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Anti-Social an excuse?
12 years ago
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I hate to dwell on problems I've gone through yesterday, but sense this morning, this has still been on my mind.
I've always told people I'm anti-social. It's a warning I give to everyone before they ever add me to skype. I'm not very talkative . . .
. . . so is it really rude, If I don't give most people as much of my attention as I give others?
The truth is, I would like to be more sociable. I would like to hold a conversation with people, but most of the time I can't really do that. I can only talk about things I'm passionate about and that I like. I don't talk about EVERYTHING I do because I'm just not the type to open up to strangers so easily.
I can only do this with so many people. So if someone wants me to give them more attention and wishes to hold longer conversations with me, am I wrong for refusing?
Some people will drop me a "hi", then ask me about my day. Most of the time, I don't have a lot to say. What can I say, exactly? It seems most people demand I have more to say. That I talk to them often.
It's very true, I have a lot of people on my skype. I seldom talk to most of those people unless I feel like it. I never ask anything of others. I never ask them to talk to me. They don't have to talk to me, and I want to respect their personal space. But, is it rude if I'm not making longer conversation with them?
I'm depressed because one person demanded I have their attention. They treated my explanations for why I don't give them attention as excuses and they said that skype is flexible. I wasn't willing to give them atleast a post every 15-20 minutes.
I tried to make them understand this is asking to much of me. Sure, I'm not always busy, I'm looking at articles, I surf the net, I'm always on the pc, but I don't do a lot of anything. Is it not enough that I'm just not that talkative?
I don't understand at all, what I did wrong. What am I doing wrong?
The truth is, I hand out my skype so I can try to talk to people. It's really tough for me, sometimes. Not everyone will have in common and not everyone will click with me. Other times, I'm just afraid to talk, I get a little nervous. I don't know what to talk about. Even when you try to adapt to my interests (you shouldn't) it's not like that will give way to conversation.
I have intervals of passion. I'm not optimistic and passionate all the time. I'm manic depressive. I use to talk to people a lot, but I was always negative, always critical and always pessimistic, so I been trying to be more positive. This is tough for me because I've never tried to force being happy. I just never have anything to respond to.
Why am I still on this? Because I thought this person was really cool, and I tried to be nice and friendly, but they took it as me stonewalling because I wasn't ready to have a conversation with them.
Can't everyone understand how tough it is for me to be sociable? It's stuff like this, situations like this, why I'm anti-social.
I've always told people I'm anti-social. It's a warning I give to everyone before they ever add me to skype. I'm not very talkative . . .
. . . so is it really rude, If I don't give most people as much of my attention as I give others?
The truth is, I would like to be more sociable. I would like to hold a conversation with people, but most of the time I can't really do that. I can only talk about things I'm passionate about and that I like. I don't talk about EVERYTHING I do because I'm just not the type to open up to strangers so easily.
I can only do this with so many people. So if someone wants me to give them more attention and wishes to hold longer conversations with me, am I wrong for refusing?
Some people will drop me a "hi", then ask me about my day. Most of the time, I don't have a lot to say. What can I say, exactly? It seems most people demand I have more to say. That I talk to them often.
It's very true, I have a lot of people on my skype. I seldom talk to most of those people unless I feel like it. I never ask anything of others. I never ask them to talk to me. They don't have to talk to me, and I want to respect their personal space. But, is it rude if I'm not making longer conversation with them?
I'm depressed because one person demanded I have their attention. They treated my explanations for why I don't give them attention as excuses and they said that skype is flexible. I wasn't willing to give them atleast a post every 15-20 minutes.
I tried to make them understand this is asking to much of me. Sure, I'm not always busy, I'm looking at articles, I surf the net, I'm always on the pc, but I don't do a lot of anything. Is it not enough that I'm just not that talkative?
I don't understand at all, what I did wrong. What am I doing wrong?
The truth is, I hand out my skype so I can try to talk to people. It's really tough for me, sometimes. Not everyone will have in common and not everyone will click with me. Other times, I'm just afraid to talk, I get a little nervous. I don't know what to talk about. Even when you try to adapt to my interests (you shouldn't) it's not like that will give way to conversation.
I have intervals of passion. I'm not optimistic and passionate all the time. I'm manic depressive. I use to talk to people a lot, but I was always negative, always critical and always pessimistic, so I been trying to be more positive. This is tough for me because I've never tried to force being happy. I just never have anything to respond to.
Why am I still on this? Because I thought this person was really cool, and I tried to be nice and friendly, but they took it as me stonewalling because I wasn't ready to have a conversation with them.
Can't everyone understand how tough it is for me to be sociable? It's stuff like this, situations like this, why I'm anti-social.
You are doing your own thing, and picking on you for not talking as often without establishing a connection in the first place is dumb.
I will also say that you are not at fault for being blamed for "not giving enough attention" to a person. The person who says you're being rude for not giving them enough attention should be slapped, especially if you tell them you don't feel like talking. Also, if you feel you're not very social I think it would be better if you didn't hand out your Skype or other IM's unless you feel you really click with someone or you feel confident enough to be able to add random people.
You need to sort your own feelings and find a way to overcome them. Manic-depressive/bi-polar disorder is a serious thing. Having recently recovered from drastic anxiety and depression and gone through a couple medical/recovery facilities, I've seen what its done to people =3=;