I've gotten asked the question a lot as well. Yes. I'm a bit chubby IRL, but do I want to get bigger/stay big? Not really.

Well yeah, that's fine, I'm fine with all shapes and sizes. Despite the lack of understanding of what it's like. I do know the risks. I'm a pretty active person some times, I want to keep in shape.

:<

some people are just stupid.

They can be. It just disappoints me that I have to hear this from some people some I'll be removing contact with if it keeps happening.

hopefully that's not me. ;3

i know gaining isn't for everyone, but hey, we still have fat furs and OTHER THINGS to talk about :3



that and i can eat your food if you ever want to lose weight x3

Well there is no weight to loose. XD and of course, I would still love talking about the furry side of it all. We all still have the same interests, just different intentions.

And no, you don't count in that, you have never even mentioned it to me. ^v^

i probably would have asked it out of curiosity if we ever talked at length over IMs, but now that i know, i dont need to ask. :3

I'm sure I mentioned something over twitter to you once.. Other then that, I should add you on something! <:

As someone with a very real weight problem and a great deal of the health problems that come with it, it sickens me that people are trying to talk you into inflicted it on yourself. They should really take a good hard look at their lives.

Well its just a fetish I'm not dedicated enough to want to do this. I want to live a long life.

It's good furries have so many likes and dislikes about the fandom but it's pretty bad if you're getting harressed and there's nothing wrong in liking the plus-sized furs but not be one yourself or into that sort of thing irl.

Well yeah, as I said to braaks comment, I'm not dedicated to to affect my health for a fetish.

Yeah, for me it doesn't have the same appeal IRL as it does in fantasy, too; and it sucks that folks are being pigheaded about it =(

I'd like to see a change in people's attitudes about this. It's a fandom, not a club. :/

The thought has crossed my mind a few times, and I did actually attempt it once or twice, but I decided I like having a body I can still play DDR with, haha.

Well yeah, though for me, it's the negatives over passing the positives sides of it all.

im in the same boat. I like fat furs but irl its just not my thing.

Well yeah. <:

I dunno, it seems like a reasonable thing to want. There's nothing wrong with being thin and liking fat things in my eyes. People who just shove that stuff into your face like that though... Not good.

Well yeah, it's just the cons overtaking the pro's of the interest. I still love fat furs and that's the interest we all have here. It doesn't mater if I'm big in person or not. I should just avoid answering that question.

Body acceptance works both ways- you are fine with people gaining and people should be fine with your choices for your body. You do what'cha want magpie and don't let anyone discourage you ^ ^

Well thanks, yes I am perfectly fine with what they do about themselves, not really a favourite topic and all. I so not let it get to me, but some people make it really hard to not get annoyed about it. If any topic involves fat I rather just fat furs. :)

Totally understandable :3

I never understood people pushing others like that. I mean... I love fat. I love being fat. And I love making myself and my partner fatter and fatter still. But I also realize that it's not for everyone. I see no need to push that choice on anyone else. I mean, what purpose would that even serve?

Serve's no purpose. No one see's me in person, it doesn't benefit them in anyway if I'm fat or not. if it was a topic to talk about, I'd rather it just be the furry side of it all. The magpie can get as big as anyone want's, not me in person.

i agree as well. i dont want to be fat IRL just cause i find it nice on furs. but you got harassed by it though?!....seriously what the hell is wrong with some of this fandom geeze.

The fandom has a lot of idiots. Not giving out names though.

Durf... Yea, that's one really annoying thing about having a fat fetish :I I've all been in the same boat as you. I'd just bring up that you don't want to go trough the health problems xD and that you would rather spend your money on stuff that's worth while instead of massive amounts of food.

Well exactly, it also takes a toll on your life span. I really would like to make it past 80. the cons out do the pro's to me, socially & physically.

well its cool, really be a huge ammount of guys that likes, draws or see fatfurs here, and all of they be skinny in rl, even the ones that make fame of being "the biggest" are skinny guys in rl.

I really think people should understand many people have diferences between what they draw and how they are in rl, like dont expect a guy super tall and super fat in rl be the same guy that draws huge fatsos.

If you dont want be a gainer, its cool, be easy to understand, and really people dont should annoing you for that.

thats why i dont like know people weight in rl almosth have a lot of time knowing they or confidence with they.

