip her nasty ass extensions out for what she's been doing to him! Get this...he paid her cell phone bill because all the air in her head gets yakked out into the thing constantly. Of course she can't pay it herself 'cause she's a stupid ho who can't keep a job."
"*sigh* It kills me inside to see how women treat him. He's smart, funny, kind and so handsome. If he'd just start looking past the exterior and look for someone who actually cares for him that MAYBE doesn't fit his "ideal" in body, he'd be a lot happier. But what can you expect? He's a man. He leads with his dick and can't see that the REAL woman who would care for and treasure him has been by his side all this time."
Does this woman sound like good date material? Discuss in the comments and tell me what you think!
i will admit I've been guilty of that conversation...however, when i think back on it, I honestly don't think it was because I wanted the guy myself.
However, on a different note, I have been guilty on wondering why it is everything seemed to be based on looks. That if a guy was to be with me, it was only cause he was either settling until something better came along or just wanted something to wet his whistle for a while.
That had Some truth to it, but also my own self esteem issues. I don't know if I ever fell into the "nice girl" category, perhaps at one time I did. [Now i'm just awkward. Happy. but awkward ^_^]
After reading that conversation, I'd be kinda irked, drained and slightly annoyed. I would have to ask..."well..what do YOU have to offer? What is it You want? and what are you willing to give?" and so on.
And I'd almost be sure of the answers I'd get. Which would be superficial, and perhaps even said because "I'd want to hear that"
Nice guys and nice girls often do not realize the spiraling damage they are doing unto themselves. They see their deeds as good, so as such They are good. They don't actually think about the consequences, or the Reasons of these deeds. They just think that Because they did it, they should be Rewarded with the partner of their choice. We know it doesn't work that way.
Well that's all for now...My head is doing weird things. ^^like....Thinking >,<
First she talks about a women taking advantage of this guy she knows that is cheating on him. Then she goes on to talk about his own shortcomings in finding the right woman (A.K.A. me) in his life.
I can only think of one thing, she isn't any better then the woman already using him. That is, if this "Nice Girl" isn't simply lying through her teeth about the other girl or exaggerating the whole thing.
I don't know if that fits under the nice anything category. I think that fits under two face mooch.
Unfortunately, I feel the needs of people in distress and I can't help but to do what I can , when I can. This has been a problem through out my life.. I guess the two largest failures in my life were based on the Good Guy Mentality. In college I had a close friend who became suicidal, and ran away, drove across the USA to the tip of Florida someplace and drank 2 bottles of rat poison... She was distraught over her parents divorce. She survived and was placed in a facility for crazy people.. Her Parents would visit and tell her how horrible the other parent must have been to cause her to do this.. and it was making her worse... good Guy Me, helped her get out... and eventually married her.. but it didn't last.. she was thoroughly screwed up by that time.. very short marriage... Just a stupid thing you try when you are young I guess...
I am helping out my girlfriends family now too.. supporting her, her kid, her mother.. all on my tab.. it sucks, but I can't see throwing them out on the street...
It keeps me broke.. but not homeless... In hindsight, it seems that the women I have dated generally fit into the hopelessly broke or broken category..
It my age.. I guess I will just have to settle for that..
Oh well, Good story Seth! I love it. can't wait for the next chapter...
=^.^=
Nothing wrong with being a helpful and a good person, being there for folks in dire need. Sometimes it's super-duper hard to manage to include yourself into that too, though. *hugs*
You've brought up an important point, and I want you to know that I am ABSOLUTELY not directing the next few paragraphs at you. Your words just made me think, and my brain (like it does) wandered off onto a tangent. :)
For you, I wish you only the best for you and your loved ones. *hugs*
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One thing I notice about Nice Guys/Girls ™ is they often use the Battered Woman, Sapped Sugar Daddy examples. If they can JUST "rescue" these gals/guys from their abusive partners, then they will magically realize the Nice Guy/Girl ™ is The One ™, fall in love, and they will live happily ever after.
It's called White Knight Syndrome. That's not how real life works. That's only how MOVIES work.
And that right there is the chronic problem of why nobody wants to date Nice Guys/Girls ™. They do not understand how people or relationships really work, and are going off movie knowledge of what is "supposed" to happen. If they can JUST get the right combo going in this relationship puzzle like figuring out a Rubic's cube, they'll get what they want.
It's really super-unattractive and makes it clear you're not good partnership material. You might be great friend material, but you ain't got it yet.
Just to say.
Also, I don't believe in friend zone 100%. Nice Guys often lean over girls that listen to them, then when they won't chose them, they become 'that bitch that used me for years'. This can be read with inverted genders, obviously :3
Wow. How incredibly attractive. I can't imagine why you didn't fall all over him.
You're absolutely right, Nice Folk ™ really aren't very nice once you get down underneath the nice gestures. They're selfish and arrogant, as well as very immature.
I've always hated the term "Friend Zone." It just spits on the value of friendship. It makes you a fake. It makes it clear you don't understand or care about the people in your life because they aren't doing exactly what YOU want.
"She wouldn't go out with me. She stuck me in the Friend Zone!"
It pretty much automatically assumes that we're stupid, blind, or just a bitch because we weren't meshing romantically. Gee, thanks, "Friend."
Yeah, it hurts when the one you're interested in rejects you. It hurts like crazy and it's VERY humiliating. But REAL adults go "Well, shit. This really hurts, but it's not the end of the world." They don't keep seething at their friends for not doing what they think they should. They don't blame them. They don't belittle them. They don't keep passively-aggressively trying for them.
They move on. That distinguishes a Nice Guy/Girl ™ from a genuinely nice guy or girl.
threes are rare ...
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