Mhm, it's the furry fandom, It means we all like the same thing and we share our interest's with each other. not many know me in person, so either I'm fat or fin, it's none of their concern. :)

i surpriced see be of the few guys in your journal that want be a gainer in rl, XD thats cool, hope to another guys that want or be fattys in rl see this journal and understand not ever fatfur be an inmediatly gainer too.

really people dont should make you so much drama about this, i mean, like you say we are furry, since the begging we are or choice things that cant be in rl or dont wanna, as meet very tall guys wich they fursonas be micros, and i many furrys of the skinny circle be actually very fatty guys. Or girls that draw awezom guys or gay comics.

I really hope the guys that annoing you with it read this journal.

Most have, some people I will be avoiding from now on. I will be updating my profile info soon to tell people I am not interested in gaining.

No I hate that too. If they want to do it then that's their thing but I don't see why everyone else should. Besides being obese in real life isn't as fun. I'd really not like to have health conditions and die at a younger age.

That is true.I also like my skinny's as much as the that side of thing. It's all preference's. Besides, what benefits is it to them if I'm fat or not? I should just avoid responding to that question.

Yeah it should just be a "why do you care?" It's not like they're ever gonna see you.

Well obviously they will reply about it as their interest. But I will keep quiet about it over IM's.

Yeah exactly. But no still it's really rude of people to try and force that upon you. As "accepting" as furries are (or at least that's the word that keeps getting slinged around) that's not really the case. I haven't been asked that as much as you (really only once) but I've been asked other things that I really don't want to disclose and people have gotten mad at me for it.

As everyone else has said, it's a bit inappropriate for people to be encouraging you to gain weight while you've already said you're not interested on several different occasions. It's like picking up smoking or heavy drinking, it cuts your lifespan short. I certainly wouldn't recommend it to a vast majority of people.

That being said...

I myself am a gainer and I can certainly say that a decent number of people in the gainer community view it in unrealistic ways and take it to the extreme. Not only that, but I've experienced this sort of harassment myself. Although I've said yes to the question above about whether or not I'm interested in growing bigger, as soon as I've revealed my interest to other gainers, they've tried convincing me to gain more weight than what I'm comfortable with gaining. It's rather irritating and I hope these people learn to quit before further conflict comes their way.

Regardless, I hope they leave you alone. If not, just go ahead and remove them and/or block them from contacts.

Hopefully they will understand how I feel about it all after seeing this journal. I will remove anyone who harass me about this from now on. I don't need it. I would like to live a long healthy life. I'm not dedicated enough to cut it short for my interest/fetish. >v<

It's crazy that people would try to force this on you, or at least harass you about it. *Shakes head* Some people.

For myself, I am a gainer. I've gotten pretty big too, right now I'm around 570lbs. Based on the responses that would seem to make me somewhat of an oddity on FurAffinity (but then again, I'm not really a furry anyway. I signed up here because there are lots of prolific weight gain artists).

But I'm definitely of the inclination that everyone has their own thing, and gaining definitely isn't for everyone. The health concerns are an extremely valid point, and yes gaining can be done healthily. It's just very difficult and requires a certain degree of dedication on the part of the gainer to make sure they exercise every day, or at least as often as possible, and eat healthy most of the time. As I do, or try to do.

Wow that's big! :> Well that is certainly right. As I have mentioned a few times, I'm not dedicated enough to this interest/fetish to do this to myself, I've got a busy lifestyle, I don't have time to do it healthily. The cons overtake the pro's physically and socially so it's the reason I don't do it.

Danke, I'm proud of it! And, yea, you gotta do what's good for you.

I know I didn't really try pushing you into gaining. I just asked the question while the topic was in the chat was all. So.. I hope I'm not being this pet peeve. ^^;

I will admit you did push it a little. It's not really a topic I like to talk about. My magpie can weigh whatever! But that does not apply to me in real life.

|3 rei.... so this was you?

what we talked about once rei? |3 bad kitty/bird

I didn't really push it though. Just asked if he did and then why he didn't was all. ^^;

|3... bad kitty/bird *spray you with water*

But I didn't do anything.. ^^;

Oh, don't blame him, he only talked about it. <:

I'm the same with you. I like it on anthros but in real life I don't really much care for it and I'm quite thin in person.